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[Chloeevans]

I finally told my mum today about my pregnancy and she is fine and supporting me through it, I booked an appointment at my gp which is next week however my boyfriend wants me to give the child away for adoption I don’t believe in giving my child away when my mums told me that she’s going to help me through my pregnancy but he still wants adoption because he doesn’t want his parents to find out that I am having his baby what am I suppose to do??

[jenna01]

It’s a tricky one for you, at the end of the day it does affect him as well as you, and maybe he doesn’t feel ready/able to be able to take of the baby. At the end of the day if you want to keep it and it sounds like you have a good enough support network around you, you will find a way to make it work! Just you need to be prepared that although he may come round once he gets his head around things, he also may not want to be involved in the babies life either financially or emotionally so you need to be sure you’re not going to be in a position where you’re relying on him. Either way, do your research and see how you can make things work without him. All the best hun x

[Major2116 in reply to jenna01]

I think this is very good advice! Couldn't put it better myself. Wishing you all the best hun! X

[JLew]

Hey Chloe, has this been an after thought? I remember you saying you went to an abortion clinic a little while back. If he has considered it and doesn't want to be involved then okay. I get that he may not feel ready at 16? However, he took a risk and needs to accept that responsibility. How long have you been together? He should be supportive. If you don't mind me asking. Ultimately, it's your body and your decision. He might feel differently once it's born. Adoption is stigmatised. Adoption isn't a bad thing? Adoption is about accepting that it could have a better life with people who may not be able to have kids. Another option is he can terminate his parental rights? Which means he will not have anything to do with the baby. Babies can turn out amazing and just fine with a single mother. Good luck x

[Kata89]

I saw your original post, so happy to hear that you told your mum and she is being supportive. It's your baby your choice ultimately, but listen to your boy friend, encourage him to be a part of the birth, he may be doubting his ability to be a parent this young. But you need to be sure that you make the right decision for you at the end of the day. Not saying that adoption is not a viable option for you if it is the right one. Make sure you involve your mum, if she will help you with the baby she will help you with your decision.

[roxannacar]

Maybe you your boyfriend and your mum should sit down and talk about this. It's both your child so you both have a say. I think you need to be frank about things... what if you keep the baby, will he stand by you it will he do a runner? Yes he might change his mind once. Any is here but he might not.

I think also you need to discuss what your mum is offering... I'm sure she will expect you to take a fair amount of responsibility, as it will be your baby not hers. I think you need to discuss the options available.