My partner is all about his computers. Even though we got a 17 week old daughter!

[MichelleGC1978]

Hi all. I don't know what to do? He has 3 days a week off from work. But on his days off he just plays on the ps4 all day and night. I have our little girl all day and night(which I love) but she is all mummy! What should I do or say? Please help x

[JessieCritch]

Have a word with him say he needs to shape up and that it's his daughter to and you need to split the childcare 50:/50 and if he Carrys on I would ask him to leave and say u will be better off without him and raising your daughter alone I no May sound harsh but he needs the up bum as he may never shape up or maybe confiscate his PS4 and say your going out for the day or evening mummy free time and he's looking after his daughter then just leave the house xxx

[MichelleGC1978 in reply to JessieCritch]

Thank you for your reply. I have tried talking to him but he goes on the defensive. Some of my friends have seen it and don't like how he is treating me. I even have to ask him on his days off to have her for a couple if hours so I can sleep. X

[JessieCritch in reply to MichelleGC1978]

I would say he's being selfish I would say if u are not going to shape up and take responsibility then u will have to take a break from him as it's not fair your tired to and he wanted a child to so should help out it's only fair no it's easier said than done as I'm not in your situation but maybe u will be better apart he might realise what he's missing and how many things u do for him and the baby maybe he is scared of doing it wrong but maybe he could go to a mother and baby class or ask one of him mates with kids if they want to take there child out so they can have a dad and kids dad think u need to put your foot down he's walking all over u your doing a good job chin up huni brill mummy xxx

[MichelleGC1978 in reply to JessieCritch]

Thanks hun x

[Sisi14]

Hun he is taking the mick, why can he have 3 days off but your a mum 24/7 not on. Yes they take advantage of our weakness which is the love of our children and being a mummy, me personally if he didn’t listen to me then when he’s asleep etc I’d get the PS4 box it away or send it to someone else’s house and tell him your having a game free week where you spend time together as a family and you have a day off too if he’s not happy and vile then I would next pack his bags and say we’re done you and baby are not second best to a computer and your better off without the big kid.

All the best babe you can do this xx

[MichelleGC1978 in reply to Sisi14]

Also I feel unattractive. We used to have a good sex life, like every other day and now I lose count on when we do... I feel so lonely and down. I think im going to have to go doctors. I have been in previous relationships and treated bad. I feel like history will repeat itself xx

[MichelleGC1978 in reply to MichelleGC1978]

Thanks for your reply xx

[JessieCritch in reply to MichelleGC1978]

Huni u have just had a baby give yourself a break don't feel unattractive your body has worked miracles producing a baby your baby adores u to be honest I think your better off on your own as your partner seems like he isn't showing the support or being the doting dad that fathers are should want to take his baby out in the pram to show people xxx

[Sisi14 in reply to MichelleGC1978]

Babe it’s the baby blues and with his ways it’s making you feel worthless and unwanted he’s being selfish and you don’t need him In your life if he’s treating you that way.

I’m pregnant with baby number 4 and it’s not unusual to feel unattractive and lonely but that was my own insecurities he shouldn’t be making you feel that way. If you go doctors or health visitors express your feelings it might help you. Xx 😘

[MichelleGC1978 in reply to Sisi14]

Thank you all of you x