Fed up, teary, feeling shattered.....:-(((((((((((

[heegy]

Hi ladies, i'm 31 weeks today and really starting to wish this little bubba along now. I'm feeling pretty fed up, had to go in to hosp last week as had horrendous pain in top of tum (like really bad cramp) which lasted about 15 mins on & off. Hosp tested me & baby all afternoon and all ok - they said it's just one of those pregnancy things. They said my iron is low and gave me tablets and I have low blood pressure - I've been feeling sooooo shattered, feel dizzy when I stand too long & feel like I need to sit down and i'm getting out of breath a lot. I really feel like I need a break from work just to lay on the sofa and do nothing. My husband & family keep telling me i'm overdoing things and I should slow down. I'm going to the docs 2m to see if they'll sign me off for the week - do you think that's ok or am I being a wuss???????

[Hidden]

Yes it's ok! You aren't being a wuss. Pregnancy can be hard. Some people....I being one of them (except from 36 weeks).....have easy pregnancies and can carry on doing normal stuff for longer. Others may have more issues or physical symptoms throughout their pregnancy. If you are struggling then you should try and do something to help yourself and rest sounds great for you right now x

[heegy in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, you've all been so lovely! I think it's hard because some people treat you like 'ooh you're only pregnant - not ill' and I wish they could be in my body for a week!! I'm signed off for the week, so intend to sleep,sleep,sleep!!! xxx

[gigglysheep]

Defo not a wuss move. I was wishing my mat leave would hurry up at 28wks. It can be so tiring at this stage and even ur hubby thinks ur overdoing things so I doubt anyone would blame u for needing the break. Good luck with the docs and I hope they sign u off xx

[heegy in reply to gigglysheep]

Thank you so much, signed off for the week and feel relieved. It is def tiring now and has surprised me as I am usually so active xxxxxx

[scoffcat]

I think that's really sensible - pregnancy can be really, really hard and you need to look after yourself. I work freelance and gave up work at around 30 weeks. Hope you feel better soon!

[heegy in reply to scoffcat]

Thank you , signed off for the week and I feel relieved to be honest. So nice to know people understand xxxxx

[Hidden]

Hi Heegy, you are definitely not a wuss!! I too have suffered with being shattered, low iron, low blood pressure, constant nausea, hurting hips etc all throughout. I am now 35+4 and have been on maternity leave since Xmas (I work in a school). I , like you, felt like I was maybe being a bit of a wuss and felt really guilty about crying all the time over it and feeling so lazy. Most of my colleagues had taken maternity leave at 38 weeks or things like that and were looking at me Iike I was being a bit weak and silly taking it at 31 weeks. I was "told off" by my amazing partner for having these feelings because at the end of the day the important thing is you and your baby, not your duty towards work, and I realised that he's right. At the end of the day, you won't get a medal for carrying on working and your boss will expect you to do your work just as if you were feeling absolutely fine. But you're not so you need to listen to your body! Pregnancy suits some women more than others. I , for one, absolutely hate being pregnant, although I already love my baby more than anything in the world (well, just as much as my two other children and my partner )!! They are contradicting feelings and it can really exhaust you and make you feel like you should be coping better than this. But I'll tell you what: now that I'm off work, I feel a lot better, both physically and mentally. I still have ups and downs which is to be expected in late pregnancy (and this is my third so no, it doesn't get any easier with experience). I really think a week off will do you some good, honestly, make sure you get that certificate from your doctor and look after yourself (and therefore your little baby). I hope you feel better soon xx

[heegy in reply to Hidden]

Thank you SO much, such lovely, caring advice. I went to the doctors today and saw the worst doctor in the world . I sat that there in tears and she just stared at me (my friend who used to work at the doctors told me she has always been a b****) anyway, the upshot is that i'm signed off for the week, I took my cert in to work and they were fine, although, like you, can't help feeling that they think i'm being a lightweight, but to be honest I don't care now. You're so right, I need to think of myself and baby. I've had 2 hour sleep today, did a little bit of housework then layed down again for a bit! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Hidden in reply to heegy]

Excellent job! I'm glad you got the week off. Now make the best of it and yes, just sleep and do a little bit here and there, it's the best medicine. Enjoy your week off xx

[Hidden in reply to heegy]

Really glad to hear you've taken time off. You're not a wuss or a lightweight at all! I think many women have similar feelings regarding work (I do!). Remember, overdoing it won't do you or the baby any good. Make sure you don't replace the time off work with housework or unnecessary chores and that you REST! X

[Hidden]

Hey ur def not a wuss..actually very sensible to admit tht u need to rest and am glad ur able to rest now. I suffered with high blood pressure towards end of pregnancy and I had to take bit of time out and was glad I did. Get some well earned rest b4 baby comes along...hav a duvet day...watch some films and relax.. xx

[sammi123]

argh im soo joelous lol!! im 30+3 and feel knackered!! some days im fine but mainly drained altho my work isnt hard i sit behind a desk but its more stressful due to the people i have to deal with on a daily basis im due to go on mat leve on 14th feb and these last weeks are crucial as it counts as 90% of my mat pay so really dont wanna take time time off as every hour counts! i verly much look forward to 9pm and going to sleep...every pregnancy is diferent people, specially men just doint understand, screw em! have a good rest up girly xxxx

[heegy in reply to sammi123]

Ah I know what you mean, i have a desk job too but finding the days long and tedious! I go on mat leave on the 28th Feb and I am counting the days! You must be due the week after me? I'm due on the 23rd March. I've even started a list of the things i'd like to do when i'm at home before bub arrives (swimming, lunch with friends & family etc). Not long until the 14th - keep your pecker up! xxxx