Hi I’m 16 years old and I’m 26 weeks almost 27 weeks pregnant and need advice and someone to talk to

[Chloeevans]

My parent doesn’t no, no one in my family know about my pregnancy only me and the baby’s father, his parents don’t approve of things like this especially at our age so we can not go to them for advice or help or tell them about this, my family will be there for me but I feel embarrassed to tell them I know it’s a natural thing but my boyfriend is worried that they’ll think bad of him. I don’t know how to tell my mum that I am pregnant I don’t want to put to much on her, however when I was 14 weeks pregnant we went to bpas an abortion clinic that when we saw a scan of our baby for the first time however where I was far into pregnancy I had to have surgical abortion but to have a surgical abortion you need an 18 year old with you however we told them we are unable to get an 18 year old to come with us so here I am now 26 weeks pregnant I haven’t had check ups with doctors or anything yet because this is my first pregnancy and I don’t know what to do can I go to my local hospital and talk to them and get check ups and scans there or do I have to go to my gp?

It would be really helpful if I could get some advice or feedback of any kind many thanks.

[roxannacar]

Which country are you in? If you're in the uk you can see your gp without an adult and can consent to treatment at 16, however I get a feeling you are not in the uk.

Abortion laws vary country to country, at 26 weeks you can not have an abortion in the uk.

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to roxannacar]

I think she is in uk hun she went to bpas? Xx

[Chloeevans in reply to roxannacar]

Yeah I’m in the uk

[roxannacar in reply to Chloeevans]

You need to see your gp and get booked with a midwife asap. You should have had a 20 week anomaly scan and blood tests. I would strongly suggest you speak to your family as they are bound to find out when this baby pops out!

You need to have some serious discussions about the future of this child, as this is not going to go away!

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

Hi hun,

You really need to talk to your mum. Do you live with your parents? How have you managed to keep this away from them all this time?

You need to see your gp ASAP and they'll refer you in to the, relevant ppl your more than half way there hun. Theres so much you need go get in order in preparation for your baby. If your scared of telling your parents write a letter and let them call you once they've read it you be out or upstairs, but do please let them know hun you need support. If it was my daughter I'd, need to know ASAP and if I was disappointed id get over it and do the right thing.

Bless ya I get your worried but you need to start talking now hun and make sure your health and, babies is ok, wish you all the best lovely

💝💝😘😘

[Chloeevans in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Yeah I live with my mum, I don’t know I just wear looser clothing and thank you for your advice it’s really helped talking to someone and yeah I’ve been doing a lot of research thank you so much ☺️

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Chloeevans]

Please talk to your mum hun and get yourself booked in with your gp ASAP, Let us know how you get on

💝😘

[Elibee48]

Call your doctor book an appointment then write a letter to your mum and get this sorted today, they will sort a midwife for you and you will feel so much better once you have support and there is lots out there. Try not to stress and look after yourself. Things always work out. Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy.

[Kata89]

I'm 26 weeks too, I'm not trying but my bump is fairly obvious now. Tell your mum before she guesses. She may be upset but you need the support, you're due early August so you only have three months to get ready. Not to scare you but you and your boyfriend need support, I'm nearly 29 I still need it. I understand that you are apprehensive as to your parents reactions but the longer you leave it the harder it will be. Wishing you all the best x

[Klc83]

Hi Chloe,

I had an unplanned pregnancy at 16 too. It was difficult and i was dreading it but I told my mum at around 8 weeks and she was incredibly disappointed but did everything she could to support me through it. You definitely need to speak with your mum sooner rather than later, especially if you hope to live at home once the baby is born.

But if you went for an abortion can I ask whether you and your partner actually want to keep this baby? Adoption may be something to consider if you are not 100% certain parenthood is for you right now. In which case you will definitely need to contact your gp and they can help you get all the information you need.

I think I was very naive at 16 and thought I could do anything, including being a mum. But looking back I know I couldn't have raised my daughter without the emotional, physical and financial support of my family. It has been incredibly hard at times but I personally don't regret a moment of it. My daughter is 17 now.

I wish you all the best with your future whatever you decide and hope you have the support you need x

[Starlight_ftm]

Seems like all the the advice I could write has been said, so I just wanted to comment to wish you well and good luck with it all! Def see midwife and get 20w scan to make sure baby is ok and you are too! As someone else says it’s not going to go away so some discussions may need to be made. If you and boyfriend been together a long time you could do it together or if you prefer alone or letter that’s also fine. Get an apt with your GP today if you can ask their advice x

[georgialouisebuckley]

Hello love i got pregnant with my first when i was 17 so not much older than you at all and i told my mum as soon as i found out. She was a little disappointed becsuse i had planned to do so much but she supported me and helpt me out so much trust me i know its scary but ince you have spoken to your mum you will feel so much better and you never know she may not be as upset as what you think she will. My daughter is 6 years old now and im 26 weeks pregnant with my second! But my advice is to tell your mum asap and get yourself booked in with your gp as you will need to have your scans to make sure yourselfand baby are ok. Wishing you all the best and hope things worl out for you! Xxxx

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Did you go to the crestwood school and is your boyfriend luke?