Pregnancy after miscarriage

[Cjaythom]

Hi I’m wondering how you all coped, this is my third pregnancy, my first was successful with a fabulous dd, the second ended in mmc at 8weeks, and now I’m 4 weeks into my 3rd. I would love to get excited but I’m finding it really hard. I’m trying to keep busy but everyone keeps telling me I should rest. Ahh my head is all over the place.

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

All I can advice is to take it one day at a time and to remember every pregnancy is, different just because you lost before doesn't mean you'll loose again. Congratulations 💗. I know it's hard, been there too many times. Just take it each day at a time book an early scan if it helps. Wish you all the best

💗🤗😘

[Cjaythom in reply to AllWeNeedIsluv]

Thank you. 💕

[Major2116]

This is also my third pregnancy. Our first 2 were early miscarriages then we found out we were expecting again all within 7 months.

I know it's so hard. I cried almost everyday but like AllWeNeedIsLuv said, you just have to take it day by day. It was easier once I felt him start to move but the worry never leaves you. Try to keep your mind occupied. If you're having a down moment then talk to someone.

I was told what ever happens is out of my control and me worrying won't make it better. A bit harsh I know but it helped.

I'm now 35+2 with our rainbow boy! Don't give up Hope!

All the best xx

[hellonyago]

I had 2 miscarriages one after another then fell pregnant again (my 5 month old is currently awake and having a party at 6am!). I’m not going to lie, it’s a long, scary journey. It will go slowly but the best advice I can give is to really look after yourself, because atleast then you know you’ve done all you can (eg, eat healthy, early nights, no smoking/drink etc...). I found having private scans helped. We had a scan at 9 weeks and then an extra one at 15 weeks to cope with the time. It felt like forever but I found this broke the pregnancy up and gave us something to look forward to. It costs money for private scans but for me it meant I got to see little man every few weeks which really helped the time drag less. All the best and do whatever works for you at the end of the day, x

[hayley_m86]

My first pregnancy ended in a mmc but I’ve since gone on to have 2 successful pregnancies (I’m sat with my 2 boys now). I found both pregnancies hard, especially in the early days, as I was convinced it would happen again. I was lucky (in a way) as I had to have early scans with both of my boys as I had bleeding with both. That eased my worries as I could see that the pregnancies were developing differently to my first. I would definitely recommend early scans, just so you can see and hopefully put your mind at rest. Once I’d hit 12 weeks it was easier for me, as I’d gone past the stage I lost number 1. Although I was still cautious and didn’t buy anything for the first boy until I was past my 20 week scan (the second lives in hand me downs). I don’t know if any of that has helped but don’t suffer on your own, do what works for you. I hope everything works out for you. Xx

[Cjaythom]

Thank you all for your words of support. It helps a lot. X

[KellyTrip]

My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage then I got pregnant again quite quickly after. I was so anxious and didn't want to tell people. Once you get to your 12 week scan you should feel more reassured. I was still anxious later but it was a combination of the miscarriage, normal worrying and it being my first! Thankfully you are no more likely to have another miscarriage just because you have had one if you get whst I mean. I now have two children!

[hough]

Agree with KellyTripp, with early or mmc it can be the luck of the draw (rather than anything you did). I had a mmc some point after 7 weeks (lasted bout 2.5 weeks) of first pregnancy Jan 2014 (started trying Oct 2013, so pregnant really quickly). Had been commuting 3.5-4 hrs a day for nearly 3.5 years at that point. Had obviously given up booze, caffiene etc Xmas 2013 as pregnancy test positive 23rd Dec, so of course we told families. Stuck to healthy living, changed jobs Feb 2014 (approx total 1 hr commute), pregnant again July 2014; our son will be 3 in April. Nov 2017, mmc again (lasted around 10 days) at round 6-7 weeks; commuting 3 hrs a day again (relocated from Berks to Monmouthshire for cheaper house in Aug 2016 & work just over Severn Bridge), too much caffiene, booze, etc. & cream crackered these days. Could be I need to look after self better (unfortunately have to commute, as am breadwinner in our family), or could be just not meant to be that time. I have thyroid condition which prob doesn't help, but could beat myself up, or could figure its just one of those things & maybe one day, I'll be lucky again. Just my thoughts, based on my experience.

[Kate91]

I had a miscarriage at about 6 weeks after my eldest then had a successful pregnancy my second son is now 13 months old and I'm pregnant again. One miscarriage is easily had followed by successful ones. Chances are that a miscarriage at 8 weeks was caused by baby not growing right. But there's nothing to say this pregnancy won't go fine xx

[Cjaythom]

Thank you all, I’m a logical person, and I know you are all right. It’s funny how all logic gets thrown out the window when making babies comes to play lol!

[Cjaythom]

So I had a scan yesterday, as they are monitoring a Cyst they found when I had the Mmc. And saw mahoosive Cyst ~10cm and a tinny weeny sack ~5mm where it should be for 4-5 weeks! So fingers crossed!!

[Sisi14 in reply to Cjaythom]

I wish you the very best Hunni and I hope it’s not causing you any pain x

[Cjaythom in reply to Sisi14]

Thank you x no pain at all x

[Sisi14 in reply to Cjaythom]

Good to hear my lovely xx

[Cjaythom]

So this week has been traumatic. I’ve started to bleed. Start with a brown discharge then really light pink and then quite red. Not really heavy but enough to wear a pad. No pain though except for aches. I’m hoping it’s a blip! Hubby amazing and has paid for a private scan, which is today. So fingers crossed it’s a blip.

[Major2116 in reply to Cjaythom]

No pain is a good sign hun! Thinking of you today! What time is your scan? At least you haven't got to wait ages to find out if everything okay xx

[Cjaythom in reply to Major2116]

It was at 11. Not conclusive she couldn’t see anything but it’s not looking good. Thank you. X

[Major2116 in reply to Cjaythom]

Sorry to hear that hun :/. So you still don't have any answers. Have you called your GP? X

[Cjaythom in reply to Major2116]

Yep I have an EPU appointment on Monday x

[Major2116 in reply to Cjaythom]

Fingers crossed for you hun xx

[Major2116]

Thinking of you today! Wishing you all the best xx

[Major2116]

Hope you're Okay hun xx

[Cjaythom in reply to Major2116]

I’m Ok x gutted but ok. Xx

[Major2116 in reply to Cjaythom]

I take it it was bad news :(. Sorry hun. I'm here if you wanna chat. Don't give up hope xx