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Very depressed and Covid-19 spreading in my area near Seattle.

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Feeling very depressed lately and today especially. People are not respecting social distancing or wearing masks and in my area there are new cases of Covid19 because of all the demonstrations George Floyd and black lives matter oh, and people just going to parks and having picnics and getting all together and not even caring. My daughter has changed her phone number and said I should not call her unless it's an emergency. I'm not seeing any of my friends because none of the places I go are open, like the YMCA where I used to go three times a week. I feel very sad and isolated. I am living in the Seattle area across the water in Bremerton and now that cases are spreading here where there were only two in the whole county for a long time. Also I have lost two friends because they love President Trump and I just can't even fathom that.

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Oh dear poor you. I understand what you mean about social distancing. It’s not really happening here either. Seems fine around supermarkets but parks and open spaces people don’t seem to social distance for some reason.

That seems a bit harsh that your daughter has asked you to only contact her in an emergency. I think that would hit me quite hard as it’s a difficult time for everyone at the moment but maybe she has things going on too.

As far as Donald trump goes and anything political. I wouldn’t fall out with people but I have some strong views on things myself and I am happy with my views whether anyone agrees with them or not but I make a mental note not to get into discussions with people about these things. Everyone is on their own paths in life and we get to our place on the path from our own experiences and we may think some people are ahead and some are behind but that’s okay. Could you not be friends with these people?

I’m sorry you’re feeling depressed and having a bad day x

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Hi leftbehind ,

I know it’s frustrating when others don’t abide by the rules for distancing. Some people out here by me wants to get out, but they don’t want to use the masks and gloves. In my personal opinion, I don’t want anyone with no mask going anywhere outside. We need more people to be healthy before they get to go back outside. My County is in stage 2 for reopening places in Maryland.

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I am so sorry to hear you are feeling like this. There are many people not respecting social distancing, out and about. As long as you maintain your social distancing and wear a mask and keep yourself as safe as possible, that's all you can do. I am sorry to hear about your daughter. This must have been rather upsetting for you to say the least. You have to remain hopeful that the clubs you attend will be able to open up again so you can resume with your friends. Are you able to keep up the communications with your friends via face timing or another form of social media so you keep up that bond. 😊🌼

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Roukaya

Good evening

A sense of isolation and anxiety fuelled by a resurgence of Covid 19 will increase your anxiety levels

It is a double blow when your own daughter tells you only to call in an emergency

This sense of rejection a d feeling lonely and fearful is something I can well relate to

There are many on this site who will be kind enough to listen and offer you the emotional support needed to get you through this pandemic

To feel sad and alone and told by your daughter only to call in emergencies in heart breaking

I experienced such rejection when my Mother put the interests of her male friend ahead of mine

In the end my Mother came around and I expect your daughter in time will be kinder to you

In the mean time many on heat will talk and listen to you

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leftbehind in reply to Roukaya

Thanks for sharing. I am not alone on this website.

Hi leftbehind

I'm so sorry you are feeling depressed but under the circumstances I fully understand.

I'm so sorry your daughter has changed her number and will only speak to you in an emergency. It's very hard when our own flesh and blood don't want to speak.

I'm the same as you as I wouldn't go out with the way people are behaving in your area. I live in the UK and I've seen lots of people crowding around each other, they don't seem to care.

Do you have any hobbies at all? Also have you tried to meditate and are you able to exercise at home? Exercise helps me a lot.

I really hope things improve for you.

Take care and sending you my thoughts.🌈💜

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I'm actually keeping pretty busy by myself. I'm doing everything I can think of everyday to keep going and not think about isolation. I take a walk everyday with my dog, I'm reading, now Goodwill has opened up so that is sort of a social event, people are wearing masks there and they are socially distancing. It's just getting old and I want to get back to my painting classes, exercise classes, and hear live music! It's very discouraging when you see so many people not taking precautions and causing all the rest of us have to stay in even longer. Thank you for your support.

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I'm so glad you're keeping busy but can understand how hard it is for you not to be able to attend the social events you normally attend and your classes. I'm so glad you've got a dog and going out for a walk.

I totally agree, those that are bot adhering to the advice are making it harder.

Stay safe and keep well.

Alicia xx

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Mari4325

I am in a hot spot State and very few people wear masks here either except me and my friends. Your house and car can be sanitized and be your safe areas...I wear a mask and see a friend or two with them in a mask and distancing...but I think driving around a little while in your car with the windows up is good for you too...I hope you have hobbies! I blog and write and once a month my club meets on Zoom...if I had a yard I would garden...if you go to Church ask them to do phone volunteer work such as touching base with elderly members or do volunteer political calling for a Candidate. I have a friend who has chosen this time to learn to cook German food and she has fixed up her balcony on the 2nd floor with lights and plants and spends a lot of time outdoors reading and has begun yoga online. If you are on Facebook join a book club and find people with like interests...sending you good wishes...

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leftbehind in reply to Mari4325

Social media is be coming to make me crazy. I think all these people are my friends... Twitter, etc. Sometimes I feel like screaming when I'm looking at my phone. Like right now I'm hooked on it.

