I will be honest come from top end life and money growing up has not been happy but I want my children to grow up happy but not snobby and enjoy the small things.
Hey hope ur good but it's the same story here few of my aunts are rich big houses fat cars money designer gear you name it they have it and we'll I'm just a middle class!!! I've realised few years back that they are selfish big headed love competitions within the family my house is biger my cars better and so on its been 5 years I hardly speak to them trust me you better of without these people and be happy xx
I had gone overseas for the son’s engagement and I noticed she had ignored both me and Mother and did not introduce us to the guests
Following this, she had a tea party and I was not invited
She knew I had the intention of performing a Pilgrimage in Mecca and the day I was leaving she offered to bring me a free book
I told her not to bother
She exploded in anger and I left without speaking to her
I have now discovered that Islam is a religion of peace ,mercy and compassion
Her son a failed Doctor is very charming and has married into a very wealthy family of Doctors
In her mind she is living her dream and I have been rejected and excluded as I do not fit in
This really does not impact on me so much as I know what I would like to do
I have sufffred from low confidence and low self esteem for many years and I am the daughter of two narcissistic parents who have always put themselves first
As a result of this I have become lacking in confidence with depressive traits
But I am aware of this I will take steps to work on myself
It's hard when you feel lonely I understand trust me I have family like this they always used to put me down as a teen I was very chubby and used to get bulied from my own aunties never used to eat in front of them but as we get older we learn to be strong and this is wat you need to try to leave ur past behind and move on make a fresh start sod these people you don't need them!!! Do u have kids?
Lockdown doesn't help true yeah I'm a single parent it's hard work especially with health issues but my kids keep me going and there old enough to he honest I was going to say if you have kids make them ur family ur!!!! My eldest daughter is not only my daughter but my son also my best friend at times she can be my mother 😂 😂 telling me what to the kids keep me going otherwise by now I wouldnt be here which city you from
I was thinking maybe she needs a friend xx so how are you? To be honest I love making friends and sometimes being alone is the hardest thing to go through I rather have my friends then my family! How are you feeling?
I gave it up voluntarily years, but with stage 3 PBC drinking is inadvisable. The nearest I get to a high is my mug of real, hot black breakfast coffee. I am content; it helps with my chronic headaches: and never a hangover.
Hi Stub I like a drink, but now I’m happy with becks blue shandy- refreshing and al free Have a try in the sunny days sat outside and listening to your fav music 🎶 take care and wishing you all the very best
Fabulous way to think of things...The Serenity Prayer (though not practicing religious myself) is like a mantra in my mind on an ever challenging positive thinking mission! Do not waste time energy or emotions stressing about things u can do absolutely nothing to change - acceptance of new limitations knowing resenting Fibro would mean forever resenting what is now very much in the fibre of my being - loving that part of me would really be pushing it! 😜 Be kind to yourself and listen to your own body. Do what you can-when you can
Some wise words Patsy10. I'm one of those people who was never impressed by displays of wealth and never hankered after material goods or a 'superior' lifestyle. And even less so now I'm older. I get more joy out of finding a bargain at a charity shop than anyone ever got from a pair of Laboutin shoes. I just don't 'get' it! At the end of our lives it'll be people we draw our last comfort from, not a designer handbag. So why not value them more now? 🙏
I posted it because I think most people can understand it and hopefully when things change and change they must we will give more thought to what is important to us.
I can not say that I have lived by it but I'm getting much better as I get older. When one daughter got married I did indulge in a pair of Jimmy Choo shoes and you know what, they were sooooo comfy. However, before we departed the hotel I had given them to my other daughter who wore the same size. Recently she got rid of them but they were sixteen years old. Classic style that lasted well.
That is so true and a great way of putting things into perspective.This world is so materialistic and people can judge people materialistically for what they have or don’t have.
My dad always said something similar to what you said,thank you.
so true Patsy10. I am not age wise in your category, but my late husband was older then me, and I mean older, not a couple of months and we had fantastic 18 years of marital bliss.and he always used to say, nobody will take anything material on the other side, or whichever way you word it...
I don't want to be rich, neither do I hanker for possessions but.. I tried poverty in the 1950's and it was not enjoyable. The good life needs some comfort.
I totally agree and I think during this lockdown you realise just how little you do need to b happy just to get out in the fresh air is what I want when all this is over I used be more materialistic now I’m really not botherd if I ever go shopping again I just want a quality of life after lockdown x
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