I’m really struggling with my mental losing interest in so much, don’t want to leave the house even for a walk.. have no family to help
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Positive Wellbeing During Self-Isolation
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Hi there hope you are well and a lot of people share what you are going through. Do you need a handy hint about getting out and about? The answer is, don’t go out but do put outdoor clothes on such as trainers or a warm cardigan. Keep well!
Thank you for your reply.. I do get myself dressed but then think what’s the point.. I feel so lost not knowing what to do
Hi Pixie74, so sorry to hear about this. When our spirits go down it can be quite difficult to make ourselves do anything. But I hope you'll be able to try. If you can find one little thing to make you feel better, you can build on that, and eventually make yourself feel more cheerful again.
Do you use this community much to stay in touch with people? It's so hard for people who are alone and isolated. Sometimes, joining in with the posts in the community can make you feel less alone and so many of our members are great at offering their online friendship and support.
Of course nothing's going to compensate for the usual way in which we live our lives, but see if you can find that little bit of determination inside you to not only survive this crisis but do it in a way which doesn't cause you too much damage.
I hope that you are able to get groceries. If you are well enough to go out, it might help if you can go out with a purpose to buy a few necessities, or a newspaper, or a packet of sweets for example. It's possible to do this as a daily routine, using it as your dailywalk, and I think it helps if you are able to see other people out and about (whilst of course maintaining social distancing). You seem OK with using the internet, so maybe try some videos on YouTube. There's so much to choose from there, from hobbies, to cooking, to travel and so on. You might even find a new hobby to help you through.
Everyone is hating this, I know, and I can only imagine how heavily time hangs on your hands, but trying to make a routine really will help a little.
Take care and look to the horizon when all of this will finally be over. We can do it. We are all stronger than we first think. Take care, and keep yourself safe, and come and post here whenever you need some support. 🌸
Pixie74• in reply to
It’s a real struggle with everything feel like it’s all hitting me in one full swoop.. I have only just joined this today.. I just feel lost lonely.. thank you for your kind words
When the sun is shining, and it feels fairly warm, Perhaps you could open the door or window and let the outside come in. Listen to the birds singing and if you have flowers growing close by your door, take a deep breath and smell them. Hopefully you will regain some interest in your surroundings. If someone walks down the street while you are looking out, call a cheery HELLO. You might not get a reply, but they might just turn and smile. You might make someone's day. Does your local council run any support services? Check their website to find out, Do you enjoy reading? You could download an e-book and read it at your leisure.
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Above all, please keep safe but don't give up. XX
Pixie74• in reply to
Thank you for your reply, I seem to be losing interest due to lack of sight and just anything in general
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That's really extra tough on you Pixie74. My brother-in-law suffers in a similar way. His sight is also very limited and he's slowly lost all his interests, although in his case that's been made worse by his dementia. But it does make life an extra challenge, even when times are more normal.
Do you like music at all? That can be very cheering, and you can even sing along to some of your favourite songs, or get lost in your favourite classics. But try to stick to the cheerful stuff, as music can unfortunately send you off in the wrong direction if it makes you too nostalgic or it sounds very sad. Keep trying to find reasons to be positive. Maybe decide to make one reason every day why and how you can. But meantime, thinking of you, and please try to enjoy your day as best you can. 🌺🌸
Don't know what you're usually interested in.
My sister is in the same lockdown but likes newspapers so has signed up for an on-line daily local and I know a local Sunday paper is also offering an on-line edition for the lockdown's duration at least. Both of them offer puzzles which I find quite helpful.
Our brother is no bookworm but even he has got into reading biographies. There's lots of podcasts on all sorts of subjects by all sorts of people . . .
Can you resurrect some old hobbies? I knit and crochet and read a bit, (Kindle if necessary) though I've got some books there I've been meaning to read, and limit my newswatching to one major bulletin a day, plus radio headlines at other time and some of the better tv quizzes - and answer the questions (as much as I can).
Much as I don't like indoor exercise I'm insisting to myself that I do one basic on-line (beginners level) session each day - it seems to help the mind as well. Anyway I owe it to me to be fit enough to get back to my 10,000 steps a day once we are allowed out.
Investigate what's normally on offer locally and plan for trying out at least three things you would usually like - once things normalise. Be good to yourself - you deserve it.
Ok you are not in s good place right now but hopefully things will improve. We have to remember this will not go on forever.
