Aggressive and demanding behaviour.

[dorothy-thompson]

I do not know how much longer I can cope with my husband, has anyone got any helpful and constructive ideas please?

dorothy-thompson

[judecw]

my mother went through a phase of very aggressive and difficult behaviour - she became quite physically aggressive too. But it was a phase - after a while, it simply went. I have to say that this was as the disease became ever worse and she was more lethargic and without response - but at least this very upsetting behaviour utterly out of character went. I think I would say, looking back, that the aggressive phase last about 6 to 8 months, but I am sure everyone is different.

[helnf]

could he have lyme disease?

[Jeff in reply to helnf]

Some people have made this leap but lyme has a visible rash and wicked head aches.

[PSPA_JillL]

I am so sorry to hear you are finding life so tough, when caring for a family member it is quite different and difficult to cope with as the caring role gradually increases. It is really important that you have a break from caring so that you can continue to cope. This may be in various forms, a sitting sercice by crossroads or a weeks respite break. It is really important that you see your social worker and request a carers assessment, if you do not have a social worker then you need to request one, talk to your PSP nurse if you need more information. The agression is often related to the frustration caused by the illness, and the demanding behaviour caused by the brain changes causing impulsiveness, this is not intentional but part of the PSP. It would be useful for you to talk to others who are caring do you attend a support group? Understanding that it is all part of the PSP helps you to cope. Try to remain calm even if this is not what you are feeling and make sure youhave a break from caring.

[maryelezibeth]

Hi Dorothy It is very hard my husband went the same for a while you have to tell yourself it is the illness not him it does pass and now all he can do is smile all the anger is gone take care M

[Lorri-2]

Hi Dorothy

My husband went through this phase too, waking me up to 5 times a night, and is now taking antidepressants that have helped. I contacted the Admiral Nurse for our area who kindly came to the house for a visit although she said that the service was mainly for people with dementia. She gave me a lot of information on coping stratagies and made an appointment for me to visit my GP that evening as I was at my wits end with lack of sleep etc. and not knowing what I could do. Perhaps you could speak to your GP to see if there is anything that might help.

All the best

Lorraine

[Jeff]

Hi Dorothy,

Like everyone said, it is a phase. Jeff had spurts of nastiness earlier on and then mellowed out and then had a couple of months of beligerence. Now, he is so quiet, submissive and non reactive,I would rather have the yelling and abuse back! I miss his ability to carry conversations.

[jillannf6]

hi dorothy

i have psp and my partner says i am v aggressiv eand demandign and givenothing back ( he did nto know m4 nb 4 the psp so it si dfficultlt forme to be objective_)

i knwo it si so difficylt for anyone 2 deal iwth

but your hushand needs you and will continue ot do so

so try to keep smiling for his/ yours .//an all our sakes

love jill

[dorothy-thompson]

Thank you for all your contributions, as always, it does help.

dorothy-thompson