Miscarriage 11+5

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Hi ladies

Just looking for some hope as feeling pretty lost at the moment. Went for my 12 week scan yesterday to find that there was no heartbeat. I had no indication that anything was wrong, no bleeding etc. Apparently the baby was measuring 11+5 so literally happened in the last couple of days, which has made me feel particularly sad and wonder what I have done wrong in the last couple of days! This is my first miscarriage. I have opted to have surgery under general anaesthetic on Monday, which I am also terrified about! I do have a little girl, who is two and a half and wonderful. My pregnancy with her was straightforward, although I did need a section. Just wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and has any words of advice or hope for a future successful pregnancy.

Thanks for reading xx

[Mac2016]

I am so sad to hear about this.

You must live in hope that you can have another successful pregnancy.

My son who is now 3 years old was born without complications. Last year sadly I experienced 3 miscarriages. Like you the 2nd was discovered at my 12 weeks scan. The whole year was a roller coasters of emotions.

After my 2nd miscarriage I was under the care of a obstetrician who specialises in miscarriages. I was then offered a hormone treatment of cyclogest should I fall pregnant again which you take as a pessary from when you find out you’re pregnant up to 16 weeks.

I fell pregnant earlier this year and I am now 30 weeks and the pregnancy is going well. I have been closely monitored. I never thought for one minute I would get this far but I have.

It is absolutely possible. I wish you all the best for the future. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself time mentally and physically to absorb what you are going through now. Time is the best healer xx

[EJThompson2]

Hello.

I had a very similar experience to you. I have a 5 year old daughter who I had no complications with. In September last year I suffered a miscarriage at 11 weeks + 5 days, I started bleeding heavily the day before my 12 week scan. I then found out I was pregnant again in December last year and I now have a 3 week old baby boy! He was born at 37 weeks + 5 days, it was a natural and amazing labour which was only an hour and 50 mins! He's perfect. I hope my story brings you hope. I was extremely anxious thoughout my pregnancy after experiencing a miscarriage but my pregnancy was straight forward and low risk. My midwife told me that many women who have a miscarriage will go on to have a healthy successful pregnancy afterwards. Fingers crossed for you x

[Seb9]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I had very similar with my first pregnancy. At my scan they couldn't find anything, and I must have only been very early when the pregnancy had ended but my body had not responded. I had the manual vacuum aspiration a few days after my scan.

After my scan I was disappointed that my body hadn't realised what had happened. I went out and did all the things I couldn't do while pregnant, drank wine, ate blue cheese, chorizo, camembert and pate etc

for a few days as a kind of up yours to mother nature.

I had the mva, then after my first period we tried again and I fell pregnant and had a healthy baby from that a pregnancy.

I know it's a horrid time to go through and I hope you go on to have a successful pregnancy next time lots of love x

[XcharmaineX]

So sorry to read this. I had exactly the same thing happen to me at my 12 week scan I was told I had a missed missed carriage which doesn’t always give the normal symptoms of a miscarriage and that it can take weeks for your body to realise that the pregnancy isn’t continuing to dispose of what’s there naturally. I also ended up having a d&c try not to worry I didn’t feel a thing physically apart from a few cramps afterwards and bleeding but mentally it hit me for six after thinking I was going to become a mum. I took 2 months before trying again just to try and sort my head out and let my body heal I went on to have my beautiful rainbow baby girl who is now 3. Sending you lots of love xxx

[Errxo]

So sorry to hear this, I suffered a miscarriage at 11 weeks 3 days in December 2019 & opted to have surgery. It is heartbreaking, but you need to know you did nothing wrong. I was also physically ok after surgery, no pains except period pains & next to none bleeding. When I miscarried I didn’t know until I had the scan either, no signs nothing.

I then luckily got pregnant again in March & now 23 weeks pregnant expecting a little boy.

