O K ... the BIG question. Sex

[Althea-c]

My Barry and I have had a very infrequent sex life for nearly 50 years. Now with PSP and age 75 He is behaving as thou he wants sex.

HELP.... any suggestions ???

Althea 💛🙏

[easterncedar]

Enjoy.

[ssdw1958 in reply to easterncedar]

Easte I have to tell you something before I read your response I said(enjoy) I laugh to myself when I saw what you said lol

[Althea-c in reply to ssdw1958]

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[Althea-c in reply to easterncedar]

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[enjoysalud]

Go for it.............just to lie next to each, skin to skin, can only be therapeutic. My son expressed his enjoyment, the cuddling (without clothes) with his girlfriend when she came to visit....the erection was more difficult. He told me, "Mom, it was very nice". I'm glad he had that.

[easterncedar in reply to enjoysalud]

That is really very poignantly sweet. Thanks for sharing that.

[Althea-c in reply to easterncedar]

Bless you 💛🙏 Althea

[Althea-c in reply to enjoysalud]

Dear enjoysa. You are a wonderful person. 💛🙏 Althea

[enjoysalud in reply to Althea-c]

Wow, thank you Althea.

[abirke in reply to enjoysalud]

Your son had it right...the power of touch...

The biggest thing about massage therapy is not at all sexual and though wonderful, it's not just the deep muscle connection; but very much so, the power of touch ....God gave it to us and we need it! Think of it , a hand shake a hug; a kiss on the cheek; the act of sexual love .....

((HUGS))

AVB

[Althea-c in reply to abirke]

Yes ! You are right. God gave us the gift of touch. 💛🙏

[Althea-c in reply to enjoysalud]

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[Althea-c in reply to enjoysalud]

Precious !! 💛🙏

[Satt2015]

What can I say? Made me smile x

[Althea-c in reply to Satt2015]

💛🙏 Althea. ⭐️

[Dicampbell]

Oh my gosh!! Same experience here. My husband is in a nursing home, is incontinent and pretty much bed ridden. Lately he has been making comments about my breasts and says things like I do t love him, if I did I would show him. He seems stuck on sex right now. I just don't know how to handle this.

[Althea-c in reply to Dicampbell]

Dear Dicamp, I've had wonderful responses to my question. My Barry is fortunately at home. But your case I'd different. Just tell the nurses you need time alone with your loved one and close the door. 💛🙏 Althea

[abirke in reply to Dicampbell]

give him a massage....a personal massage!

[Dicampbell in reply to abirke]

Haha. Great advice. He sends his thanks!!!

[Althea-c in reply to abirke]

Wish I could meet you abirke. You seem like a real character. 💛🙏

[abirke in reply to Althea-c]

Hahahah Like wise Althea

[jzygirl in reply to Dicampbell]

After working in a nursing home in will say get a do not disturb sign and put it up and just shut the door..... the staff will respect your privacy... well they should do... we did. Jane xx

[Althea-c in reply to jzygirl]

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[NannaB]

Brilliant! Use your imagination. There is plenty you can do to give him pleasure as long as you know it is what he wants. OK, maybe not so satisfying for you but it made me feel good to know my darling still wanted me and I know he got pleasure from the intimacy. He was just 69 when he died. I worked in a care home years ago and was appalled by the behaviour of the elderly missionaries I had to give personal care to. I think it is a man thing, not just a PSP thing. I apologise to all men reading this, especially if you are younger and far more controlled than many elderly men I've met....including my own dad who at nearly 96 flirted dreadfully with his carers. It made me blush as he was the total opposite until he reached his 80s.

Have fun..there isn't much with PSP. Enjoy!

XxxX

[Althea-c in reply to NannaB]

Dear NannsB, thank you for your reply. 🙏💛 Althea

[Heady]

I agree with everyone else. ENJOY!

Lots of love

Anne

[Althea-c in reply to Heady]

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[easterncedar]

There was a television show some years back, Northern Exposure, in which a healthy outdoorsy much older guy had a very young wife. They referred to their love-making like this : "We were snatching life from the jaws of death all night!"

I liked that.

