21 weeks and 4days pregnant with really bad depression

[Sophieford]

Hi can anyone help me this is my first time being pregnant nd now I'm 21 weeks and4 days pregnant and I'm feeling servely depressed

[KellyTrip]

Have you tried speaking to your midwife? You shouldn't feel like you are alone when you are feeling like this. What about your partner?

[GingerAcorns]

Hi Sophieford,

I'm so sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. Rest assured that you are not the only pregnant woman experiencing this. Antenatal depression is not uncommon and thankfully society is far more aware of it now.

You now need to seek medical care. Do you have a pre-existing mental health condition? Are you already under the care of a GP? Have you ever required medication before? Do you have a strong support network around you? Can you speak to your midwife? Sorry for all the questions, it's difficult to guide you without more information.

You really need support around you now and for the birth/postnatal period. Unfortunately antenatal depression is a risk factor for postnatal depression. Ensuring everyone is aware of how you are feeling now will ease the postnatal period should you continue feeling this way.

Good luck with your pregnancy, I hope you receive all the support you require.

[stilllearning2016]

Hi Sophieford,

Oh I am so sorry to hear you are depressed! tell us more about how you feel. Here on the forum, you needn't worry about being judged for what you say. Life is sometimes downright miserable. And it's hard also when other people expect you to be "over the moon with joy", how could they understand? Here you don't have to worry about our reactions - we're here for you!

One more thought: there is always a possibility that depression might be aggravated by a nutritional deficiency, which in pregnancy can be more prevalent. Your doctor could do a blood test to rule out important factors.

Hope you'll stay in touch with us!

[sunshinegigi]

Hi, so sorry you are going through depression. It can feel like such a horrible time. People expect you to be a super woman and magically deal with everything so easily. Try to talk to someone, your GP , midwife, partner or a friend. Your GP might be able to help, you shouldnt have to go through this alone. I hope you feel better soon x

[Colly78]

Speak to your midwife honestly about how you feel, they're there to help and you are not being judged by anyone. You are a valuable person you shouldn't suffer in silence through this, it's not your fault you feel this way. There is a light at the end of the tunnel even if you can't see it yet, just keep moving forwards one step at a time and be very kind and patient with yourself.

[Hidden]

Hi, first of all well done for admitting it, it's the first step. It's more common than people realise actually. I world def say tell your midwife or Gp. There are some anti depressants that are OK to take during pregnancy. When they ask how you are just say. Well actually I am feeling really down at the moment. They usually have a questionnaire to score how depressed you are and take it from there x