As the title says which category would you put yourself into. Are you happy with what you are or would you switch if was possible?
It will interesting to hear from both sides as I'm sure it will show most of us have insecurities no matter which side we are on.
I'm a grower and would definitely swap. I'd like to be more secure and confident.
Shower. Nice to have a bulge!
I definitely agree as I love to have that bulge too but would you change it to a grower if you had the choice?
I'd have to place myself in the shower category and I would probably swap to the grower side of things. Would be nice to have that extra bit when it's hard and ready to go. I can definitely see both sides positives and negatives.
Definitely a grower.
Would you swap to a shower if you could or do you prefer being a grower?
definitely a grower would I change if I could ?. There my insecurities too old for change now
I don't think we are ever too old for change especially if something we are insecure about. Unfortunately we are our own worst critics and we all have something that someone else would love to have. I'd bet even as a grower you show more than you think just like all of us in the opposite category. Thank you for sharing
End of the day it’s my partner’s opinion that matters aroused she seems to enjoy my size
That is a fact! She has the only vote that matters!
Hmm. I'm happy with how much it shows before it grows, Mrs Omniscient also 
She has the only vote that matters! Happy to hear that both of you love what you have.
And as a shower I only grow about 3/4 of an inch between soft and hard in length. Most of my growth is in girth, just to put in perspective to the growers.
Curious to see how much change a grower would see if anyone would be willing to share.
Wish I had ur confidence too show. But as a grower I never have
I think you're too hard on yourself. I'd bet you have one to be proud of in both states but we as males are too judgmental on ourselves.
And my confidence is anything but steady. Some days I have it and some days I don't have the slightest shred of it.
Yep times when it can affect you both mentally n physically
Isn't that the truth! Crazy how it works! The good days can be great and the bad days can be absolutely horrible.
As a grower I actually have a big difference when soft vs hard
Yep I would imagine. As a shower I don't have that much of a change between soft and hard in length
I’d say it’s worse for us growers. Some days as small as an inch others 2-3 and erect under 5
I can see your point but at the end of the day the only size that matters is the one your using to please her. And sounds like she really enjoys it. The shower like me is just that...more for show and not for grow.
I'm happy to be a grower. When it's not in action, it's reduced in size and not a nuisance or an inconvenience when in motion.While a slight bulge is ok in shorts etc anything more pronounced could be embarrassing and attract unwanted attention!
It must be really annoying folding away your bits as a shower when running or doing sport, not to mention finding comfortable pants.And let's face it 99% of the our time we are not aroused so reduced in size is convenient.
Plus as growers we get a front row seat to witness the miracle of human bio-hydraulics...from soft to hard can be quite a transformation for a grower!
There are benefits and drawbacks for both so best to be philosophical and accept what we are and enjoy the pluses.
As a shower I completely agree with you! Seeing that dramatic of a transformation has to be a great experience. There are benefits to both sides mentally and physically. Thank you for sharing!
definitely a grower here, happy with what I got though. I like to think that being a grower is probably more comfortable than being a shower when it comes to day to day life.
All that matters is your happy with what you have. There is positives and negatives to both sides but being able to have a bigger transformation when it's needed is definitely a plus and I'm envious for sure
Grower. Wouldn't mind a switch. But when it grows it's good
Would be cool to be able to swap just to see what it's like. I'd love to be a grower for a day. But as long as your happy with it is all that matters! Thanks for sharing
In all honesty it seems to depend on the day. Not sure why.
Same here as well. If it's cold I suddenly become not a shower anymore haha
Being able to give her an orgasm and keep her happy is all that matters. As a shower I do agree that it's most valuable state is when it has a purpose and that is being hard. Thanks for sharing
The only satisfying thing I get of being a shower which can be done as a grower too is getting a blow job beginning when soft. Something about that has always been a huge turn on for me and maybe more people as well. But after a little bit it's back to its most valuable state as said above. Kinda digressed and sorry if TMI but figured I'd give the strongest positive to me personally being a shower, and not trying to impress anyone in the locker room.
Unfortunately it's nuts how much low T can affect us physically and mentally. Glad it's back to working order and sounds like it has been working overtime lol. Congrats on losing the weight too!
