Exactly one year ago today my wonderful and gifted partner David left me,after his long battle with Dementia,it has been a traumatic year,full of hopes,sadness and fears,and Covid made things even worse with being isolated.
However with steely determination i have managed the first year of loss far better than i thought i ever could.
Life does go on,but its different,and to all those suffering grief,you can make it,and our loved ones would want us to.
Keep strong xx
Brave and inspirational words. Thinking of you.Karen x
Hello lovely comforting encouraging words,and i'm so sorry,I am having a break from here but i ended up coming on just to have quick browse and had to reply I will be thinking of you and honestly please believe me you will see your lovely David again and he is watching over you,love never dies love and big hugs from Mandy 💛😊🌈🌟💛
Yes,right now its very tough but my faith will see me through,and thank you.
Your welcome I'm still grieving my dad as he died end June and I had bit of a melt down lately and wished I could see him it was very hard as he died in a care home and I couldn't go in because if COVId but he looked up and waved as I looked through window, and last night as me and mam were speaking of him and my house problem I broke down it's like it doesn't take much and with all this virus stuff it's really been hard been cooped up with mam 24 7 and my mam saw a blue dot light thing a spiritual aurb which we often see them and she took a photo and it had shown to be moving on the photo I wi have to come back soon and post this. The more you believe the easier it is for them to get through , and I know you won't be thinking this yet probably but you will find love again life just has a way of sorting things out and I was just here again by chance and your reply popped on, when you look out at the sky especially on a night think of him and send your love out to him, 💛🌈🌟xxx
Deepest condolences once again secrets22. Bereavement is such a long and difficult journey especially when you lose your soulmate. Life does go on but it's a very different one and always with that hole in your heart that can't be filled. But here you are, a year on, having somehow managed to make it through, and I hope your following journey through life becomes a little easier, day by day. That's another wonderful photo and I'm sure that your garden brings some consolation to you and must hold pleasant memories of happier days. Take care, stay safe and be kind to yourself. 🙏
Thank you so very much,x
Hello secrets22 I understand so well your feelings of loss having gone through this situation myself. I lost my husband nearly 7 years ago just before his 75 birthday, he was quite a bit older than me. I had helped hi through his dementia journey for a few years before h really went downhill and was hospitalised. After a further 2 years at home, unable to walk he went into nursing care where he remained for 18 months. Yes, everyone says things will get easier to bear but there are always those trigger points and not just those celebration days. I wish you well and much comfort on your journey❤️
Gosh,so you have also gone through this terrible time of dealing with Dementia,it is so cruel,and is a death sentence.Wishing you a warm and pleasant Christmas.x
David would be so proud of you, special thoughts today xx ❤️💕❤️💕
Hi, It is very brave of you to post your sad but uplifting story. It is always difficult finding the right, comforting words at a time like this but, as you say, life does go on. You are probably amazed how time has flown. But dukring this difficult time you found a way of getting through the year while also dealing with the dreadful Virus. This says a lot about you as a person but you found an inner strength that you probably didn't think you had. I lost my husband 15 years ago and Christmas is always a difficult time for me as it will be for you. As this will be the first Christmas without David I hope you have good friends and family who will be there for you if and when you need them.
There have been many low periods in my life since I lost my husband. However, ,by accident I found this Site and I found it provided just the right sort of support I needed and now that you too have found it I'm sure you will find the same. So please continue posting from time to time, and let us know how you are coping.
Sent with a warm hug and my best wishes.
Chrys xxx
thank you so much,it will be a difficult Christmas as it has been for you over the years,i doubt it gets better,but it becomes more manageable,and this Christmas i will be spending it alone,mainly because of being in tier 3 of lockdown,but i'm not to fussed,it is what it is,and i dont mind my own company,and rather that than being in a crowd right now.Warmest of wishes to you.x
Secrets 22, I so appreciate what you wrote and appreciate your positive spirit during this still new time of such great personal loss.
My closest friend of over 30 yrs died in June and because of Covid, I was unable to be physically with her those last few months due to my own seriously compromised health.
I so agree that our lost loved ones would want us to go on with bravery and courage and while moments will continue to trigger our feelings of loss unexpectedly, we can continue to be grateful for the love and light they brought to our lives.
Like you, I'll be spending X-mas alone instead of sharing our traditional meal together. However, as with Thanksgiving, I plan to make the day one of gratitude remembering something I heard long ago: "Don't cry because it is over; Rejoice because it happened."
Your lovely photo reveals "the path ahead" in which we can continue to find beauty, hope and appreciation which our loved ones would wish for us. Thanks again for your message and photo.
I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your David.
Things always seem worse when they happen just before Christmas than at any other time of the year.
Thankyou so much,it is indeed tough at this time of year,and last Christmas was just to terrible,but we plod on.x
Sending love and my thoughts are with you today. I am so sorry to hear about David. X
Many thanks Jerry,it means a lot.
sorry for the loss we always think that they will be with us forever...such a loss ..my prayers to help you heal....
thank you very much.
thank you for those kind words.
I'm a bit late here but a sad and lovely post secrets. Good for you for overcoming your fears and I hope that the next year for you will be much happier. xx
Thank you so much,its been a very difficult time.
Yes, I saw a bit of what you posted whilst it was going on and my heart went out to you. All the best. x
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A much better day today