Advice to help through the day, put some music in and sing. Or dance or both. Sing loudly. When you dance or jiggle about in my case I know i could give Michael Jackson a few tips. Gentle hugs
Thank you
Do you have a garden you can sit in? It's really hard to push yourself out of it , this is a good place to talk to people and maybe YouTube videos, anything that's uplifting and positive xxxx
Yes happy motivating songs are good, xxx
Thank you I am in my garden after falling out back door forgot step was there
Sorry to hear that hope your ok
Do you have any support from anywhere else like support worker etc, are you entitled to any help that way? Xx
How bad is your sight loss, I was registered blind in October 2017, but I have some vision in one eye, no vision in left eye, it's hard dealing with it, I've gone from being a car driver to using public transport, where I live I have 3 small shops nearby where I can get bread milk and other bits, have you been in contact with the RBIB, or any other agencies helping people living with sight loss, sending love and hugs x
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Like you Jennymary, I have no vision in my left eye and very little in my right eye. This doesn't impact my life as much as the fact that I can't walk more than 5 steps. Wrote this a few days ago:
Exercise in lockdown
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I’m walking to the wheelie bin alone,
I have to be careful not to stand on a stone.
Because if I fell, and I just might,
as no-one would come and put me right,
in fact they would probably think I was tight!
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Time to turn and go back to the house,
this time I almost stepped on a mouse!
The wildlife round here fills me with fear
but I’ve nowhere to sit and shed a tear
so I’ll lean on the bin and catch my breath
while the birds in the trees scare me half to death!
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Now where is that moggy that lives with me?
Curled up by the fire is where he’ll be,
won’t even have made me a cup of tea.
Who’d be a woman with wonky legs
I really ought to rest my pegs
if I ever get back from my wheelie bin walk,
I’ll just sit on the sofa and phone someone to talk.
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I did actually fall over yesterday so both hips really hurt me now, but at least I didn't get another vertebral fracture (Osteoarthritis and Osteoporosis). 
I got diagnosed in Oct 2018 but lost sight just before xmas which has been really hard, trying to adjust to things.. I feel ashamed and I’m blaming myself for what has happened..
Please don't blame yourself, after I lost my vision, I felt that the hospital that were treating me were to blame, (long story why) and it took me a long time to wrap my head around what had happened, and over time I accepted it, I was born with glaucoma and I've lived my life knowing that this could happen, so for me it wasn't what had happened but the way it happened
I'm so sorry to hear that Pixie74 . Have you got friends that you can talk to? Also, could you draw up a list of hobbies i.e. crosswords/puzzles. Also, there are times when I don't want to go out and I give myself a talking to beforehand and always feel better for going out. Easier said than done I know but you can do it, trust in yourself, you are number one and are worth it.
If I feel at a bit of a loss and feeling down I will do some deep breathing and I find it really does help.
Please do not hesitate to carry on posting here on how you feel.
Take care
Pixie74• in reply to
Thank you, my mindset is so different as I’m struggling with childhood issues and now all this just want the pain anger to go
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I feel for you and can resonate as well as I had issues from childhood which weren't pleasant. I have found that talking to people helps a lot and being on here and saying how you feel is positive.
It probably sounds too easy but this is what's helped me and that is to focus on positives, you can jot them down on a piece of paper. First and foremost be kind to yourself, you are worth the time and effort.
Please dont hesitate to talk to people on here, we are here for each other.
Take care and stay safe xx
Pixie74• in reply to
I’m just so scared to open up incase of judgement, I feel so insecure unstable and just not worth breathing in this air
Sometimes it is hard to speak to people you don't know but you won't be judged here, this is a safe supporting community. You are worth everything, do not ever think you are less worthy than the person standing next too you. Have you discussed the way you feel with your GP. He may be able to help and offer counselling. There are also a list of numbers on the site for example the Samaritans should you feel the need to speak about confidential matters that are bothering you. Please know, we are here. xx
Thank you, I’m struggling so much just don’t feel I belong anywhere be better if I wasn’t around.. I have a horrible feeling in my throat like anger I feel I need to lash out xx
That simply is not true, we all belong somewhere. You belong here. I can't sat I know what has happened to you but I can say you won't feel this way for ever. Have you thought of phoning any of the help line numbers, you can speak freely to them and it's all confidential. The way you are feeling at the moment must be very unpleasant but there are definitely people who can help. xx
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You can say anything you want on here, no one is judgemental, you are worth so much.
Please talk, we're here to listen and I understand how you feel. I used to feel worthless but no longer.
