hello everyone please has anyone noticed a difference in their loved ones behaviour as my relation has become fixated on1 of his carers

[pollyannajo]

he believes they are in a relationship-it is so embarrassing .she is 19 and he 64.He has had PSP for 3 years and is in a home now.

[peterjones]

hi polyannajo what a lucky bloke he is thats not bad for an older fellow 64 and 19 why is it embarasing for you unless of course he is married then it would be more than an embarrasment for hes wife or the carer who probably knows nothing about this at all \\ no mate im sorry to make light of this but it will probably all blow over very soon so i should not worry to much especially if he is a relation of yours miss pollyannjo i have dreams of my own but my wife soon brings me down to earth with a crash so take care pollyannjo i should think he has enough to worry about with psp peter jones queensland australia \ psp sufferer

[pollyannajo in reply to peterjones]

hello peter thank

you for that you are right of course I did not look at this from that angle. You have made a good point and yes he is single and obviously still has his dreams too. Take care pollyannajo

[NannaB in reply to pollyannajo]

Hi Pollyanna, My dad is 96, doesn't have PSP but thinks he is God's gift to young women. He flirts with his female carers and was visibly annoyed when a male carer turned up one day. He was married for over 60 years before my mum died and he never appeared to have any interest in anyone else before. When I was younger I used to work in a home for retired missionaries and there were a couple of very elderly men who became very "frisky" when undergoing personal care so don't worry. He can't do any harm, the carers will be used to all sorts of behaviour and he seems very happy. I get embarrassed if I hear him flirting with his carers but they seem to cope with him.

Take care.

Nanna B

[cabbagecottage in reply to NannaB]

No matter what I sad I couldn't get my mum to believe I wasn't having an affair with one of the carers in her nursiNg home . She ad had a stroke.

[pollyannajo in reply to cabbagecottage]

Point taken cabbagecottage . Thankyou for that . Will keep it in perspective Regards Pollyannajo

[pollyannajo in reply to NannaB]

thank you so much for replying. I am taking on board your kind message and realise I never hear him complain and he really could, his eyes balance and swallowing are badly affected so it does seem so trivial now .Thanks Nanna B

[Kathy]

Hi Pollyannajo,

Although it might be embarrassing it may be out of your relative's control. Hyper-sexuality is one of the lesser talked about symptoms that some people with PSP suffer

Might be worth talking to the GP

Regards

Kathy

[pollyannajo in reply to Kathy]

Hi Kathy I will do that ,his care home are aware of this fixation .They are trying to keep this carer to minimum contact with him-oh dear hope it works .

Thanks for your input Pollyannajo

[goldcap in reply to Kathy]

Kathy I have not heard this before about the hyper-sexuality but it makes perfect sense. The pre-frontal cortex diminishes and you do become like an adolescent before the prefrontal cortex is fully developed. My boyfriend had several affairs and was an embarrassment to be with because he came on to anything female before his PSP diagnosis. I was starting to think he had a sexual addiction.

[mummybear]

Hi Pollyannajo, I feel for you, but most go through the same thing , but it isn't bothering him as he has apathy! it is hurting you more, just remember he isn't himself and I'm sure the girl isn't interested. in either case she should be moved to stop hubby reading anything into her putting up with him.

[pollyannajo in reply to mummybear]

Hello mummybear yes this has happened as much as a small Nursing Home can do .Thankyou for your kind input Pollyannajo

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I did find that mum fixated on things

Nothing romantic but she was convinced she was wearing other people' s clothes, then later when she was in the care home she was fixated on me and constantly wanted to ring me or 'go and let me in the door' when I was not there. I put it down to panic at the time.

[goldcap]

They mentioned this at a PSP conference we attended. My fiance dotes on his therapist and his doctor. He is quite the charmer-they don't have a clue. At home he is constantly screaming at me or for me. He has turrets like cursing fits. It is difficult to go anywhere with him. Just about anything sets him off these days. I am at my wits end.

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So sorry to hear that, goldcap, it sounds as though you are having a really tough time. Are any of the professionals helping you and your fiance with this?

Liz