My Granny has the virus . No symptoms but tested positive. I am so shocked and upset . For my Granny if she passed with her dementia a blessing if that doesn't sound rude?
My message is until this hits your family you have no idea of the shock please stay in if you can this so hurts wouldn't wish on anyone..
Best wishes
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I'm really sorry to hear this Mia. Great strength and healing to your Granny and to you and your family. xx
Thank you so much vicar is praying .
Bless you so sorry to hear about your Granny please keep in touch with us on here I'm sending up a prayer for you and your family xx
Sending prayers to your granny. Please give her Vitamin C, it would help her fight with the virus, do check with her doctor first.
Hi Shaz. It's not my granny who is ill, it's Mia898's but thanks anyway.
I'm sorry to hear that's happened
Me to being truthful at a outstanding care home .
I so understand as my mother and mother in law both had dementia. It's a very cruel disease. My thoughts are with you and your family. God Bless.
I’m so sorry to read this and really shocked for you too. Take care and know that we are always here for you. 😇
I'm really sorry. Praying for you and your Granny. Please let us know how she gets on.xx
I'm so sorry to hear. Wishing you and your family positivity at this uncertain time.
Thinking of your Granny and her family, sending love xx
So sorry to here about your Gran. You need to keep hoping she doesn't develop symptoms. I'm sure they are taking good care of your Gran. I can't imagine how worried you and your family are feeling at the moment.I hope for the best possible outcome for you all. xx
Sending you my best wishes. I will say a prayer. 🌸
I’m in Australia. My husband 87 got it probably from a cruise ship but after flu like symptoms which were mild test came back positive. Yes a shock but as I didn’t have it we had to self isolate from each other for two weeks . Luckily our unit has two bathrooms and two bedrooms . I had to deliver all meals, morning and afternoon tea to a table outside his doors and sanitise every surface he had touched - a challenge ! The health department here rang him every day and checked on his symptoms and how I was going re food delivery etc. The police checked twice that we were self isolating too-
But a very positive outcome. Both of us are now negative so a diagnosis is not always doom and gloom. Just sharing to encourage others. Hopefully your Gran will have a good outcome too.
So Sorry, at least she’s Not suffering from the virus. Dementia I know first hand, what you said is No way Rude. I’ve lost 3 close relatives from dementia, great grandmother, grandmother and my moms twin sister, unfortunately my mother will be Next...waiting for the phone call. I’m guessing the last phase of it, she doesn’t recognize us and sometimes Speaks Spanish. I hope this doesn’t seem insensitive? But for some Reason??? My mom seems to remember that my sisters husband has a history of being unemployed and has asked if he got a job Yet??? Lol this is the Only sister she sometimes remembers. I don’t know why??? My sister kinda laughs but seems embarrassed. So Please nobody write to criticize Me or Mia 898 unless you’ve walked in our shoes, everyone deals with things differently 🙏😷
I haven't walked in your shoes, but in no way can I see that you and Mia are being anything but realistic and practical; it doesn't stop your feelings being all over the place. My thoughts are with you both. Stay strong.
Thank You Maggie, how sweet of you, you’d be surprised how mean people can be. Even though I say I’m waiting for the phone call knowing it’s going to happen you’re Never really ready. I think I might have it? I tell doctors about this and they tell me me it’s me aging??? I’ve read it can be hereditary, I told them about my family history, I’m still ignored. I’ve been doing things that have scared me and raise a Red Flag. I’ll check with my insurance if I can challenge the doctors refusing to give me a referral?
They probably consider you too young to get it, but sometimes you have to jump up and down and shout at medics to get them to take any notice. Have you asked for a test? They shouldn't ignore you if you say exactly what you want. After all, it's not like looking at a mark on your skin and saying that it is or isn't worth showing to a skin specialist. It's invisible in a ten-minute appointment. Try again when things settle down, as I believe they have medication and dietary advice that can help delay it.
I don’t think I’m too young, 65. I don’t know if you’re from the USA? A president Ronald Reagan was said to have had Alzheimer’s in his 40’s, which is like dementia. But I will call my insurance and speak to them? They have went over my doctors head when they wouldn’t approve something
So we’ll see? Thanks for your support 🙏
I' m from England! I know you can get it early but 65 is not old and if you don't look your age, you can fool even your GP. But perhaps your idea would be less stressful; I wonder if your insurers are working at the moment. Good luck in every event!