[Althea-c in reply to easterncedar]

Snatching life ... that says it all. Thank you for your reply 💛🙏 Althea

[abirke in reply to easterncedar]

Loved that Show! sorry not quite the point here....

[Althea-c in reply to abirke]

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[Jafarrar]

That is funny because I was wondering the same thing. My husband has CBS and 72. Been married 52 yrs sex was not that important to him much until now. He hasn't walked in two years.and is incontince. It's hard to believe he wants sex not a easy thing to do. I do the best I can😎

[Althea-c in reply to Jafarrar]

Dear Jafarrar. That's so sweet. Thanks for your reply 💛🙏

[abirke in reply to Jafarrar]

Good for you....sounds like you still know how to snatch life...

[Althea-c in reply to abirke]

Snatching is all we can do right now. 💛🙏

[VronB]

My husband is the exact opposite. We had a very frequent sex life but PSP has taken it away completely and I miss it. I could be a robot for all the interest he shows. So I endorse the others make the most of it! X

[Althea-c in reply to VronB]

Dear VronB PSP is a thief. Thank you for your reply 🙏💛 Althea

[abirke in reply to VronB]

I understand .... that was more our life and he was only 56 when he died

[Althea-c in reply to abirke]

Sending much love to you. 💛💛💛🙏

[Julieandrog]

What a great start to my day! Hardly spoken about but i so miss all our physical contact, mind you some cracking memories!

Enjoy i say

Julie

[Althea-c in reply to Julieandrog]

Thank you Julie. You are a sweetheart 💛🙏

[Mnd0vrmnky]

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[Althea-c in reply to Mnd0vrmnky]

Your are funny. Will take your advice. 😂😂😂 Althea 💛🙏

[abirke in reply to Mnd0vrmnky]

Hey how are you M0? Hows dad?

[daddyt]

Enjoy if you can. My wife and I had a very active sex life before the symptoms of PSP began. The doctor said something about dopamine levels being much lower in the basal ganglia or something to that effect that reduces the pleasure response associated with sex. Now, I just look down at myself and say "yep... it's just to pee with". I do have great memories though...

[Althea-c in reply to daddyt]

Thank God for memories. 💛🙏

[Hidden]

Timing on this unreal, just this week hubby turned over about 5 am and wanted snuggling plus. It was great, like the old him. Next morning he wondered why he was naked. I was disappointed to realize he couldn't remember but teased him and we snuggled some more. It will be a fond memory.

[Althea-c in reply to Hidden]

Dear Anneline. Well done. 💛🙏

[Jafarrar in reply to Hidden]

That made me 😂. Love it we need to still. Remember to laugh. I do miss laughing with him. It seems to me that my husband is opposite what use to be .

It's like seeing someone different. Love you all thanks for sharing have a good day ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Althea-c in reply to Jafarrar]

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[abirke]

Go ahead and help.....have fun be creative...

[Althea-c in reply to abirke]

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[laila123]

im having a chukle to myself my husband did got embarased with some of the things he said dont worry about it just keep cuddling him take care

[Althea-c in reply to laila123]

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[doglington]

My husband always takes any opportunity to caress me - [or perhaps anyone ?! ] He has always been very demonstrative and needs kisses.

Touch and laughter are so important.

love, Jean xx

[Althea-c in reply to doglington]

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[jzygirl]

From someone that has been there I say enjoy it while you can. Anybody that disagrees is just jealous..I know I am. Jane xx

[Althea-c in reply to jzygirl]

You are a darling Jane 🙏💛

[Joandbear]

The last week of Bear's life we had sex twice, he was 64. I was happy to see his beautiful Bear smile afterwards. Go for it.

[Althea-c in reply to Joandbear]

Precious !! 💛🙏

[aliciamq]

It's in the guide book - I think - wow - what do You think????

[Althea-c in reply to aliciamq]

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[Marg52]

Hello I can sympathize with you, we have been 44 years and mine is behaving the same way. He keeps saying he doesn't have a lot of time and always needs me to sit next to him, I wish I had an answer the only thing I can say is try to have patience and go with it.

[Althea-c in reply to Marg52]

Thank you Marg. 💛🙏