I want to thank all of you who have been so kind to reply to my post about my husband's mania. Today, I have managed via an argument with the hospital, to bring forward the second opinion that I was promised. This appointment is for Tuesday the 22nd of September. I only managed to get this appointment by putting the phone down on my husband's community psychiatric nurse. Seeing that she had been so rude to me during our telephone conversation I told her just what I thought about her and the lack of practical assistance which I should be receiving. After a few hours I received a telephone call from her boss, and this is how we have now got our appointment. It is all slow going, but I still have not been offered any practical support, as yet. I am feeling very worn out now, but I want to thank all of you for your support, and I will be keeping you all informed as to how things are going.
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I am glad you have managed to get an appointment and you are not waiting to long. I don’t think it is a time to hold any feeling back when you are in a desperate situation, you must tell it how it is and express how you feel about your lack of support. Don’t forget to right things down you want to say because you will always forget very important points when you are actually there and especially if you get upset. Good luck with the meeting and let us all know how you get on. I hope some solutions are found for you both. 🌸😊
I'm pleased to hear that you've finally managed to get someone to listen to you, not long to wait for your appointment and as Bobby says be sure to put everything you want to say in writing, hopefully this is gonna be the way to get some respite and peace of mind, keep in touch xx
Well done for cutting off the nurse who was being rude to you, and It worked. I'm so glad you now have a firm date for the second opinion.
Take written notes about everything, the car, the boiler and his shenanigans whilst out, also if possible police reports of how he has been. Give them to the Psychiatrist so they can become part of his records. It is important that they know just how much of a danger he is to the public and those around him (I know he's not going around with a gun, but there are other ways of being a danger to people.)
I personally think you have been badly served by everybody, although I know Covid has also gotten in the way. He appears so volatile that he should be under more supervision than you and two nurses can give him.
Cheers, Midori
I so agree with others and especially what Midori wrote of speaking up to the nurse. You certainly have not been treated with the respect and help you so need.
Crucial as others have mentioned to have written down important points to cover...I sometimes make a copy for the doc to follow as I read from mine.
Will husband be with you at the appt? If not, a second person with you to take notes would help because it is hard to remember everything discussed once home again.
Don't know if you can get some private moments with the doc but try. Impress upon the doc without more help and treatment for your husband, the doc will be dealing with two patients instead of just one. Caregivers need help and some breaks from the constancy of caring for the patient. Ask what it would take to get unwilling hubby into a treatment facility for help for him and a much needed respite for you.
Sending you cyber hugs and good wishes that you can find some moments of quiet and peace during this most stressful time.
Thanks for staying in touch with us and updating us 01776. It's a shame that this is all so slow-going, but I suppose at least it is going. Hang in there as best you can and please lean on us any time you feel that things are getting too much!
I am glad you are making some progress.
Hi 011776. That's such good news but it's a shame you had to go through that to get a little bit of satisfaction. At least you have a day which is not that far away now. It just goes to show that if you express your dissatisfaction, it really can make a difference. Do they already know about all of the incidents which have occured? If not, it may be just as well to inform them of all that has happened. I hope everything goes your way on Tuesday. All the best. xx
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