This is the first time to the site, and hoping I can find some help and support among you that have gone or are going through what I am. I am a 49 yo gay man, diagnosed with prostate cancer two weeks ago. Stage 1 with a gleason 6, involving two of the 6 cores only on the right side of my prostate. 5% of the specimen is involved. The 6 cores from the left side of my biopsy came back okay, just reflected chronic inflammation. There is no cancerous tumor or lump. The urologist said that my cancer is like capallaries through the right side of my prostate. To make things worse, I have a history of cancer in my family. Not Prostate cancer, but cancer none the less. My father died at only 63 with a very agressive form of cancer.
I've been doing a lot of reading these past two weeks, and though freaked out, I'm doing my best to educate myself on what steps I should take for treatment. My urologist, here in Washington DC, where I live, recommended a radical prostatectemy because of the relatively early age at which this is happening to me. I am leaning toward the surgery, however, I want to get more information about radiation, as my urologist really didn't give me any information when I met with him.
I have three appointments coming up this week with different urologists at different hospitals to get second opinions. I have a list of questions started to ask them all, but was wondering if any of you out there have any suggestions on good questions I should ask. Since many of you have been through this, I would love to know the questions you "wish you had asked" before deciding on your treatment. Or questions you asked that were really helpful in making your treatment decision.
I'm single and haven't had luck in finding a partner yet, and am very saddened by the loss of erections and dry orgasm that surgery will bring. I fear this will only further hinder my ability to find someone to share my life with, and don't want to be alone.
Any thoughts, suggestions or inspiration is greatly appreciated.
Thank you very much,