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I have really underestimated this trimester 😣

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Hey, I’m a first time mum to be and I’m really struggling.

Despite lockdown I’m still working full time as a nurse and I’m struggling. The 24/7 first trimester nausea, fatigue, headaches, loneliness seem to have taken over my entire life.

My husband is doing his best, but doesn’t seem to get it. We have our first scan in 2 weeks and with then be able to lean on friends and family for support, it can’t come soon enough.

I guess I’m looking for reassurance that this is all normal and I’m not alone in this???

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I’m a teacher and although I was in my first trimester before lockdown etc I found it similar to you. Physically feeing horrible, nauseous but having to put the ‘game face’ on ,and choosing not to tell people until 12 weeks means that you don’t have that understanding of your workload/struggles at a critical time and can no doubt be very lonely. It’s hard because the first trimester, although for many is kept quiet, is very difficult. I was so relieved to get to 12 weeks.

You’re a star for continuing to work under the current situation. How you’re feeling is totally understandable and I hope the lonely feeling passes when you are in a position to tell people. I’m sure you’re counting down to your scan - I know I was.

Hang in there - I also hope the physical symptoms start to ease soon xx

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fluffybear1

Hi Lovely your not alone in this xxx know exactly how your feeling, the tireness is extrame at times, it takes a lot of energy out of you.

All that your feeling is totally normal, the hormonal changes can be very intense. I have found nux vomica (homopathic rem) helps with morning sickness and a very dear friend of mine said you can also use the anti sickness travel bands.

Good luck with everything xxx :)

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Seb9

You're definitely not alone, I didn't go through my pregnancy through Corona, so I can't imagine what it's like with that as added stress!

I told my mum and my 2 best friends before my scan as I figured should anything go wrong I'd want their support through that as well, I found sharing with them was a big relief for me.

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Beccl93

Congratulations!

Yes totally normal, but please do try & enjoy your pregnancy.

I partially ruined mine with constant stressing & additional private scans

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wherearemysox

I totally understand and in the end I told a few people I work with and told a few close friends and family early. Everyone was so kind and supportive and I realised actually if anything were to be wrong at the 12 week scan, it would be better for me to have the support anyway. I’m not sure why there’s a taboo around telling people early. Still, you might not want to and not feel comfortable telling people but if you feel you need the extra support, it could help.

Also my partner read a book aimed at dads about pregnancy and downloaded an app which gave him a better insight into what I was feeling like. Do you have the apps and books too? I found they had some reassurance/tips xx

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Gem64 in reply towherearemysox

I have had to tell my managers at work as there are some of my normal duties I’m not currently able to do so I do have some support there which is good. I’ll definitely have a look into the bits aimed aimed at dads to be, do you by any chance know what book/app he found helpful?

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wherearemysox in reply toGem64

He has read “The Expectant Dad’s Survival Guide” he said it’s a little laddish in some parts but had good advice xx

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Lou1103

I feel the exact same I’m just over 22 weeks and it’s horrible not been able to see my mum and go through this with her, it is reassuring knowing staying in is keeping and you baby safe xx

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