How do you find love again?

[Annadm]

Hello friends,

This has been running through my mind for awhile now.

My boyfriend of 7 years left me last October when I was diagnosed with MBC (liver). From one week to the next he said he didn’t love me anymore and that he couldn’t handle dealing with my cancer. I’m still devastated but I need my strength and positivity to fight the cancer not him.

My question..... who can I possibly meet that will accept my MBC and all that comes with it? I don’t want to be alone , let alone die alone. I need that consolation,affection and sense of caring and ultimately love. But let’s get real......

Thanks breasties 💕

[MyMiracle13]

With all the restrictions due to the pandemic, your best bet would be dating sites. Just be wary though that whoever responds is not just stringing you along.

[SeattleMom]

Makes me so sad to read this, Anna. I was divorced 10 years ago but have maintained a warm and caring friendship with my former spouse. When I was diagnosed with MBC over three years ago, I had already adjusted to my single life and the occasional feelings of loneliness. When my mother died a year and a half ago, the loneliness became much more pronounced. I truly believe that my diagnosis has been instrumental in my personal decision not to seek companionship. It’s so difficult to not view that as becoming a shared burden. Just another ramification of life with metastatic cancer for those without husbands or life partners. I’m so sorry that I can’t offer a more uplifting response

😢😢💗💗🙏🏻🙏🏻

[Kaydub]

So sorry you’ve had to go thought this alone, with the pandemic making it worse. Your old boyfriend sounds like a bit of a jerk. You will find someone.

Don’t think of your MBC as a burden because you’ll project that to others - it’s just another part of you, and we all have ugly parts. The right partner for you will view it the same way.

More practically, online is probably the way to go during these times. Be careful though - the stories I hear from my single girlfriend about the shady guys she’s met! Fake doctors, guy with the stripper pole in the living room, married men stepping out, you could write a book. Sorry hope that’s not discouraging - just want to emphasize being careful.

[Annadm in reply to Kaydub]

Thank you 😊

[jersey-jazz]

My heart goes out to you. The loneliness is possibly impacting you emotionally, more than the cancer, just now. Please try to think of our MBC as a chronic disease rather than a death sentance as you continue to seek companionship and closeness with a partner.