Who looks after the Carers?

Who looks after the Carers?

Hi, having a good lesson about how we must look after ourselves! My step father has been rushed into hospital and my sister has been looking after our mother, who has Alzheimers, plus lots of other family problems. I now have Mum here with me.

Watching my sister get so tired in just a few days is frightening! We are in contact with social services etc., so help will be coming our way very soon.

I know the first initial shock of caring is very tiring, but honestly folks, if we all look like my sister, don't get me wrong, she is coping incredibly well, (trained nurse) we all must learn to accept every bit of help we can!

I am the worlds worst! Thought I could do it all. But this is teaching me that I can't and I must take far better care of myself than I have been doing. I am afraid, that most of us on this site are all guilty of this.

Please, please, everyone, look at what you are doing very carefully. Part of my step father's problem, was he couldn't cope with Mum but did not admit it. Now, a hard suitation, is a crisis and all our lives are going to be changed.

Our loved ones need us. They have lost far too much of their lives already. By not looking after ourselves, they risk losing us as well!

This is one battle that PSP can't and shouldnt win, because it is in our control!!!

Lots of love

Heady

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  • hi heady

    ia m so sorry that you ar heaving such family probs.

    i do nto know what i would do if i were eon myh own again i.e. beffor ei moved in with muy partner to an apartment which suit sme just fine an dis on the ground floor

  • Hi Jill, did you have the meeting about Continuing Health Care. If so, how was it? I know you won't have a decision yet but did you get on ok answering all the questions?

    Nanna B

  • yes Nanna b

    it went quite well and there were only 2 came to the house ti assess me]

    it will go b4 the panel on Monday next and i shall have a decision then - it looks quite

    hopeful but i may be turned down this time

    i am tyrign to be positive a sit would make a difference to me no end

    )(I am a real danger to myself and others in the house if not outside - as i use a wheelchair outside now

    lol and thanks for thinking of me

    jIll

    :-)

  • IT SUPPOSEDLY WEMT TO A PANEL WHICH DID NTO MEET ON 13 OCTOBER A STHE SOCIAL WORKER WAS OFF SICK SO IT WILL BE SEVERAL WEEKS B4 I KNOW IF I HAVE GOT IT

  • Hello Heady

    As I said before, I'm thinking of you. Glad you did not run away- thought for a moment you went without me.

    Love maddy

  • Oh heady I am glad you have said about accepting help. Since Brian has been in hospital I have realised how much I do for him and how tired I have become. So after 3 days of them trying to get me to agree to haveing carers comeing in I have said yes. Now all the paperwork is signed they said he might be able to come out tomorrow up untill then it was end of this week possible even onto a rehab ward. So yes I have realised that I need to look after me so I can look after him and also realise that I do need help. Janexx

  • HI JANE

    I TMAKES A LTO OF SENSE TO HAVE A CARER(S) COMIN IN TO HELP U - I USE HOME INSTEAD SENIOR CARE WHICH MEANS I HAV EGTHE SAME 2 CARERS ALL THE TIEM WHICH IS GREAT AS INEVITABLY I BUILD UP A RAPPORT AND FRIENDSHIP WITH THEM AND HTEY WILL DO ANYTHING FOR ME LIKE GETTIGN ME UP OFF THE FLOOR WHEN I HAVE FALLLEN AND CANNOT GET UP

    THEY AFER MORE EXPENSIVE THAN THE LA ONES BUT ARE MUCH BETTER AND ARE WORTH THE EDXGTRA AS I KNWO EXACTLY WHAT TIEM THEY ARE COMIGN EAHC DAY AND EVENING

    LOL JILL

    :_)

  • I used to get e-mails from healthunlocked. what happened to the e-mails?

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