Role Reversal....

[Katet68]

When I first left home, my Mum sent me the song "Ain't no mountain high enough" - the words need no explanation and true to her word, she has ALWAYS been there for me, NOTHING has got in her way and I knew she would get to me where ever I was in the world if I needed her. I'm a very lucky daughter.

Yesterday, following a week of difficult & sad phone conversations with her, Mum not recognising where Dad had taken her, her memory and cognitive behaviour considerably worse, "Ain't no mountain high enough" came on the radio and I sat and howled because there is a very high mountain now and that's PSP and no longer can my Mum get to me when I need her.

However......we might have the mountain that PSP is in our way but for me, there is "No Mountain High enough" and now it's my turn to get to her, what ever happens, how ever high that mountain becomes. Dad and I will hold hands, put our mountain climbing gear on and persevere with the bl**dy thing........

" Mum there ain't no mountain hight enough, no valley low enough to keep me from you" xxx

[Heady]

How to make a girl cry on a Sunday morning! I love that song as well, must listen to it again, now with new meaning.

Lots of love

Heady

[easterncedar]

Oh, Kate. What a beautiful and poignant post. You are a lucky daughter, and your parents are both lucky to have you. You are going through a terrible time. May all the love you share and have shared with your folks bear you up. Sending more from across the sea, ec

[Katet68 in reply to easterncedar]

Thank you for the love and support, this illness is unbelievably cruel in so many ways. Thank god for this site and the ability to talk to others who understand. Sending love right back at ya x

[NannaB]

Oh Kate, a tear has just dropped onto my laptop. You are lucky to have such a loving mum ( not all mum's are) and she is blessed to have such a caring daughter. I know our three sons find it very difficult having to do very personal things for their dad when I need help and they are here but thankfully, they do it out of love.

Sending you and your lovely parents a big hug.

X

[Katet68 in reply to NannaB]

Oh Nanna B, I didn't mean to make you cry....it was bad enough writing the post, I snivelled all over it!

Mu won't let me help her with the personal stuff and I totally understand that, she's a very proud woman but that doesn't make it any easier for Dad. I do what I can and will continue to do so.

Sending you a big hug back x

[Katiebow]

What a heartfelt post, it conveys your love for your mum and dad and their love for you. This is a time when you realise how important family are, unfortunately mine are all too far away to help practically but they are always there for us. Keep climbing that mountain she needs you to! Love Kate xxx

[Katet68 in reply to Katiebow]

Thank you! I'm also nearly 4 hours drive away, it's not easy and I hate that I can't do more day to day stuff for Dad but life has to continue, I have to work and that's what both Mum & Dad want me to do. I'll support them always and help them when I can get there and don't worry, I'll keep climbing the mountain xx

[jillannf6]

agree

;lol jill#psp person in uk

[jillannf6 in reply to jillannf6]

sorry bout thet typing

ol jill

xxx

[easterncedar in reply to jillannf6]

Hi, Jill! How are you doing? Will you be going to Yorkshire this summer? What music are you listening to these days? Don't mind the typos; you always come through just fine, and I'd love to hear more from you. Love, ec

[goldcap]

Oh this broke my heart in a bittersweet way. My heart goes out to you and your Dad and I love that song as well!

JGC

[Katet68 in reply to goldcap]

Perhaps we should all think of some songs to cheer us up.....I seem to have set off a flood of emotions. The other one that really gets me (also because Mum bought it for me) is Cold Plays "I will Fix You" - only wish I could x

[Nanny857]

It's awful that your mum has this terrible disease but she and your dad are lucky to have such a lovely caring daughter in you. So you hold your dad's hand and climb that mountain together. Wishing you well. Lots of love Nanny857 xx

[Katet68 in reply to Nanny857]

Thank you. The reason I do what I do is because I have exceptional parents who have been there for me unconditionally, I'm very lucky xx

[abirke]

Amen sister!

"How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaim peace, who bring good tidings, who proclaim salvation, who say, Zion, Your God Reigns!" Isaiah 52:7

No mountain high enough

AVB

[carlam]

Amazing how strong music and lyrics are as I sit here crying. On a silly note, yesterday my husband, my son and I heard Paul Simon's "Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover" on the radio and say along at the top of our lungs. I sang a few verses to my mom last night and she doesn't remember a lot of things, but she got the biggest smile at that song and told me I did a good job!

[Katet68 in reply to carlam]

What a lovely picture....it makes me blub if Mum & I are watching something with music and she starts singing along - very emotional stuff. Sounds like you did a really good job!

[cabbagecottage]

My daughters not hands on with her dad , there are so many other ways to show your love .

[Katet68 in reply to cabbagecottage]

I can't really be "hands on" as I live too far away and when I'm there Mum doesn't want me helping her in that way. I give her cuddles, hold her hand, try and have some sort of conversation but i do wish I could do more....horrible disease for all involved x

[Sun16flower]

@Sun16flower

You have tugged at my heart strings. Am going to visit my dear Mum tomorrow who is also suffering with this dreadful disease, it's so hard!!

[Katet68 in reply to Sun16flower]

It is SO hard isn't it. I spend a ridiculous amount of time still asking "why?" "why my Mum" but there is no answer. I just want her to know I love her and that I will always be thankful for having her as my Mum x

[blackcushion]

Hi kate brought a few tears reading your post, sending hugs to you at this difficult time, my mum was always there for me and my brothers was our rock and miss her millions. Your on the right forum all these lovely people on here willing to help. Takecare xx