Maybe? People are usually surprised when I tell them how old Iam? Though I have Natural Snow White colored Hair. I have some symptoms that I’ve read. My insurers are doing business, so I’ll call them about doctors refusing referrals. Thanks for your support 🙏
Me too. I have had white hair for many years now and did go blonde for a bit. Sometimes I have a streak of colour. Virtually no wrinkles - just "droop" My partner has symptoms too but someone else needs to see them before anything happens! We are all advised not to visit Dr Google but I think we need to be informed.
I agree, I have an idea what the symptoms are because of my relatives who’ve died and my mother who has it. I don’t have wrinkles either, All my brothers have white hair, my 2 younger sisters are in denial of this, they dye their hair. Even my mother up until she developed dementia still dyed her hair and started going bald. I told my sisters their gonna end up bald like our mom if they keep dying their hair😔
Dying your hair when you haven't got much doesn't help, does it? I hope you don't get dementia; we all have senior moments, so you can put some of your symptoms down to general ageing. Still it doesn't do any harm, if you want to know, to have tests.
Hi, keep active , look up anti inflammatory diet, also our brains need lots of oxygen so you could lookup hyperbaric chambers and also look up NAD and N-Acetyl-Cysteine suppliments, get lots of sun exposure but don't get burned. A multi vitamin, lots of fresh clean air. No refined food. Drink Filtered water.
Thanks, been having a bad couple of days I haven’t slept in 2 days going on 3. My Anxiety is high. I know things are Terrible out there, I’ve been self isolating myself. I feel like something else is going to go Wrong? Don’t think I can take anymore???
Good Morning
If you want private message happy to chat . I felt like this a few days a go but all good 
So sorry to hear of your gran, but totally understand your feelings. I was my mums guardian and lasting attorney for 30 years as she developed early dementia and spent almost her last 6 years in a care home.
When news of this virus spread i said a prayer to say thank you that she was no longer with me, my thoughts are with you and your family. And i will pray for your gran.
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Thanks, it’s my mom, she lost her twin sister last year to Dementia, we never told her. Grandmother/Mother many years ago. Thank god my niece is caring for her who lives with her mom. There are 9 of us and agreed she would Not be placed in a convalescent home, though one brother and my sister she lives with have a Difference of opinion, I’m staying out of it.
Sending love and hugs,to you and your granny 🙏🙏
Thanks for posting this and it is not negative ! More people ned to be aware and be active g sensibly . I hope your Granny gets better soon 💕
Hello Mia898. My thoughts are with you. And i get your sentiments too. Its not rude at all. Its very upsetting watching someone you love. And living with how you remember the lovely days you had with your gran. Dementia is a cruel disease. To me an Existence not a life as we know it. And me myself I would not want to live like that. Be Strong and always remember the good days with your Gran. And i bet your Gran is proud of you too. Take Care. Here if you need us in group. Brian
So very sorry to hear about your granny. I thank God every day that my family is safe. You are right. We can't imagine how it would feel if one of our loved ones had it. Too scary to think about. Many people who are not expected to recover from covid actually do so don't despair. Your Granny could get over it. Stay positive. x
So sorry to hear this. All best to you and your family. 🙏🏻❤️
Hello Mia898 and everybody,
It is heartbreaking what is happening to your granny. My mam also had dementia and I'm sure anybody who has any experience of it will not judge how other people deal with it. Hopefully, because of the dementia your granny will not realize she has the virus and the care home will do everything they can in a kind and compassionate way in her treatment. It is awful for you and your family so I hope it helps that lots of people are thinking of you.
Jeanne
Sorry to read that, Mia, these are such challenging times what with social distancing and worrying about the health of loved ones.
I understand your concern about that feeling of guilt. When a loved one is very ill, is it not in our nature to wish for them to be free of pain or to be given some release through a debilitating ailment? We think to earlier times, when our loved one was well and wonder what they would have say to you about it all! What would they say? Possibly something like "oh, I don't want any fuss" then make a little joke.
Dementia is so cruel, your loved one is still here in body yet their personality and mind have faded into something less recognisable. You are already grieving for that "lost" person. It is brutal.
