Post Masectomy

[strong1t]

Post Masectomy:

Dear Positive Ladies,

Just touching base to say thank for your posts each day.

As for me, I am still unable to see light at the end of the tunnel.

I am not posting regularly, because I think I am ungrateful. I just feel so scared: no Job, no money and unemployable. Maybe I am His stepdaughter and as a result I am forgotten. Guess I am just tired.

You don't need negativity, you all have soo much to deal with.

Sorry, just needed to vent.

Never mind me, ladies, you are the best

Love and Blessings always.x

[LaliChicago]

Strong1t,

We are in this together so always feel free to vent!

We all get down because of diagnosis and procedures and pills and scans and fatigue and financial hardships. BUT, through it all, we are all children (not stepchildren) of God, not forgotten. We are made in His image and fiercely loved by Him. Take solace in this truth today!

Laura

[strong1t in reply to LaliChicago]

Dear LaliChicago,

Thanks for your kind words. I am pleased to know I have s place of solace when needed.

Thanks again,

With love

Tara

[hdhonda]

Dear Strong1T,

Thank you for letting us know how you feel. Please let your doctor or local health department help you. There are medications that can help you. Many stage 4 cancer patients are on something. You need someone close by to hold your hand and help you find the help you need. Too many things are piling up at once. I am sending lots of hugs and prayers your way. Blessings, Hannah

[strong1t in reply to hdhonda]

Dear hdhonda,

Thank you for taking time to reply to me.

I am ever so grateful to part of this group and receive support.

I will get in touch with my GP for a referral to receive treatment for my mental well being,

Once again thank you for your kind words and support,

Love always

Tara

[Hidden]

Strong1t,

Please never hesitate to post and vent, we are here to support you.

I'm so sorry for everything you're going through...this disease is bad enough but then to have employment issues, etc., piled on top would be too much for anyone.

One thing sticks out for me in your post...You saying that you're "ungrateful".

I'm generally on board with the platitude about being grateful for what we've got, the good things in life, etc. And most people with, like, ordinary issues should of course do this (to prevent whining about small things e.g....). But sometimes the bad does outweigh the good and all that talk about gratitude is trite BS!!

If I were you, I would feel free to feel angry and upset about what life has thrown your way right now. Better days will come, I'm sure, but in the meantime, I'd not add any guilt about not being adequately grateful to the burdens you're already carrying!

Just my two cents... Sending love, and hoping those better days come sooner than later...

Lynn

[strong1t in reply to Hidden]

Hello LynnFish,

Once again thank you for your kind words and support.

I feel a lot better for actually seeing my words expressing my feelings. I suppose this is part of my healing process.

As to my employment, I have decided (after venting yesterday) to challenge their decision to delete my role when the duties are still needed.

I will let you know how that goes, I am asking fr the strength to carry on.

I will get help with my mental issues,

Once again thanks for being there,

With Love always

Tara x

[Hidden]

Hi,

Don't feel bad about sharing how you feel and for venting. This is the right place to do it. You have a lot going on right now on top of the disease (as if that isn't bad enough). We can't be expected to be upbeat and positive all the time. Is there anything you can do about changing your circumstances? Are you old enough to take early retirement? Or maybe you can look into setting up your own business. I hope you have caring friends and family close by to help support you. I would also look into getting some professional help if you feel that you need it.

Take care,

Sophie

[strong1t in reply to Hidden]

Dear SophSP,

Thanks for taking the time to reply to my email.

SophieSP, I am 60+ but not financially able to retire as I did not join the pension scheme until my 3 children were finished with their education. I am a single mum. Marriage did not work out.

I have though of my own business but unable to think positive right now. I am asking for help for my mental well being.

Thanks again for taking time out to reply and give me hope for the future.

Warmest wishes,

Tara x

[Hidden in reply to strong1t]

Hi Tara,

You're welcome.

As retirement is not an option right now I would recommend getting back into work if you can. I have continued working (I run my own pet sitting and dog walking business) and I can honestly say it's one of the best things I have done. I thought about closing my business after I was diagnosed as I didn't see the point in carrying on, but my oncologist encouraged me to keep working and I am thankful to her for that advice. It helps me feel normal and I have been able to get on with life, so that cancer doesn't consume too much of my time.

Is there something you can think of that you could do from home? How about arts and crafts, ironing, repairs, gardening, hair, beauty, jewellery making, pet sitting/dog walking, housekeeping (if you feel up to it) or can you look outside the home for work if you don't want to be self-employed? There is so much you can do if you put your mind to it. Working can really help improve your mental wellbeing. The thing with this disease is that it can take away so much from us. But we can reclaim a lot of things if we work at it. So for me, working is one way I feel in control of my life. It gives my day structure, routine and purpose. I don't feel like "Sophie the cancer patient" (except when I am attending appointments). I am so much more than that.

Feel free to vent any time you need someone to talk to. I am here if you want to private message me.

Take care,

Sophie

[Lilykristymichael]

Dear Strong:

I am so sorry you are so sad. Just remember that God has said, “I will never leave you or forsake you.” Cling to those words.—Madlyn

[Rhwright12]

Praying for better days ahead...and u are employable! I’ve been hired 2 times since diagnosis in professional jobs....it looks bleak now but the light is there and u will find it...😀🙏🏻💕

[mariootsi]

We are always here for each other. Always post what is on your mind!

[Francesca10]

Dear Tara

The feelings and thoughts you have are normal for us on this journey. It is almost impossible to think straight when we are weighed down by depression/anxiety. Give yourself time to adjust and in the interim you can look to find someone for your mental health.

We are all here for you. Let us know

How you are doing.🙏🏻😘😘🙏🏻😘