Hmm

[3baby1]

Pregnant with first child got 20 week scan on Saturday. We were planning on keeping it a surprise but I want to know what's growing inside me atm it's just a bump think it'll make me connect more if I knew the sex if that makes any sense...

[Bea9000]

Congratulations!! I was exactly the same, we ended up finding out the sex and I am so glad that we did! I've been able to connect more with him, we are having a little boy, and being able to plan his room in blue and buy boys clothes etc has made it more exciting for us! I would recommend finding out! xx

[Hidden]

I know exactly what you mean. We were always going to find out but when we did it did feel like we have more of a connection xx

[MichelleGC1978]

Congratulations... I found out with my other children,now discovered i'm pregnant again. I don't like surprizes. so good luck with what ever you decide x

[roxannacar]

Lol I don't do surprises ... So I found out both times. I must say whilst I was pregnant I was worried that I didn't seem to be completely in love with my bump like other mummies and thought I was going to be horrid mum... But that for me changed as soon as she was born... It was love at first sight. Now worrying that I won't love my second as much as my first but I'm sure it will just disappear once no2 is here!!

[ChrisWest1983]

My boy was shy to reveal his sex, so I went for a private scan at 25w - I just needed to know!

If you need to know- you just need to know!x

[Hidden]

I was in the need to know camp! Although I don't feel it made me connect with my bump any differently. It just meant I could crack on and buy lots of dresses! I definitely get how nice it is to keep it as a surprise too. Bring a piece of paper and an envelope and get the sonographer to write the sex and then seal it. It will give you more time to think about it and discuss with the other half! Hope he scan goes well! X

[emmab178]

I was in the need to know. My husband really didn't want to. That debate was a quick one with a sentence like 'I'm carrying it, I want to know'. I feel alot more prepared knowing.

I know what you mean about the bump but once the kicks start it becomes more real

[Mafuthi]

I'm really sure you'd like to know that for your first child. Go on ahead and find out, its nice to know. Congratulations I hope all goes well for you.

Xx

[Hidden]

In my district I've been told not to ask the sonographer the sex of my baby by asking as they won't tell us (unsure why other than they must've made a mistake at some point and upset a couple and hence changed their policy?!?). So it looks like my husband and I will have to be patient as neither of us are keen to pay for a private scan. We'd rather spend the money on the baby. There are lots of amazing sales on with great clothes for little boys and girls which makes it tempting. We have bought a lot of unisex clothing (there are lots out there) so if we decide to have another in the future we have clothing for him or her.

If I was given the option of knowing I think I would still like a surprise for my first. If I have more then I may like to know.

Friends have told me that it is easy to determine if you're having a boy or girl from the scan. Having never had a 20 week scan before, I will have to wait and see. It's very exciting either way!

Good luck ladies 😁👶🏼

[LindsayB24]

I know what you mean Hun. I'm pregnant with my 3rd and at 20 weeks if bubba (nickname for now) allows us we will find out if we're having Sophie or Benjamin. Every time I've found out what we were expecting as the connection is very much more stronger. Good luck. Xx

[rachellj93]

I'm 35 weeks now and I don't know what I'm having. You can prepare just as well not knowing and i feel very connected to my baby. But it's totally personal preference.