Nursing home

[Samila]

Hi my husband now is in a nursing home for nearly a month, I feel I put my child who hasn't got a voice in that place, such a heart breaking time!

I have been loosing him bit by bit and is so painful to see your loved ones disappearing gradually and there is nothing we can do only waiting !!!

Our daughter is getting married on 22nd of July , we need all the love and energy in the universe to help Johnny to be there for us.

Love to you all

[honjen43]

See what you mean. And he has a beautiful cat to keep him company, although he barely seems to register it is there. Hope there are others in the room with him. Have heard too, that combining pre-schoolers with the elderly can sometimes trigger happy memories. Hope you find something to let him show happy thoughts on that sad face.

I feel for you!

Hugs

Jen xxx

[Kevin_1]

Hi Samila

He looks like a great guy. I'm so sorry you both have to cope with this.

When we reached the Nursing Home stage I felt so much guilt. After a while I realised that my wife would get much better care than I could provide at home.

So it is that I visit her every day and read to her and tell her I love her and tell her the news. Twice a week I bring her home and pamper her.

I ask her advice about home decisions too. She still has better sense than I!

We do what we can for the ones we love and sometimes we have to accept the loss of what circumstance forces upon us.

I hope you will manage to continue to find ways of sharing and loving and keeping that light burning for both of you.

Saddened but warmly

Kevin

[raincitygirl]

Samila, its very hard, but I remember that first post (that lovely photo of you two with the autumn leaves when you just had him back from hospital and weren't sleeping and organizing care was chaotic: this is why residential care is appropriate in many cases.

Now, as so many wise and experienced members here have said, you can be a wife and not a caregiver!

Hugs xx

Anne G.

[Marie_14]

Samila I am so sorry. I know what that feels like. You never stop worrying that they are being looked after alright. I hope he can be with you in July for your daughter's wedding. Just remember he might not have a voice but he understands what you are saying to him.

Hugs to you all.

Marie x

[NanBabs]

Knowing that you have done the right thing is still not easy. I cried buckets when I had to take P to the nursing home but I know he received better care (and safer care) than I could give at home.

Stay strong, you have done the right thing for your husband.

xx

[Katiebow]

Heartbreaking for you Samila but you shouldn't feel guilt, you are doing what you feel is best for him. I do hope that you can get him to the wedding, is it local to you? If so you he could be there for a couple of hours if it gets too much. Fingers and everything crossed.

Love Kate xx

[Cuttercat]

Such a sweet photo. You can only do so much. We all commend you for it

Cuttercat

[LuisRodicioRodicio]

A big hug and courage.

You will find love and energy enough.

Luis