Stay strong, stay safe xx
Sending love and prayers for you both ❤️🙏
So sorry Mia. I can’t imagine your distress. I pray the rest of your family stay safe. x
Sorry Mia and I appreciate your feelings - several of my friends have had or have got the virus and it is a worrying and difficult time - you are quite right all need to go with the govt directions, to look after and protect us all, they are there for very good reason and anyone who has got experience of CV know why. As encouragement my friends dad - very elderly, not well "usually" with carers, even one of the more at risk ethnic backgrounds and been in hospital with CV is now recovering and doing well - they are many good news ending to the virus for many many patients. As you mention your vicar and prayers being sent I will leave a little Bible verse I also find helpful as to prayers help for us under stress as it may be of help to you too - Philippians 4 : Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving, let your petitions be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus.
Keep us posted how granny does x
What is CV?
Coronavirus
Take care and know what you are doing for your grandmother is precious - so hard when there is dementia (my dad had that) but love shown goes a long way even by tech as we have to at the moment, a caring voice talking on the phone or however possible will soothe your granny. Xx
I am doing video calls . She cannot speak to me though . Non verbal .
That's OK Mia898, Sadly it can't all be 100% positive. These are troubling times and it must be frightening to hear about your granny. But the great thing is that she has no symptoms and I think when this is all tallied up at the end, there will be quite a few people surprised by the fact that so many people tested positive for the virus but didn't suffer any of the symptoms of the disease. As she's not having any symptoms, there's no need to be alarmed.
It's not rude to sometimes wonder why suffering people are still with us and when it's really bad, it's only human to wonder if it's right that they have to suffer until some undetermined date, to be released, but whilst we may feel that about someone else, it's quite often the case that, even in their limited way, they still want to be here.
Thanks for reminding us to stay safe and take care and very best wishes to your Granny.
Dear Mia898, how I understand your mixed feelings about the situation you face with your beloved Gran. Your love for her is clear and in your shoes it is perfectly understandable to feel that with her dementia and now this virus a gently passing is so much kinder than to just exist and suffer too. My late Mother had dementia and was in a home for the last months of her life, she had developed very serious health issues and it was only a matter of time. She was there but not there if you understand me and she no longer realised who we were; I was her youngest son and my lovely wife and I had looked after her for several years in her decline but latterly all she could do was constantly say the name of my elder brother who lived far away and never visited her. It hurt me, although I realised it was her dementia and misery. So we felt bad to pray that she might go gently and join my lovely Dad. So do not feel bad, I am 75 and suffer ill health but the one thing I am determined is that I will go when I am ready and not leave my family and loved ones to endure some long term pain as you must begin to feel. Bless you and your Gran and may the Lord watch over you.
So sorry, Mia, to hear about your Granny. Grandparents hols such special places in our hearts, don't they? Wishing her well and sending positivity, hugs and prayers your way
Good Afternoon
When Grandparents pass you never forget them and never heal don`t ask why
Absolutely, I hope she doesn't develop symptoms. Being a grandma myself, one forms a different bond with grandchildren but I remember mine with devotion and I know my children have a special bond with theirs. Hang in there and know we are all here to listen and respond. Grandparents are magical, aren't they?
First, let me say you can post anything here in regards to your feelings... it's not positive or negative, it's you're feelings that you're feeling sad. I would feel the same way as you. Your feelings are normal. Very sorry she caught the virus Sweety. She had no symptoms so maybe they were able to catch it at a very weak stage or beginning stage. I understand what you mean by passing with dementia she wouldn't understand. I'll say a prayer 🙏 for granny that she heals quickly. My blessings...♥️
Good Afternoon All
Thank you for your kind messages . I have to be honest I am finding them hard to read I am so very tired. I am videoing my Granny to calm her . Hopefully see how she is etc.
I feel today like I don`t want to work as worrying I may get this and die .
Not sure if that makes me sound selfish but being honest ?
It is so hard this virus and I don`t want to take on more work due to the worry I may catch the virus from the new work does that make me sound bad.
Thank you for all your support.
So sorry you feel so anxious: I had it a few weeks ago and it was pretty rough. I'm still too tired to do most things and I got very anxious when it did not look like the outcome was going to be positive. I think anxiety can have its place as it pushes out complacency but we all have to help it stay within parameters that we can cope with: there is loads of extra help out there as anxiety levels have rocketed. Please talk it through and take the precautions so that you know you are doing your best: there is nothing more you can do. Reaching out to give hugs. (I'm talking to my cockatiel a lot more, admittedly)
I am in no way a professional but I would start with MIND, to see who might be best. I just went on mind.org.uk/information-sup...
and they opened a chat box. Worth a go and it's free. Good luck, my friend. I also saw that there are tips on what to do if you feel you are having an anxiety attack. Maybe have a look...
