Emergency

[Bluelady-sing]

Hi guys I have an emergency It is day 12 of my cycle, we had sex, we had an accident plus we got carried away.

The other party has now changed his mind, I have pcos , what should I do, should I take the morning after pill.

It happened today at 3pm, or should I have this baby, I am probably going to be on my own. He made me believe we would be getting married. He does not a baby outside of marriage. I feel so stupid I know he has been check for STI etc in sept he says he has not had a partner since - what should I do.

What I

this is only chance to have a baby I am 41, should I leave to nature. I don't know if he will marry me.

[Georgina_D]

You are not pregnant until the embryo implants and the morning after pill may be effective up to 72 hours after sex.

If you do nothing, you might still not be pregnant.

Taking the pill might not work and you may still be pregnant.

You still have the option to have an abortion if you do become pregnant.

[Georgina_D]

Only YOU CAN answer the following questions:

Do you want a baby now?

Would you be ok being a single mum?

Are you physically, financially and emotionally ready to become a parent?

Do you want to give birth to a child who's father will want nothing to do with you?

Please remember there is a chance you might not even conceive x

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Georgina_D]

No I do not want to give birth to a child the father wants nothing to do with. What our child needs them

[Bluelady-sing]

No I don't want an abortion

[Hidden]

Then go get the morning after pill just to be sure.

[Lyndsaytw79]

He sounds like a jerk

[Bluelady-sing]

yes I know you can't believe how angry I am. I never trust anyone, I feel like such a fool

[Joyblessing]

Honey everything will be okay think about you and the baby do not panic may be this is only the chance you have in your life time.

[Joey89]

Just my experience, I got pregnant at 20 I didn’t find out until I was 14 weeks along the man has had nothing to do with me our our child I was no where ready for a baby let alone to be a single mother. My daughter will be celebrating her 8th birthday on Friday it was hard yes especially doing it alone but she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I would do it all over again you’re the only one who can truly answer that question many people are single parents and their kids are just as happy as others So just another point of view

[Passenger42]

If your 41 yrs then you should be able to decide if you want a baby or not, with or without a partner. your chances are even worse if you have pcos. Forget this bloke and think about yourself, a baby could be wonderful for you or if you don't want children you have plenty of time to sort out morning after pill. We have no guarantee a partner is going to stay with us if having a baby in a relationship so I think you should be focusing on what you want and if children is that don't waste anymore time. Your chances of getting pregnant greatly reduce in your 40's.

[Bluelady-sing]

The jerk so far has not answered any of my texts. I am going to decide by tonight what to do. The next few weeks are going to be tricky

[Lyndsaytw79 in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Asshole. You don’t want a wimp like that around anyway x

[AllWeNeedIsluv in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Sounds like he's one of those pricks that spins you everything you want to hear then when he's got what he wants he's gone. Your well rid hun. Xx

[Bluelady-sing in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Believe you me I am pissed of I would never have been with him had there been no mention of marriage

[ChrisWest1983]

Good luck in making the right decision for you!

You might not even get pregnant this time (some women ovulate on day 15-18 in their cycle!)

I always knew that I want to be a mum. No matter what way. Worst scenario was - just to sleep with someone smart & beautiful - in case no one would want seriously me by certain age- then I would make the decision on my own as this is my life.

[Bluelady-sing]

I just did not plan on being pregnant on my own. What is if there are complications - like a c section. Yes I have just texted him an told him I wish I never trusted him.

[Hidden]

You might not even be pregnant You have options at this stage to prevent it if it’s been less than 72 hours. Why not use contraception if your not planning on a pregnancy in the near future. Saves the hassle and stress of what if!?!

[Bluelady-sing]

I have PCOS he thinks I might not be pregnant its 50/50. I am 41 with PCOS I did get referral to ACU unit for fertility one year ago, but I did not go. This baby might be my only chance that's why I am not on conception.

[Bluelady-sing]

I told him my dilemma at the time, I was really hoping he marry me, I so pissed of. I really wanted a husband

[Hidden]

You don’t need to be married to have a baby, if you want one so badly and this might be your only chance you have to be strong you can do it on your own.

I was married had 2 kids we split up after 16 years together, being married doesn’t always mean you’ll stay together forever things just don’t always work out. Now I have a bf and we’re ttc and we’re not getting married.

[roxannacar]

I don't mean to be rude but you posted a month ago saying your guy doesn't want to get married... so seems he was honest with you from before?? It's all well and good to say that he's a jerk etc but maybe you're not saying the whole story