I think the main thing to come out of my comment is that please assure yourself you’ve done nothing wrong & your be ok & all the best for Monday. Xx

[Hidden]

Im so sorry you suffered a miscarriage. I had a miscarriage lost the baby early on. I have a little girl with no complications... I waited for my first period and got pregnant straight away I'm now 19 weeks pregnant expecting a little boy.

The way I look at it is if the pregnancy was healthy mother nature would not miscarry.

I was told next time round I will have a healthy pregnancy because it's not so common to miscarry second time...

Hope this helps.

[Poops84]

It’s an awful thing to go through but unfortunately it also happens a lot. I had an early miscarriage in Nov 19, then another in Jan this year then conceived again in March and currently 24 weeks with a very active baby boy! I’ve been a bag of nerves with this pregnancy feel like I am waiting for something to go wrong, but keep telling myself to stay calm. I have a little boy already who will turn 5 in Nov and my pregnancy was uncomplicated until the very end when preeclampsia made it result in an emergency section. I was never this worried with my first.

You will be fine, you will know when it’s time to try again xx

[Livvii]

Hey hun , what Your going through is really hard , I went through the Same thing just before lockdown. I experienced a missed miscarriage on my first pregnancy , I ended up in hospital because I was really ill and not keeping anything down , I spent the night their getting fluids and the following day they said I was going to have a scan to check on the baby , me and my wife were so excited to see our baby but during the scan we knew something was wrong and that’s when they told us that our babies heartbeat was no longer beating And that he had passed at around 8 and a half weeks , we were 3 days away from our 12 week scan. I opted for the surgery because I couldn’t handle having to let him pass by himself as it had already been over 2 weeks and I just couldn’t cope with haveing to see him just come out, I had to wait the weekend cause they wouldn’t do anything till Monday. So on Monday I went in for my surgery and although I was scared and drained it went fine and I had family and my wife who helped me get through everything. 6months later and I’m currently 8and a half weeks pregnant so it’s pretty nerve wracking lol. I will always remember our first who was just to good for this world and you never really get over losing a child but it does get easier and it gets easier to remember them in a special way knowing that you had that time with them and that they were loved so much.

Don’t ever sit there and blame yourself because none of it was your fault , I Sat for weeks thinking it was something that I did wrong , but then one day I just sat back and said to myself it wasn’t me and it wasn’t anything that I did wrong , our beautiful boy was just to good for this world and me and my wife will always remember our first child.

I hope your surgery goes ok and I’m sorry to hear about your loss , but as a women who has experienced this Your going to get through this and become a stronger person because I know I have xxx

[mrsabc]

I experienced a missed miscarriage at 10+5 with my first pregnancy. Believe me when I say you have done nothing wrong. The way I coped with mine was by accepting that if I had gone full term baby probably would have been very poorly and may not have survived long as there is usually something not right. I have have several chemical pregnancies since but also have had 2 beautiful girls since. Allow yourself the time to heal physically and emotionally. If you want more children in the future this is not the end for you xx

[Tiddly1984]

No advice but just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss and hope that you have lots of support...x

[MiaJosie]

I don't have any experience of a miscarriage but I just wanted to acknowledge how sudden of a change this must be for you. At week 12, you have likely felt nausea and pulled through all the other symptoms, started making plans, wondered if it will be a boy or a girl, though about when to notify work, and maybe you've told a few people. It was real. This must feel so unreal.

Sending you lots of love and praying for your surgery tomorrow. I am hoping in the weeks ahead when you feel sad, hope will glimmer too.

[Hidden]

I’ve had 3 missed mc at 12/13w it’s awful, with 2 I had no signs of mc until scans. I’ve had 2 kids previously and the pregnancies were easy no issues so for this to happen over and over it was unexpected and pretty dam traumatising. I’ve had at least 2 chemical pregnancies since aswel and no baby. Usually dr say if you have one mc it’s more likely your next pregnancy will be fine. Sorry for your loss x