Thank you . I have an idea what to do if I have an anxiety attack. I am studying mental health.
I have found that I have been more anxious than normal and I do a walk to help get the endorphins going. It isn't helping my weight particularly but I am able to cope a little better. It is a hard time and I was watching something where they were saying that anxiety levels have risen at this time in all areas of life because of the great unknown. So you are not alone, but you are unique. Please look after yourself.
so sorry to hear about your granny but glad she has no symptoms. Times are so hard now all we can do is pray and try to be safe. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Thank you . I think hope and faith is what is needed.
I agree that faith is really great, in that we have be able to accept. Smiling and laughter can be great: I did some laughter therapy over the phone with a group in the community and it was fun. My mother always says that she keeps busy to stop herself brooding and she is 90 strong. She calms me down when I get terrified for her in all this and tells me that she accepts and that is all she can do. I must say watching Captain Tom cheered me up no end, far more than watching celebrities representing themselves, however glamourous.
Laughter therapy sounds amazing . My ex is an amazing sounding block.
Hope I have plans after the virus my hope people say just an idea but I want it to come true people are well rude why do they say idea when it will come true?
All this put me off how unwell I felt via dizzy I maybe ok. Pregnancy test was meant to be my 1 job today did not get to that as been more thinking of Granny.
That would be a very good reason to feel anxious and dizzy! Low blood pressure? Be well and get that test!!
Hmm, if it is positive, take it all one day at a time and look after yourself. Being a mother of 8 kids (5 boys and 3 girls), I know all about neglecting myself and that was STUPID! Look after yourself!
I will I promise
It's really fabulous that you have reached out to all of us. Articulating the issues is sometimes the biggest step you need to take and the others are smaller. I hope Granny has an easy time and that she is well cared for
Positive wellbeing includes being able to express unhappy or confused thoughts. I'm glad you did. One "expects" an older person to pass away, and one "hopes" it will be quietly in sleep. I have heard many times that pneumonia is the old person's friend. I don't think anyone would wish the kind of pneumonia which some people get from covid19 on anyone. But it sounds like your grandmother is in good hands and will be cared for well. Whatever the outcome, remember that we all die but once. And if your grandmother is being kept as comfortable as possible that is a good thing. It is especially hard at this time when we can't be with our loved ones, whether they know who we are or not. But you can reach out to her in your mind, send her comforting thoughts. I believe that at both the beginning and the end of life a person is able to sense the thoughts and emotions of others. So send her peace and love. Maybe even think about times when you were happy together. I'm sure this will help both her and you.
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Thank you for this . Doing a video call tomorrow. Granny is in a outstanding private home so should get the best care big fingers crossed.
I always say how I feel . Moan to friends and share positives you have to let it go !!
Life is to short not to .
Wonderful.
I've been watching my (no longer so new and) only baby granddaughter growing up on Skype. So glad we got to meet her when she really was new, and again a few months later. At nine months she is soon going to be a toddler and I don't know when we will see her (or her parents) again as they live quite far away. But the digital connection really helps.
Great stuff, I'm off to bed as I have to rest more since I had the plague and also I'm getting up at 6.15am to work a newspaper round with my youngest. Lol. My joy to be with him. At my worst, a few weeks a go, I wasn't sure I'd ever hug him again. Now he's saying 'get off ME, Mum!!'. Life is so joyful when you value every moment and every blessing given. This episode has taught be to be grateful for all the wonders of the world and the wonderful people in it.
Have a good night . Did you have the virus ?? So pleased your over it . How does it leave you feeling??
Yes, I was in bed for almost 3 weeks and I was so weak, couldn't drag myself to the bathroom. I was very lucky as I had 3 amazing nurses doing 24 hour care: OH, daughter of 17 and son of 13. Lost better part of a stone (put it on again). Apparently I was still saying it was a mild case whilst my OH was saying he was taking me to hospital because I was too weak and not breathing well. Still tired but getting stronger every day. Very grateful. Think I was spared because my mother loves me too much to lose me
What does OH stand for ??? I can fully understand the tiredness that is me 247 !! So moan to me any time about that I will always understand . You where so lucky .
