Hi ladies,
My first birth 5.5 years ago was extremely painful because of shoulder dystocia. I had gas and air throughout contractions but I was told to lay off the gas and air while I was pushing. I remember shouting in pain that baby couldn't fit. I was doing all the necessary pushing at the right times but after part of her head was out the shoulder was caught on my pelvic bone. It felt like forever and oh the pain, I remember every single bit of it. The pushing stage was roughly just over 2 hours for me which isnt unusual. Labour was roughly 13 hours and I hated it all. Im a pretty relaxed person and Id say I'm good with pain but nothing could of prepared me for those contractions and birth. I was exhausted and I just couldnt relax. I was in the pool, out the pool because I puked up. Back in the pool after they cleaned it out, out again. Walking around, on the bed layed on my back, on my side, on all fours, to on my back again for birth.
So birth is happening and the emergency button was pressed and 3 or 4 extra staff entered and quickly pushed my legs up, knees to my chest, and they pulled baby out with one push from me at the same time. Baby was out but I thought she hadnt made it. It all happened so quick and I wasnt being told anything when they didnt give her to me straight away. I actually never got an explanation to what had happened during birth. I found the info 'shoulder dystocia' on my notes.
This time round I've had to see a consultant and he explained my birth in detail to me because I should of got an explanation. When he explained it to me I got a bit teary. As it was an upsetting and traumatising for me. I also have a slight prolapse, sex isnt the same and I bleed most times after sex. He had a look at me and would like me to have a colposcopy during my pregnancy. My smear last year came back hpv positive but low risk and no treatment etc. Ive also been offered to have a planned csection or if i give birth vaginally it will be on consultant led unit.
I have should have an appointment with a birthing midwife to discuss my options and go from there. I feel really anxious about giving birth again, I try to brush it off but I am scared! The Csection is always worrying too as its major surgery, the recovery time, stay in hospital and possoble risks.
Whats everyones thoughts? Have you had a shoulder dystocia birth? Have you given birth on consultant led, what was different? Have you had a csesction, what was your experience?