On Friday my mother in law passed....it was like she knew she was going to die, little things are coming up now, signs, things she was doing all led here.
She suffered a heart attack in the end, they were able to revive her and bring her to the hospital were we had the chance to say our final goodbye. I coudn't cry, I just held her and told her it's OK, we are OK, you are OK and now you can be with your love. I felt like I received an invitation to spend her final moments with her, it was like no one else was in the room, just me and her. I never saw anyone take their final breath, I thought it would be different, I thought I would not be able to handle it...she made it easy for me...thank you Ma
I had te pleaseure of knowin her and being with her for 27 years, we laughed, cried, argued and made up. Just like it's supposed to be, we always said what we felt, that is how it is supposed to be.
She was a seamstress, she had hands of gold. She made countless wedding gowns, bridesmaid dresses and evening gowns. We displayed a picture of her from the 50's making a last minute alteration on her sisters wedding dress, with one picture, we were able to capture who she was.
I know she is in peace, I know she beat CBD she got it before it took everything from her. She still had her dignity, she fought until the end. I was with her Wednesday, I alwasy m as that is the day her doctor comes by. That day she walked, the physio ladies came and she was ready for them. I say her walk one last time, I saw the determination in her eyes, she wanted to give me that gift.
Thank you all, for the brief time we knew eachother, you all gave me so much love and support, you listened you answered you helped me so very much. For that, I love you all
Hugs
Paola
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That is the way to go. Well done, you and your mother-in-law. What a wonderful person she seems to have been. Kind of like my own former, now late, mother-in-law, who called herself my "mother-out-law" after the divorce. We had a difficult and wonderful relationship, which improved when we were outlaws and could choose to be close. I miss her still. Love, Ec
Paola what a beautiful tribute to your mother in law....not many women had such a beautiful relationship with their husbands mother as you did.
Please remember to give yourself that supporting hug knowing you did absolutely everything that could be done for her.
You know, I believe when the process of dying is slow as with our loved ones, people know that something is happening to them and are able to have some control over that process. They are able to tell the world; to their loved ones that they love them and thank them for such a wonderful life. She loved you as much as you loved her ....
As this part of your life moves on , I hope you are able to recreate your happiness that psp paralyzed for awhile....Life is different to be sure , but you know your mom wants you to pick up the pieces and make a beautiful garment to walk through life in, with her love wrapped around you.
Take care Paola don't be a stranger, come and visit every once in a awhile....
AVB
Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. Psalm 30:5
....for I will turn their mourning into joy, and will comfort them and make them rejoice from their sorrow...Jeremiah 31:...13
For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels , nor principalities , anor powers, nor things present, nor things to come.....nor height, nor depth , nor any creature shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:39, 39
The relationship was not always easy, my in laws were old school Italian, I was not raised that way. We butted heads on many occassions, but they both knew I loved them dearly.
I am not one to show too much emotions BUT I wear my heart on my sleeve, I have a bond with my husbands entire family they have been near us the entire weekend.
Her death brought her sons 2 beautiful gifts, firstly my brother in law was able to make peace with his family, there were many years he didnt talk to them for stupidity. Secondly and most important, after my father in law dies my husband lost his 'mojo', he felt inferior to his brother and therefore he fell back from making any financial or emotional decissions. When his mom died, he had to make all the calls, signed all legal documents and be the head of the family. It gave him his strength back, I can see it.
It is amazing the power of a mother, even from beyond the grave. We are all at peace now.
Thank you for the beautiful passages, they give me strength
Paola, I'm so sorry for your loss. It is always a loss when we loose someone dear to us. Even when we know they are in a better place, with no more suffering. Take things one day at a time and remember it's okay to feel.... sad and sorry for all that CBD took from her and your family.
So sorry for your loss, Paola! It is such a shock however it happens, but you describe her life and sickness so graphically and with such insight that I feel you will be able to look back on your life with her with joy once you recover from the loss!
You were spared the long slow demise. You were still able to reach her, even at the end. My thoughts and love are with you.
Thank you all for your beautiful words, we are and will always be in this fight together.
The past few days have been a beautiful tribute to her life. I prayed for her passing to come, I was ready and so was she, I think everyone was.
Her grandchildren lead her coffin, the smaller ones walked her into church and to her final resting place, my children held her casket and were so very proud to do so.
Today the hard part begins, waiting for her to call me to ask when I'm coming will never happen again. Walking into visit her, saying "I'm sorry Ma can you say that again" will never happen.....
I have to believe she is at peace, I have to believe she is OK.
I'll still be around, you guys can't get rid of me that fast.
My mom was diagnosed with the same disease since 2011,she's on heavy medications,we don't know how long will she live in this world with us niether her neurologist, she's young for the disease.she loves having people around her but as she started to get sick her relatives and friends stopped contacting her,i'm trying to entertain her during the day but sometime thats not helping ,i'm passing the hardest time of my life as her doughter and her carer
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