Granny's virus was mild .
Granny update . The care home where so upset in tears they cannot believe it . Granny has no symptoms and is fine going no where . If better Friday the other residents don't have to stay in there room . I don't agree I think Granny should be re tested Friday ?? I get to video call Granny tomorrow.
Thank you . How do we keep our immune system strong ? Sorry cannot read all this heads all over the shop . I am listening but so confused.
Immune systems are affected by stress of all kinds: lack of sleep/poor sleep, worry (that's a biggie at the moment), poor food, sugar, low D3, low nutrients, etc. I like glutathione for my immune system, and I keep my D3 levels very high. Watching things you find really funny also raises your immune system. I'm re-watching Life on Mars at the moment, and I find it hilarious. I've also been unplugging my router every night (and I don't have any electrical items in my bedroom) and I've been sleeping very well. Little things, really. They all add up.
So sorry that your granny is unwell. Hope that she is able to fight it off.
Our neighbours have had it and it truly is not a nice disease. They are in their fifties, very active - very kind and have been great neighbours for us - and fortunately didn't need hospital treatment, but Steve is still coughing and gets very tired five weeks after having it.
It is important to continue to take this illness seriously and to minimise the risk to catching it for you and your family.
I have to say I disagree with quite a lot of what you have said Nico101.
Stress doesn't help our immune systems and that will not help us to fight off coronavirus. There are some things we can do to help our immune systems but this is a very virulent virus.
None of the information you have provide is scientific research but only the opinion of individuals. They are entitled to their opinions, as are you. Not sure what advantage big pharma are getting from coronavirus as there is no cure for it. In the UK the number of deaths these last few months from all causes has increased. Please facts not opinons. It doesn't help when there are people out there trying the best they can to both treat this illness and to care for people to add layers of additional aswell as all of us minimising the risk of getting this horrible disease.
So sorry to hear the bad news. Hope you are doing okay.
My prayers and heartfelt love to you during this difficult time. You don't sound rude or harsh for those of us ( mom had dementia) who live, care and watch our love ones suffer. I pray healing and recovery for her and strenght for you. God is our help through all this, will be praying for your family.
NeeC
There was some pretty good news on our tv today. A woman in our community who just turned 100 had been on a ventilator with covid-19 and has recovered. Just saw her on the tv news, chatting with someone!
Good Morning Thank you . I will have to look back for this I didn`t watch the news.
This was in Nova Scotia. cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-sco...
It’s not rude.
My dad had dementia. He had his lucid moments when he knew what was going on. He said that he was good for nothing and ready to go. Died shortly afterwards. Respiratory failure.
He always prided himself on his mind and did a good job making a living with it. He didn’t care what happened to him physically he wanted his mind intact.
In some way it is sparing the afflicted from the inevitable.
Sorry to hear about your struggles.
I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandmother, my youngest daughter partner's Grandad got it too out of the blue, his only symptom was a tooth ache, two days later, he'd died. Sending you some love.
So sorry to hear about your loss.
Granny is fine . No symptoms all good . Thank you for all your support . However I have a head ache I don`t know why?
It sucks for you. Hope she has no idea what is happening. Somehow
Luckily Granny has no idea what is going on due to dementia so very lucky on that one.
She is lucky. U r not being conscious has + 's and - 's!
Not sure what this means ?? U r not being conscious has + 's and - 's
Being conscious or not has advantages as well as disadvantages. It is a matter of point of view.
With you if you had said Granny and not me may have been with you!!!
Please don't feel guilty for feeling it would be a blessing for her if she passed away, Mia. Dementia is such a cruel illness. My gran had dementia for several years before she passed away, and although we were all terribly sad to lose her, we were also relieved on her behalf that she was no longer suffering. It's clear from what you've said that you love her and would be terribly sad to lose her, too, and that you only feel it would be a blessing for her own sake. Sending good wishes x
So pleased your granny is doing well. My dad has dementia and is cared for at home by my mum and three carers who visit each day. I’m worried he may get CV but I can’t do anything about it as I live a long long way away. Hopefully he will get through this like your precious granny x😀
Cv guessing virus ? I understand re your Dad do the carers wear masks if so I would think the risk is low but still there so understand just so hard . Best wishes
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Not meaning to cast aspersions but....
I just had to share this