Wrong and rights

[JubileeRanch]

Found this quote...all who know me know I collect them.....I am having up and down days....yesterday I felt particularly down. Talked to my eldest son, he revealed to me she had called him 3 times panicked people would find out....OMG, words can not describe how I feel about her...but strangely enough it helped so much that my son was no longer keeping that from me, he said he just didn’t want to contend with my crying and anger, which I must not do with him, it’s not fair.

I told my son we are a team, we are a partnership (litterally, it’s a family partnership).....she was an employee!!! The leader of our team cheated and lied with an employee, he is now incapacitated and it is time for all of us to move on with no more secrets no more lies...he agreed, and he is having to shoulder so much to get things in order and straighten out the mess....As for her she should be panicked, she told my son I had a big mouth and she didn’t want people to know because she was “in a good place” OMG!!! She goes on with her life, has her 2 adult children, grandchildren and husband and doesn’t want her boat rocked because after all she wouldn’t want a man that has PSP, leave him to the wife who was being cheated on....it’s amazing how evil a person can be and self centered!!!

I am sure my husband told her I wasn’t a good wife, I was difficult etc etc....when fact of the matter was I thought we had a good marriage and I was always there for him, making a nice place to live cooking and going on trips while he was screwing around with her...I am so ashamed I didn’t see it!!! He has told me he liked having his cake and eat too! He said he told her anything she wanted to hear but she was a peice of A and he never wanted to leave me.......!!!!!!! How sick is that!!!!

PSP is a cruel disease but it has shed light on something I may never have known....my prayer, unlike others on this site, is that he does not linger, I do not want to be used anymore. I want to move on with what little life, what I have left.....he has ruined so much for a peice of A that was also married....now SHE wants her cake and eat it too. What she does not realize is I do have lots of friends, she never really got to know me over all these years, she has no idea how small her world can get....and we do have proof of their disgusting affair.....my husband wrote a detailed account before he got too sick he wanted to protect us from her and anything that might come out before he got too sick.....geez!! But the good news is we have the letter several copies and a voice memo, she doesn’t know about the voice memo....it’s detailed as well....it’s all I can do not to call her husband, I have his cell number....but I am not like her, if she asked for it I could forgive, but she is such a horrible individual she will never do that, I am sure of that.

Okay my friends I have vented for today....I pray for you all! Xoxox

[Helen119]

Wow your situation is so much like mine, but the affair had finished before PSP reared up.

I can identify with every feeling you have, you are very strong by not phoning the husband, but remember KARMA, it will come back to her.

Love and hugs to you strong lady, your good enough and better than her xx

Helen xxx

[NCISfan]

Hello

So sorry about the tough situation. Yes ppl can be so evil. In my case, (I'm a very recent member) the evil ones are siblings. So you can imagine what my mother is going through right now as both her and I are coping with dad's first hospital admission due to deterioration in PSP hence the swallowing issues. NOW the ones that have just about been disowned for years, have never lifted a finger for parents but instead went out of their way to make life unbearable are at it again. The sudden (fake) concern, to see dad, trying to get into the house once dad's home again. You can our imagine. Poor mum, has had a tough life and when it was time to relax and enjoy the grand kids, instead not only is she cleaning up an adult, but her own kids are harassing her and me.

[JubileeRanch in reply to NCISfan]

So amazing how selfish and self centered people can be!!!! It hurts so much worse when it’s your own family!!! I had so much of those kind of plans with grandkids and retirement thinking this was going to be such a blessed time in our lives and POW!!! I am so anxious for spring.....I hate winter with everything looking so dead and hopeless because that is how I feel!!!

[raincitygirl]

You sound like a principled person who has integrity, Jubilee. In which case, no matter how tempting (and "deserved"?..) you will enjoy the fantasies of her come-uppance but will never activate them

And btw, even members who have/had a great marriage didnt/don't want the sad tedious journey to last...Even if they wish their husbands lived on - no one wants this particular journey to linger.... You aren't cruel for wishing it.

Anne G.

[enjoysalud in reply to raincitygirl]

A big hug to you..........we are all lucky to have you on this site and for your share(s).

Me, Los Angeles, CA, USA

[raincitygirl in reply to enjoysalud]

Thanks Margarita! Big hugs back to you, friend ❤️❤️

[enjoysalud]

Life is full of the unexpected. I am sorry for what you are presently struggling with.

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

LosAngeles, CA, USA

[JubileeRanch in reply to enjoysalud]

Thank you

[Marilyn_cbd12]

Jubilee,

What you are going through is so far outside my experience that I want to be respectful -- and cautious-- about offering any advice. I do I wonder if you might want to "keep under your hat" information like the letter and the voice memo, etc. The facts are in evidence right now. The people who matter, that is your family, accept them and don't dispute them. They get it, it seems , and it might be in your interest to keep some of the information in a kind of "reserve fund." If you need this information, you have it and it is more powerful if comes as a surprise at a moment when it is needed. Wondering, too, are you taking care of yourself these days? I ask because I was told by a physician last week that I have developed an autoimmune dermatitis that is often a response to stress and he reminded me that I need to be doing things like taking relaxed walks by myself, breathing in nature and the wonders of the world. (He also has a disabled spouse.) I know that I have been very effective in my husband's care this past year, but it has come at a price. I am trying to become active again with my golf group and have started playing the piano every afternoon. We'll see if this helps--

Marilyn

[Hidden in reply to Marilyn_cbd12]

Marilyn, you are a very wise woman to take your doctor's words to heart... and share them here.

Years ago, my neighbor invited me to fly kites with her children, l was so drained at the time... but l joined in the fun... it was an excellent stress buster.

Golf with friends and playing the piano sound like excellent ideas. Sending hugs, Granni B

[JubileeRanch in reply to Marilyn_cbd12]

Thank you Marilyn,

I am on such a roller coaster...my husband just said this morning he can hardly wait to get to heaven so he can think straight....😢

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Good Morning Jubilee, Marilyn is so right... take care of yourself. I did a poor job of taking care of me when l was so very busy caring for others. Sending hugs, Granni B