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Hi everyone, hope you are all enjoying the sunshine. It's my Son's birthday this week and I don't think I will see him as I wanted to take him out for a meal and buy him something he likes with lockdown lifted because me and my wife are getting divorced and he is in the middle of it and he as some issues and it breaks my heart how messy the divorce is and it's weighing on my shoulders . Clive X 🤗

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Sadly we are all the same . My sister is in hospital and it is so hard to just rely on almost ' call centre' phone calls

She won't talk because I'm divorcing her because of the past and I don't love her anymore , she want us to live together under the say roof but I couldn't . Clive X 🤗

Thanks Jerry.🙏

Divorce is always unsettling Clive, even when our children are grown. In fact it can make matters worse as they can form their own judgements, whether right or wrong, mostly through their own hurt. It is a messy business and I've had many years of a similar situation which only ended when my ex-partner died but which still has repercussions to this day. I can only wish you the very best of luck in navigating your way through it, and my advice would be always to try. Never give up on your son or the hope of reconciliation. You will most likely eventually reach a place where you can at least have some contact, but maybe it's too early yet. Wishing you all the best with the process. There's often much less sympathy with a divorce than with the death of a partner, but the pain can be equally difficult!

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Thank you for your kind words Sue I have is mobile number and I text him but is Mum is his crutch from what happened year's gone by x

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Your wife wants you to live together but you are quitting. I don’t know what else is going on in your marriage but when your son grows up he will know about this and this might be a bigger issue. I know that I am a total stranger who totally knows nothing about you and I am sorry if this offends you but I am just giving you a tiny morsel to think about. I hope that you somehow get to spend time with your son.

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Hey Littleboy, regardless of what transpires (or has transpired) between you and his mom, do what you can to love your son. Sometimes that will mean that you go out of your way for him, sometimes that will mean that you endure some crap from you ex, but endure that crap for him. You get buy him things and take him placed, but ultimately it will be your actions of love towards him that will be the most beneficial to him. I pray you get wisdom to see what those actions are in the moment.

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