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i'm not angry just a little unsettled.

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secrets22

With a full lockdown imminent it does'nt surprise me when so many ignore the advice given,and if people choose to flaunt the rules,just keep away from me.

I have been vigilant in keeping to the advice given,but i do rail at those who are convinced they could never be infected with Covid,and that in my opinion is completely irresponsible.

I cannot get angry at something which i cannot control and something i cannot change.Getting angry would only send my blood pressure up,and thats something i can well do without.

Certainly for those of us who live alone,its a toughie,and for me,without my wee dogs i would go crackers and I would require medication to knock me out for days.

I have always been a social creature,and indeed we do need the stimulous of human contact,but right now its not to be,and so i plod on waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel,but that tunnel is getting longer by the day,but i cant worry about it,life is still precious in all its mystery.

I still have my home,i still have comfort and enough to eat and drink,and i am grateful for all that i do have,no moans from me.

I used to worry that i did'nt have enough time to keep my house spick and span.......but i realise now that was'nt the case...

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There is light at the end of the tunnel. Maybe not this month or next, but it will come. In the meantime, there is always cake.

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We enjoy our cake here along with lots of cups of black tea!

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Black tea 😳. Lol my OH drinks black coffee so strong it’s like gravy browning, do they still make that by the way 🤔

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Agoodenough in reply to Hidden

I drink black tea and black coffee too 😁

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Do you remember Camp coffee or are you too young lol

Very well put secrets22.

Sadly the young generation are in such a hurry and think they must do everything " now "

many thinking they must also " have " everything now.

I count my blessings and try to find a positive in every day.

I know that I am lucky not to be unhappy if I can't get out and about.

Wishing you a lovely day

Ellie 🌼🌻🥀

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MadBunny in reply to ellj

Me too. I know I am fortunate an grateful for that , and there are thousands of others who are not. I just wish people would do the right thing. There are of course lots who do- but also lots who don't.

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Most people are pretty good on the whole its just a few as usual who spoil things for everyone else!

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It always is.Unfortunately with covid it only takes a few to start the spread.I've just read on the news that Blackpool's been swamped by people having a last ' fling' before restrictions are tightened on Tuesday!

I noticed out shopping yesterday lots of people not wearing masks- or if they do, at best they only cover their mouths. And as for social distancing....no chance. In the end I came home.

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A couple of weeks back one of my friends had wanted to have gone home early from a trip out as he was fed up as he was embarrassed as there were no public bathrooms open!

On Friday we were laughing about it as time has passed by saying how everyone at some point has felt like that!

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WallowaReading Rabbits in reply to MadBunny

I stopped at a shop a friend owns - masked and distanced. She told me a prominent member of the community came by and made digs at her mask wearing, and at hand washing. We now have two of our rural doctors in quarantine because a family with covid came in and ignored the clinic instructions.

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Most things in life you can wait for as I have decided myself its for the best to wait before making any plans in advance as to save myself the disappointment of them getting cancelled!

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I think most people at present are unsettled as I have been and with me the unsettled feeling has manifested as anger and resentment towards various things and had flared up last week!

Now I have calmed down and I am thinking more rationally I have decided that for the foreseeable future I won't be making any kinds of plans in advance as its not worth it as it upsets me when they are changed or cancelled so for the foreseeable future I won't be making any plans in advance as I feel its better to save myself the upset and not bother!

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Me neither. I will only be doing essential food shopping from now on and picking the times carefully.

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That's it most stuff isn't urgent or important is it and with me I ask myself is whatever it is important and 90% of the time no it isn't and can easily wait!

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Absolutely not.

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WallowaReading Rabbits in reply to MadBunny

I have identified some delivery services here. I also put in a garden for the first time (not very good, but got some stuff). In the winter, I have seeds that I sprout in the cupboard for greens. It really works. I've stocked up ahead not just for myself but to help out neighbors, too. I shop probably twice a month because this part of the US is even more selfish than the rest of it.

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Boudica1 in reply to Hidden

Hi, I've not made any plans since the so called lockdown started and then also finding myself in the Shielding group.

It used to crack me up with people whining about how bad it was only being allowed out to go shopping and for one hour a day for exercise. If they tried shielding they might have been a bit more thankful that they don't have to go through it and at least had some freedoms.

After being in shielding for four months it was a temporary pleasure to be able to go out and do some shopping.

That didn't last long though, the face mask rule came in and I'm exempt from wearing them due to multiple lung problems. Oh yes I was stupid enough to try wearing them and ended up ill much to the concern of my doctors who explained why I was exempt. I just wanted to do my bit in wearing a mask and I also feel that everyone else is looking at me for not wearing one. It's not nice walking around the supermarket on my once a week trip out running the gauntlet of looks from others even though I have a Lanyard hanging around my neck. It's like having two giant neon signs proclaiming NO MASK NO MASK, like I'm a Leper in the olden times having to ring a bell and shouting out "UNCLEAN UNCLEAN".

