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"That Discomfort You're Feeling Is Grief" and Tips

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From David Kessler, co-author of Kubler Ross's "5 Stages of Grief", posted in Harvard Business Review. Now months after the initial outbreak of Covid-19 and publication of this article, I found re-reading this last night very supportive and encouraging.

For others like me, who have begun to wonder if the pandemic will ever end, it is good to be reminded that it will and there are steps to take to strengthen our endurance going forward.

For me, taking a break from media news, is one form of self-care and a way of "letting go of that which I cannot control".

What ways are others finding that help keep positivity in the forefront on days when discouragement threatens peace of mind?

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This explains things very well for people who are having difficulties coming to terms with the new normal. Some very good advice there. 👍🌷

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Yesterday one of my friends said how he is finding it difficult to come to terms with the new normal and I had said how time will help him get used to things.

He had wanted to have gone home early yesterday after the gift shop incident at the castle and I had asked him did he want to have a chat with us and how it always helps to speak to someone who isn't directly involved as you can be too close for comfort with those who are directly involved in a situation that you live with someone we had a chat over a cup of tea and said how we all get times when we feel upset and how it's always hard to take when things are taken away from you that you previously enjoyed without any kind of warning and how we have been through similar as well and that the passage of time will be of help.

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It sounds like you have been a very good friend who has been sensitive to the needs of your friend and given some good advice. 👍🌈

With me when the news upsets me I switch it off and walk away and do something nice for myself.

Daily walks have been of help to me and also reading and listening to music has helped to take my mind off things.

Having a good cry when needed helps as well.

At first I was angry and resentful when my usual activities kept getting cancelled and I had dealt with that behind closed doors and when I had calmed down looked at things that weren't cancelled say like reading and listening to music and cooking and went from there which helped to take the sting out of the cancellation of the usual things as one door slams shut other ones open.

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We have not watched tv news since lock down .They just go on and on like a dog with a bone. 5 minutes is usually enough. We look online , check status of our area. Tv newsjust winds us up.

We are aware of the need to stay positive. I e recently had to go on ambulatory oxygen. So that’s enough to cope with for now . Take care.

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I think TV news winds lots of people up so it's not just you who feels like that!

I think the news is on too often nowadays and it was better years ago when it was only on a few times a day.

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thara9643

I find that art has a calming effect on me personally. Also exercise. For me personally one thing that has helped me this year is a refusal to read coronavirus news. It has been six months since I have done that. Try keeping a diary of your emotions. Also perspective does make a difference.

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If something important does happen then it will come and find you.

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At catgirl1976, I've been saying the same for decades! Glad to hear from another who believes that what we need to hear will find us!

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I remember back in March when I first heard the whispers of bad things that were going to be happening due to the pandemic like exams getting cancelled and schools shutting down and it had sounded like something off a horror movie!

I had heard of covid and wasn't entirely ignorant but never did I think those things could happen and the lockdown as well.

So that had found me when I had attended a Welsh class that Thursday night and had been sent home at 7.30pm as they had decided to cancel the class as hardly anyone had turned up which was disappointing.

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