16 and possibly pregnant

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Hey,

Thanks for all the advice and feedback you guys have given me, I’m still not positive if I’m pregnant, but I’d like to be prepared if I am. I would be telling my mom if Im pregnant, but I’m not sure how to tell her. This is my second pregnancy scare this year, and I’m scared of her reaction and that she will force me into an abortion.

[Kitcat12]

Hi lovely, do you want to have the baby if you're pregnant? Your mum can't force you to have an abortion, she might be a bit shocked but I'm sure she will support you whatever you decide to do. Having a baby is a huge commitment and would completely change your life. It's not a decision to be taken lightly x

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When did you have sex? When was your last period and how long are your cycles usually? Also, when do you think your period was missed? Stress can cause a delay in your period and there could be all sorts going on at the moment.

Xxx

[Seb9]

If you're pregnant and want to go through with having the baby your mum cannot force you to have an abortion. It is your body and your choice.

If you want to have the baby my advice would be to research all the support that is available to you. From benefits you can get from the government, charities that support young mums, baby groups that support young mums etc.

If your mum can see that you're serious about having a baby and have done lots of research and have a good understanding of what's needed then perhaps she would be more supportive of you.

Depending on how much your partner earns you might be able to apply for universal credit if you plan on living together while you raise the baby?

You can also apply for child benefits which is only £80 a month but is not means tested so anyone can get it.

If you think you're pregnant then I'd recommend taking a pregnancy test as soon as possible and if you are pregnant then start taking folic acid so that you lower the risk of spina bifida. You'll also need to refer yourself to the midwife in your area to arrange your booking in appointment and initial blood tests.

I would also recommend that you take any classes that your midwives offer to you as they are free and the more you know the better for you and baby, things like breastfeeding courses are really useful to go on as learning all about how often baby feeds and how to check your latch etc is really helpful. Also learning how to put baby to bed the safest way and with the right amount of clothing I found very useful.

The NHS website has some very useful information about teenage pregnancy and a list of support networks as well as information about schooling and how not to miss out on your education.

Becoming a mum is the hardest job in the world at any age, there are no days off and it is a absolutely life changing. I really feel for you as even with a great support network I have found becoming a mum really tough even though I love my daughter immensely, I have days I just want to go back to my old care free life. I really hope if you are pregnant that you can get as much support as possible and that you and your mum can come together xxx