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Hi yes having a glass half full instead of empty I cannot bear negative people they drain my glass !! I am attracted to happy people 😁😁😁xx
While I agree with this as a basic statement, it's far too simplistic. Many people have difficulties that affect them subconsciously and cannot be changed just by conscious thought. I don't mean to sound negative or pedantic, but the causes of 'unhappiness' are far more complex than this quote implies. I agree that a positive attitude is enormously important, but it's only part of it. I don't like how many people blame others who are unhappy and tell them that they would be fine if they changed their thinking. Modern psychological thinking indicates otherwise.
Sorry if it seems that I am taking this too seriously, but I really feel strongly about it.
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in reply to Marnie22
I agree with you sometimes we feel down for various reasons like grief and health problems Marnie I have always said how I admire you as you somehow bounce back and are so witty but some people can't do this and this can be from depression which is deep set I know someone who had this so I apologise for not thinking more deeply into this before I replied I did think maby i shouldn't, I apologise if it's upset you I never want to upset anyone now I'm upset X
Marnie22 in reply to
No, don't be upset. The statement is true in some ways, it's just too simple. You haven't done anything wrong at all. Sending a hug. 🙂🌸
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Thanks Marnie I hope you like my gift posts I went on a bit but it's how I feel I was feeling deep about nature there's 2 take care hugs to you from me and pixie who got in the bed this morning sorry it's come on dark I don't have a brighter ☹️
Pixie in bed
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I would bring you these in person if I could I had some other night when I felt down it was a distraction for a while I had cheese last night and pixie took a piece off my plate what a cheek sometimes I don't have appetite then when I start I end up enjoying it 😸xx
Chocs for marnie
Marnie22 in reply to
Yum! Thank you! 😋🌸
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😊your welcome I'm glad I got a tin other day not opened yet I don't eat many but was a bit bingy on Saturday I'm still in bed and getting cramp but I said to mam what is there to do I havnt had much sleep and while I'm in bed pixie is good as he won't move until I do 😸
thanks for that Marnie. I am very depressed at the moment and not seeing any light at the end of the tunnel. I am lucky to have a wonderful mental health trust locally who have zoom coffee mornings. Speaking with people who are going through the same as you makes such a difference.There are times I feel a little better - seeing my grandchildren or if my husband takes me out .
Depression is an illness which I have had for most of my life and now I also have chronic medical conditions which inhibit my life. It is very isolating. If someone broke their leg everyone would be sympathetic, but if you have depression many are not sympathetic - worst I had was when someone said to me 'I wouldn't bother with pills, just have a glass of wine'
sorry if my post seems gloomy but that is how I and many, many others feel.
don't wish it on anyone.
in reply to panda60
Hi had depression when younger as I had a miscarriage and had to have councelling I also had a loss of the father in heart break I was very young and I'm not sure if it was hormones also from the pregnancy I do empathise with depression and low mood I have had times when after a accumulation of things I felt really low and had panic attacks and I won't go in to detail but at one point I went to doctors in later life and was offered councelling and medication I wasn't so bad as I got myself out of it so I apogis again I hope things improve for you soon sending a hug 💛🌟
Marnie22 in reply to
I am so sorry that you had those losses in your life. 🌸
*Trigger warning* Thank you for your reply. I am glad you understand what I was getting at. I was really shocked to discover that a third of people's mental health problems can be directly seen to have been caused by past experiences, especially from childhood. Mental health services don't generally tell people that, (in my experience - and I have worked in mental health services myself.)
There is a movement in modern mental health to move towards recognition that many mental health conditions are not, 'disorders,' but are actually predictable responses to past experiences.
I only learned this (initially) from a life changing stay at a suicide respite centre. No one had ever told me this before.
Sorry to ramble on!
Sending a hug.
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Hi I totally get where you are coming from. I've had depression on and off over the years brought on by the loss of my dear parents. I've lots of medical issues and pain 24/7 which have added to it. I do try and stay positive but as you know this is sometimes hard. I am usually a glass half full person.
Thinking of you as always.
All my love Lynne xxxx ❤️💜
4woody in reply to
Thanks Lynn. I'll use anything that has the potential to lighten the load as I'm sure you do as well.
depressionis horrid.itcan be so debilitating.My physical health was ok till about 3 years ago.
Years ago I was diagnosed with an interstitial
Lung disease,followed swiftly by lupus and RA.
.I did not too bad,managed to go to the gym for gentle exercise short walks etc.
Covid has done me no favours,lack of proper exercise made my back pain worse. Fed up.
Physio is helping my back,so I be abit more mobile.
I FaceTime my grandchildren regularly,sometimes they will interact with me,some times they run away.
I e looked on the vaccination date predictor.
It says ai should get my first dose between the end of Jan,middle of Feb..so st least there is some light at the end of a cery dark tunnel.
Some days my husband laughs at me,- I get wrapped up,go for a shorty walk.
If it’s too wet/windy etc I might be only out for 5 minutes,but at least I’ve been out.
Please don’t listen to what people who don’t understand depression say to you,it’s not easy.
Take care xx
Marnie, I agree that this is simplistic. I do believe that happy people do share this characteristic. That's the quote. Yes, we know a positive attitude helps. Modern psychological thinking does indicate more over has proven that a change in thought patterns alters brain chemistry which in turn alters mood. But this quote simply states one thing that happy people have in common. As I said to another person, I used to respond to this type of quote the same way you just did. It seems likely that many of us here have been verbally attacked with words like, "just be thankful for...." All I can do now is forgive them and move on... for my own sake.
Just wanted to add that for me, it's not about what anyone has said about having a positive attitude, (I haven't experienced anyone saying that to me personally,) it's more about the general idea that being in control of your thoughts so as to influence your feelings, (e.g. with CBT, hypnosis etc.) while being very effective ways to deal with many mental health issues, are not workable in the same way for all problems. You mentioned thought patterns, brain chemistry and mood. I am thinking of conditions such as Complex PTSD, where brain structure and function may have been altered by trauma and only trauma focused therapy can be used, as other 'regular' therapies that concentrate on consciously changing thought patterns, (without understanding trauma,) can actually make things worse. That's where I am coming from. I just wanted to explain. 🙂🌸
Absolutely 4woody! 👍😊
sure wish more people realized that we are all very lucky to have the life we have ...free maybe not really happy now not being able to visit but we wake up every day ...have love and happiness in our lives...have a roof over our head ,food and water and staying warm weather with heat or blankets ...i don't know for sure what lots of people don't have but i bet if they looked around they are very lucky by most standards ...love and happiness to all around here and more ...
well said, I find it genuinely helps to know that so many do not have the basics that you have listed here. That in itself doesn't lead to my own happiness but it does lead to a more sober estimation of my own circumstances, then thankful, then calm about my own situation.
My dad told me this all the time growing up, "It's not how much you have, or even what you have... it's whether or not you're grateful for what you have. If you can't be grateful, you'll never really be happy"
4woody in reply to
just spending time enumerating the things on my list is calming even entertaining sometimes.
This is incredibly True!!!1
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