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GERALDDAVID

I know what you mean, seems like everyday is an assault on democracy itself!

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leftbehind in reply to GERALDDAVID

Absolutely. It's very scary. Now the jerk has had two Rally's, indoors, no masks, and already those states have broke out terribly. Trump does not care.

Hi leftbehind, I can completely understand how depressing that news must be for you. It's a little bit dispiriting for us all as we collectively hope for a brighter tomorrow.

Maybe you are overthinking all the world's problems. There's a school of thought which says that, if you can't make a difference to a situation, it's not worth worrying too much about it. The world is a very troubled place right now and one bad situation is affecting another. So I think the thing to do is to take personal responsibility for yourself and only worry about your own small things. One thing's certain and that's uncertainty. Nothing stays the same. We, and our world are in a constant state of flux.

I'm sorry if you've lost friends through political differences. It's a shame to let those destroy good relationships, as it changes nothing, and whether anyone supports Trump or not, in the longer term he's only going to be a bit of history that's discussed in schools! Take care and I hope you feel better soon.🙏

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I hope you're right about Trump. He is so depressing and anger producing.If he wins the next election I don't want to be in this country! He is making everyone miserable.

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mariootsi

This covid situation is scary and isolating and depressing.

And you are right about people not wearing masks or social distancing. These are such simple things to do.

What is wrong with people?

I have been in my house since our lockdown in March except for my onc appt. and a dental appt!

Everyday I see people walking through my neighborhood with no masks. It's really so inconsiderate of other people!

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Hi there

I get frustrated as well with people not wearing masks and not social distancing. The man in the White House holding campaign rallies is another source of worry.

I too feel isolated. I am trying to meet friends in the park for social distancing picnics and trying to talk to folks on the phone regularly. Getting out once a day for a short walk or a drive helps too.

I acknowledge grieving for a time when it was so easy to move through life. Maybe we will someday have a version of that back. Until then, we have to keep ourselves well and healthy, physical, emotionally and spiritually. Hugs and love to you and to all. This too will pass.

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4840

Hi, I feel for you! I live in Vancouver, WA. Same story with me..... I lost 2 friends who side with Trump. I cannot deal with this. We used to not discuss politics, but all of this has changed. There are lonely times!

I have my son and family live close by. They are my only support.

The demonstrations in Seattle and Portland have probably caused Covid-19 to spread.

There are people here who will not wear a mask in the grocery store.

I do miss going to my Yoga class at the Community Center, but everything is closed. We are in Phase 2 and hopefully we will be able to start Phase 3 in this county.

All the best to you!

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leftbehind in reply to 4840

Trump has been very destructive to friendships. If you love Trump more than me then I don't want to be your friend anyway! Maybe after the election if he loses. People seem to be brainwashed.

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Yep. That all sounds like a familiar scenario. Same in many parts of California also.

I thought we are supposed to be intelligent beings. I might be wrong.

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leftbehind in reply to daveh121

These people think they are better than Covid-19, as if they can defy it.

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Rimmy

You have had some great messages of support from people here on HU - so you know you are not really being 'left behind' ! It is of course perfectly reasonable you would be feeling this way in times that are very 'trying' regardless of anything else going on in your life. My oldest friend has an expression which has kept me going at the worst of times - just one word: and it is "FAMILIES !!!" (LOL) Despite the image/experiences we would all like to have of 'happy' and well-functioning family groups - a lot of the time things are very difficult and there are many reasons for this. Whatever is going on with your daughter I am guessing it's not about anything you have done or said - she is likely just overwhelmed at present with her own world - and that could contain all the present stresses and strains as well as goodness knows what !

But time will pass - things will change and sooner or later some of the old 'normality' will creep back in. In the meantime do anything that makes YOU feel better - and I can understand very well that may be NOT joining in with the Trump supporters !

Best wishes

XX

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leftbehind in reply to Rimmy

Patience...thanks.

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I am sorry you are feeling so isolated. We are all feeling some level of isolation, but this is when I will call a crazy, and or fun friend, watch a comedy video, watch an upbeat church service video, or watch an inspirational video. Reading a good book or watching a webinar's another option. We all love our family, but we don't get to pick our family members. You do get to pick your friends. If your family member is also a friend then you have been given a double blessing. Remember this challenge we are now facing will eventually run it's course, and be gone from our lives. We can't force people to do the just, or right thing. We can personally do everything possible to keep ourselves , and in turn keep our loved ones , and others safe. I hope pray you will find joy in spite of this challenging time in our history. Stay strong!

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leftbehind in reply to RLN-overcomer

A day at a time. I walk, read, watch funny animals shows. I called a crisis line and ranted...it was good. TY

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Due to rising COVID cases my county and 29 other's have been placed on lockdown AGAIN for most business. One is my hairdresser. Had my hair done just a month ago when counties COVID case's were not that terrible. So, due to many medical conditions that put me at a high risk, I'm isolating again.

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