My friend and her husband have their ups and downs but last night she called it seemed a bit haywire they live together she has 4 kids but said she needed rest bite and considered leaving they have been here before though it's her house he will never leave unless he says so causing upset. before he said she will have to wait till he finds housing which could take months to save for deposit etc By that time things seemed to have got better but she has been thinking to go to a hotel not open rent a house not possible friends house not possible has 4 kids in the mix any advice the relationship dosent seem violent just aggressive Insulting and patronising saying things like she let herself go she has currently no income but savings and obviously 4 young kids what have to go to school she feels if she leaves for a while he may understand she's upset more and not take her for granted cause it dosent seem to drill in and no apologies are made
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i do thnk she urgently needs to seek professional advice. There are sevrsl support systems listed on the internet. My GP also has valuable information
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Hi Afrohair, My advice would also be to use a help organisation to remove herself and her children safely from the situation. Women's Aid is very helpful, and the National Abuse Helpline.
It's a daunting step to have to take, and the solution's not simple, so using an organisation which understands all the implications is much safer than just leaving on her own.
Oh dear.
Many marriages are foundering over Covid, but if your friend really needs to separate , it is imperative she gets a solicitor to get him out. I'm sure that as the caregiver and with 4 kids, also the house being hers, she can get him out and get an Injunction against him to keep him away.
The relationship doesn't have to be violent to be abusive. Aggressive, insulting and patronising are part of the whole Abuse spectrum.
If your friend leaves the house with the kids, it gives him free rein. Not good.
Cheers, Midori
Yes I was thinking exactly the same. And depending on how long they have been together he may be entitled to some of the value anyway Causing her to sell or come to an agreement with him. Brian
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