Happy to hear your back to normal. Sorry you had to go through that as I'm sure that was tough to deal with
after years of being convinced by my ex I had a micro penis... I now know that I do not have a micro penis.... I am definitely a grower and love it... would I like to look like I'm packing more when not hard? Of course but I wouldn't change it
Bit late to the party, but I'm a grower. 3.5 ins soft then 6.5 to 7 erect, depending on the weather haha.Sometimes think I would like to have more to show soft, especially on the nudist beach, but I've got what I've got and it works that's the main thing
That's a great size. The weather can be our friend and sometimes not at all lol. Thanks for sharing
Thanks. I'm happy with what I've got now. When I was younger thought a bit more would be better, but I had a friend who was huge and he sometimes found it to be a handicap
I think we all have wished we were bigger lol. I think either extreme have their advantages or disadvantages big or small. As long as we are happy with what we have is what is important.
You're right, my man. Stuff like that is not so important as you age and there's always someone who appreciates you as you are
Yes although I look a bit chubbier in the warmth of the Med
I just noticed this topic and have to say I’m a grower. Depending on weather conditions and blood pressure it’s been as small as an innie (so maybe a negative inch?) during a cold, rainy marathon potty break to maybe 4” flaccid but it grows to a comfortable “nearly” 7” and about an extra half inch when I’m really excited. One thing I realized in the past couple of years is a wonderful side effect of being on a double dose (8 mg) of Flomax apparently turns me into a show-er, so yeah, definitely not shy about taking a shower at the gym anymore. So while I was envious at times at least I get to experience it both ways. 😜
I agree with you about Flomax/tamsulosin - I’m a shower since I started taking this medication. Very happy with this side effect!
That's a great size and seems like you have best of both worlds. Also not being shy in locker room is a huge plus!
I'm definitely a grower. I'm around 3 inches soft and grow to 6.5 inches when erect. I'm happy with being a grower as far as fitting into underwear goes. I don't think I'd want to walk around with a big package in my pants simply for reasons of comfort.
That's a good size and nothing wrong with that at all! Only time being a shower helps in underwear is a thong, outside that it's just show for me. They both have their positives and negatives.
Thanks for your comment. Yes everything you say is true. There are positives and negatives to both.
I think a thong always improves the outline, shower or grower!
Yes, a thong can indeed improve the shape of things!
I wanted to start a thread about just this. I think if more guys tried them they would appreciate them. Took me years and years to ever try one and wish I did a long time ago
To be honest I don't own any. I just wear briefs and micro briefs. All this talk about thongs is getting me horny now! Lol!
I don't think I have any micro briefs but have some really short briefs. Get some thongs you'll enjoy them. I'm not an expert by any means on them but just have cheap Amazon ones and they fit and feel great
Thanks for your advice. I might just do that!
You'll enjoy them and so many to pick from... from see through to string to covered.
It sure does! Never thought I'd enjoy them but I do now.
Went from not owning any to owning a bunch and different styles. One pretty much just holds shaft down and covers nothing lol
Always fit perfectly
I find Amazon ones very variable in fit and quality.
Good to hear. Thanks! I'll have to check them out
Interesting question... I would have to put myself in the shower category. Nothing really impressive but I don't grow a lot. But not sure how I would categorize my balls as they are tiny now. I would swap balls for sure lol
I'm a grower, I think there are some cases were being a shower has benefits. It would be it would be nice to name some benefits of being a grower. I can just think of it fitting underwear easier without awkwardness or taking up space.
For shower benefits coming from perspective of a grower: you can more easily do penis molds to make custom dildos. Sure you need to be hard for best results, but as a shower at least your size is already there to begin, as a grower you have to make sure your size is right for the peak dildo size you want that matches you. It's also easier to measure, photograph, or do anything where you need the full erect size when you're a shower since you don't have to necessarily be erect. As a grower, you have to grow to the size before you can measure, etc. and during that time period, if you're like me it can quickly shrink at time while attempting to measure, etc. and then you have to repeat to get it right.
I could be mistaken, but it might also take more work to masturbate a grower when it's in the shrunken state.
As another grower, I like a bit of room in my underwear and don't like things getting squashed. I've got a mate who's a shower and he's always complaining about finding underwear with space for his equipment. You're right about staying erect too . Probably because I'm getting older now, by the time I've faffed around with the phone and the selfie stick, the full size has gone.Pluses and minuses to both I'd say, but we should just be grateful for what we've got
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