So no plans of going anywhere and am waiting for the Shielding pause to end and stuck in under house arrest for heaven knows how long.

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When I am out and I see those without masks on in the shops I mind my own business and dont think anything of it.

I had no problems with the exercise once a day thing and only shopping when needed.

It's not nice is it when you are led to believe you are getting freedoms from shielding and no you aren't and it must feel like a cruel trick has been played on you.

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Boudica1 in reply to Hidden

It's not a good place to be in but I do understand it. I sort of got the feeling when they said that shielding is being paused and the didn't use the word stopped that it was only a matter of time.

Another big hint about those who are in the Shielding group is that they were still keeping our names on the list " just incase".

We've kept to our little bubble and carefully pick our time to go shopping aiming for the quietest time to avoid people and never ever go at the end of the month when most people are paid and running around like crazy headless chickens in the supermarket.

One good thing about shielding was that I've learned to cut my own hair. It was tricky at first but needs must.

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springcross in reply to Boudica1

I know the feeling Boudica as I have moderate COPD and I wear a mask on the odd occasion I go out and you're right, it's hard. A lot of people don't know about the lanyards and I myself have never seen one even though I have heard about them. I was disgusted a couple of days ago to hear on the TV that a man had been badly beaten on a bus because someone had gotten on the bus without a mask on and all the man (who was wearing a mask) did was move back a little as the other one walked past. This led to the one without the mask badly beating the other because he was offended. What is it with some people. 😞

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Boudica1 in reply to springcross

Oh that's awful, the poor man. I would be more than happy for people to keep their distance from me. It makes me grateful that I have a car so I don't need to use public transport when I go shopping or to the now very rare hospital appointments.

It seems that I have the added problem with masks in that I also have problems with my Sinuses which makes breathing properly through the nose almost impossible and some how the warm moist air from wearing a mask triggers something that causes an infection of sorts and that can spread to the throat and lungs. If I was a normal healthy person it's not a problem but me being me it was and I ended up having to increase all my current inhalers and having a high dose of steroid nasal sprays and when that didn't work my poor GPs went into overdrive as they couldn't even get in contact with the team at the hospital so I was put on a very high dose of Prednisolone. Thankfully that worked and stopped it from going further down from the throat as the GP was a thinking about sending me to hospital.

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springcross in reply to Boudica1

Sorry to hear about that, it really is awful having that sort of problem but fortunately your GP saved the day as usually, once it goes down the throat, it gets to your chest and then the problem increases. I also find that unless my mask is tucked under my glasses, they steam up and I can't see a thing and I find that so annoying. xx

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Boudica1 in reply to springcross

Yes steamy glasses can be a problem at the best of times and I found very annoying when trying to wear a mask as well. You need some sort of demister for glasses, they must make some but the only place I can think to ask would be the opticians.

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springcross in reply to Boudica1

I've seen someone say that they don't work but I suppose it depends on which brand you buy. I remember years ago the optician's receptionist telling me to use a few drops of washing-up liquid in a small amount of water and then letting them air dry. I never tried it as I didn't want washing-up liquid anywhere near my eyes, diluted or otherwise. xx

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Boudica1 in reply to springcross

I've heard of that one and I remember from years back someone else mentioned cleaning glasses with a bit of vaseline on the cloth. No idea if it works as I never tried it. X

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No, I don't think I'd like to give that a go, particularly on reading glasses. xx

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Know what you mean I struggle as it is with the reading glasses as the opticians tell I have the start of cataracts plus some of the drugs I have to have can cause a bit of blurred vision along with the autoimmune disorders. So I now make the most of the days/times that I can see to read, sew and whatever else I love to do.

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Me too with the drugs for autoimmune disorder and blurred vision (mine is occasional but annoying), I also have wet AMD in one of my eyes and very small cataracts in both apparently. The autoimmune disorders are such a curse. xx

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Boudica1 in reply to springcross

You don't have to tell me about the curse of the autoimmune disorders, talk about is it a symptom of this or that one or is it possible for one of the drugs that's giving side effects. Makes me feel like screaming at times 😂 and the poor GPs are being left to deal with it the best they can. I feel sorry for them as they are not specialists and some of the complexities of autoimmunity.

As you know everyone who has a Autoimmune Disease is different from anyone else who has the same disease. Mine is mainly lungs gastric track and skin for someone else it's kidneys and glands or a combination of anything.

Oh well it's good to be different 😜.

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I hear you, I really do. Mine is RA and as you know several of the drugs take about three months to start working for some people, longer for some, shorter for others and in that time, the misery and pain is awful but on saying that, what would we do without them. xx

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My husband has RA and I tested a low positive but so far I don't have it.

