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Turning the page.

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We turn corners and we renew.

This has been the most disastrous year for me and so many in the same boat,we have known losses and grief but we are still here,all be it battered and emotionally bruised.

My great friend L is now dealing with the same as I went through and its heart breaking,and David's school friend J is now in later stages of Dementia,he remembers no one,cant talk or walk, Dementia has to be the cruellest of diseases,and my prayers are for a cure as i never want to see that kind of suffering again.

This year of Covid19 has affected us all in so many different ways,and i think we have learned who our friends really are,so many fair weather friends are devoid of genuine concern,they dismiss us with a few meaningless words ,but on the other hand there are people who do really care.

I miss socialising,but having been all but isolated for most of the year i have coped,i dont know how but i have,despite feeling at times wanting to throw in the towel.

Of course i get overwhelming feelings of being unworthy and useless but my indomitable spirit sees me though.

My church has been an inspiration,my friends who constantly phone me from distant shores,my circle of close friends who i have video calls with,have made me feel truly blessed.

Not only have i lost my soulmate but i have been dealing with so many things on a daily basis,and still these things are arriving daily,I have been let down badly with our management agent who should have dealt with problems as they came in ,instead of putting things on the back burner...I digress.

Because of the new rules in place,i will be staying home instead of partying as was planned,and i will not risk spreading or contracting Covid19.....it would be extremely irresponsible,and quite frankly non of us are safe,it only takes one person to infect many. ! And so i have a very busy Christmas lined up ,all be it,from a distance,with phone and video calls,and that suits me well.

I wish everyone a safe and happy few days,its going to be different,but so what,we can get through this.x

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I'm sorry to hear your news of your friend's partner and your partner's school friend secrets - you're absolutely right, it really is such a cruel disease. I hope that in the not too distant future, a cure will be found (without nasty side effects) or some knowledge as to how and why it happens and how to prevent it. I hope your Christmas will be as enjoyable as it can be under the circumstances and that your New Year will be a pleasant one. x

Hi secrets that was a very touching post and I have tears as I reply my dad had dementia and it was so painful watching him suffer so I totally understand how you feel but I guess it was worst for you as was your soul mate, and I can honestly say that as I read your words my dad came through me I felt his prescense so strong, sometimes it's hard as I said before for them to get through,you have got through this year and so you prooved to be strong and vigilent and also I have had times when I wanted to go to sleep and not wake up and as have such a bad 2 3years it seems never ending I hope you like the moon and will look out with me and some others particularly on the full moon on 3oth it will be full for a few days so new years eve too so I'm looking to do a communal prayer and post nearer the time and the time to look sending loving positive energy cosmic energy out and this will come back to the earth I do hope you and your loved ones find some peace and have a much better 2021 take care big hugs as always to you from Mandy and pixie and to your lovely dogs who are your savour as pixie is mine 💛💛🌟🌟X

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We do turn corners and we do renew. You are still here, still standing so keep going. Wish you a lovely Christmas.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us secrets22. Sometimes it's not only cathartic to set it all out, but inspires others to either do the same, or to reflect on the fact that we all have troubled times, and we learn and grow from that. Special good wishes to all those people who are going through dementia in its various forms (including my own brother-in-law), and to all who care for them. It isn't easy and there certainly isn't any happy ending.Have as happy a Christmas as you can in this troubled time and I'm glad that you have lots to keep you as happy as is possible.

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Such a heartfelt post secrets22. It is good that you have a good circle of friends that are there for you. I admire your strength and resilience to cope with all that you are dealing with and you hope looking forward. Wishing you a blessed Christmas and best wishes for the New Year. ❤️🙏🌈

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Thankyou all for such kind words and hope for the future,we will all emerge stronger and wiser.......stay safe,with much love. Roddy.x

Years ago I used to work as a care assistant in a nursing home and there was a lady in there who had Alzheimer's and she was only in her 50s.

I have learned many lessons from covid about never taking anything for granted again and like you said I have learned who my real friends are and who is just a waste of my time and also how very little in life is urgent and important and about what's really important and what isn't

Merry Christmas to you and the dogs!

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