Mine is Sjogren's Syndrome with possible Raynaud's and Lupus but at the moment the blood tests for Lupus are hit and miss, sometimes a positive ANA result and the Complements 3&4 are coming back low but I'm on the dmard Hydroxychloroquine so that can squiff the test results. But my bloods have a mind of their own as it can come back as one thing but the symptoms are completely different.

I've got to the point that I don't care as whatever it is it's mainly the symptoms that they actually treat and not the name. Oh yes my sister delivered a curve ball by being diagnosed with Coeliac so I've now got to be tested for that which means I have to eat all the foods I've been trying to avoid because of the problems that I already have with the lower gastric track just for another blood test.

You really couldn't make it up.

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Sorry about your husband, it's a real nightmare, for some more than others. I've been a bit concerned about Sjogren's since starting SSZ - I stopped them a couple of weeks ago due to rotten side effects but I think they take a while to come out of your system. How do you get on with Hydroxy? That could be what's affecting your eyes, do you have them tested? I suffered with Raynaud's for many years (fingers only) and several years ago it suddenly stopped and I wondered if it was because I was having osteopathic treatment on my neck (it was undiagnosed - I didn't go to the GP - it was obvious what it was). You're not having an easy time are you, it can all be such a nightmare. I hope you test negative for the Coeliac - all the best with it. xx

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Boudica1 in reply to springcross

Hubby has severe RA and is disabled because of it and after having a mini stroke no longer buries his head in the sand after all the things that the doctor in the hospital said that can be related to severe RA. Thank goodness he no longer suffers from Ostrich Syndrome ( head in the sand).

Me? I'm here, alive and kicking it's just a bunch of symptoms that I can pigeon hole as age, lifestyle or whatever just like some of the doctors in the past and even now can diagnose. Whatever I won't give in, or though having said that there are times when the brain says yes you can and the body says naff off you're effing crazy. Oops 🙊 sorry if that is a tad rude. 🙉🙈🙊🤣😂😂😂.

I've got to the mind set of do what you can, push a bit more and rest when you have to but always listen to your body it knows best. In fact understand that you know more about your body than the specialists because you've lived with it 24/7 for X amount of years, the doctors have studied it for a few years and even some of them if they are honest with you will say that they don't know.

Life is meant to be enjoyed and finding pleasure in the simplest of things or over coming something can be the best medicine around.

Oh goodness me getting a deep, sorry for that. 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂😂😂.

Must be the meds, time for bed 🛌🛌🛌🛌🛌.

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Some people are just angry over other things and something silly like the man with the mask on sets them off!

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Yes that's true but beating someone like that is not on - I'm pretty sure the injured man was unconscious and had to be taken to hospital.

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No it's not on and it's up to you to use your common sense before things go too far.

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The problem though cat is that some people go out looking for trouble. Before I met my husband, he got badly beaten one night by a gang for just walking across the city centre to get a bus on his way home, they waited for him and his friends to split up and go their own ways and then pounced. Some people are just that way, they love trouble.

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MadBunny in reply to springcross

Yes I saw that. Very upsetting.

Hi secrets. It's been on the cards for a while now I think as the planning and management of this has been abysmal to say the least and it's now on the rise again, which comes as no surprise and was forewarned almost at the very beginning, but those running the show flatly ignored the warnings. I will leave it there because it does make me angry and I don't want my BP to rise either.

I think dogs are sometimes our saviours - their love, loyalty, sincerity and sense of fun and intelligence are incomparable and have saved many a person from depression etc and of that I have no doubt. You are lucky to have yours in your life.

I'm glad some of us still have our homes as I often think of those poor people who don't at times like this and are living in one room, how do they cope and worse of all, those who have no home at all? It's then that I consider myself very lucky. x

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With me that's what it was that upset me was the way this has been managed rather than going without things in themselves again as I had felt a cruel trick had been played on me when they claimed things were going back to what they were and I had started making plans only to be told no they weren't which to me had felt like a smack in the face which is what had upset me a lot more than returning to lockdown in itself!

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Just on the news the warning is if we ALL don’t follow the rules of social isolating etc to stop this second spike within the next two weeks he will have no option but to put the Country back into lockdown again, so please God people will listen this time 👍🙏

I think they should shut the pubs again for the two weeks👍

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At least.

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My neighbour just told me she's heard that due to the threat of another lockdown people have started panic buying again -large orders online and delivery slots filling up quickly🙄

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Not here we aren't as we are well stocked at present so we have no need to go panic buying and just take things we need so there's enough for everyone.

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Me too. I hope that people don't start going mad again.

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There was no need for that silly panic buying back in March!

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