Take care and keep posting. We are here. xx
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You have made one good move so far Pixie74 and that is joining the community. Talking to others about how you feel might help to get your frustrations out. Also it is a caring and supportive community and there is usually lot's of discussions going on. Some give you ideas or maybe advice and some are just fun and take your mind off things for a spell. It can be difficult to stay positive but you try. Think really hard about what you might find enjoyable to fill some of your time and schedule it in to your day to break the day up a bit. Also as others have said, keep posting and join in. xx
Thank you, i feel so alone
Have you ever seen a counselling service, CBT therapy can really help with negative thoughts about yourself, and help you talk about your feelings of anger, I find writing things down helps when someone has upset me, sometimes things make more sense on paper, I'm always told I'm over sensitive and easy to wind up and some people take pleasure in it unfortunately, this place is really good to get support, and there must be some help available for you on account of your sight problems, since moving back to where I grew up it's brought up a lot of old feelings for me as people think and want you to be the same person you were 20 years ago, umm no I'm not lol, like your cat names, I have a cat called Polly 😂 it's extremely hard but the way you feel about yourself is not always the way things really are , take care xxx
Thank you
May be doing your one favorite thing or eating your favorite food or talking to a friend over the phone may cheer u up! Remember it’s your life, I tell my friends u r the captain of this 🚢 ship! Make the best of it.
This is a wonderful group of supportive people!
You poor thing I can totally relate I am high risk 4 weeks isolation in for the next goodness knows how many weeks. I made myself feel better made a homemade mask just 5 layers of the materials I have in the home cling film a cotton, then use a scarf tie round my head, plastic gloves I had for the garden. that is just my daughter dropping off supplies keeping to the rules apart. Would it help you to do similar get out make sure you keep away from people distance. Keep strong, positive this is temporary get through this. xxxxxx
Sorry to hear that you are feeling low. I think the Easter weekend is affecting a lot of people.
It's when families and friends get together or perhaps you would be going away. The sun is going to shine and if you can get outside tomorrow to sit for a while it will lift your spirits.
Life will return to normal at the end of all this. Do take care and stay safe. xx
I live on my own and thus online website has been a huge source of support
Many tones when I experience highs and lows there is always someone to share a kind and encouraging word
This on line website was formed to assist with listening and giving hope and courage to those who struggle with the restrictions brought on my the Lock Down
If you are feeling sad or anxious may be you could reflect internally as to what is causing your sadness and lack of interest
I think be kind to yourself and look at today as a positive step by which you are reaching out for support
I do not even go out for a walk for a short bout of fresh air given the anxiety of the virus
Be kind to yourself
Thank you for your reply.. I feel guilty for asking for support when there is worse going on.. my head is such a mess I’m all over the place
There's always going to be someone worse off and someone better off but it doesn't make your worries any less valid and you shouldn't be shamed for feeling how you feel as making you feel bad cos Joe bloggs has it more difficult is a form of shaming and people do it all the time, it's also good to.have those reminders that things could be worse and it usually is the case but it can also make you feel bad for feeling the way you feel, everyone needs and deserves human interaction and a feeling of belonging to something to thrive it's human nature, wishing you a good day today xxx
Thank you .. it’s the guilty feeling that I should snap out of it but I can’t xx
maybe try offering yourself compassion or pretending it's a friend and think about what you would say to a friend, most of social media and things online are designed to make you feel this way, and some people also find satisfaction in it unfortunately so avoid them like the plague , don't let it drag you down xxx
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Hi, I know so many people have written amazing replies so I will keep mine short. I have made myself a small daily exercise routine which I just force myself to do to so I still have a sense of achievement everyday. I hope this helps!
I’m limited to what exercise I can do due to suffering with fibromyalgia, I’m just losing interest xx
Sorry to hear that. Are you able to do some mild stretches when laying down just to loosen off a little?
At least the sun is shining so you can let the fresh air in! Xx
Thank you so much, x
Hi - been feeling the same as you but for the first time in 2 days I put my trainers on and walked my dog for 20 minutes - I usually ask my daughter to do it - so glad I made the step - really hope you do too. 😊
I did get dressed and managed to get in the garden and enjoy the sunshine, I’m just need to snap out of this
It’s a start, don’t be hard on yourself, hun - are you going to do the same today?
I guess it is a start, just feel so alone not having any family.. I will push myself to go in the garden.. hopefully you’ll do something nice for yourself too
I read one reference that said we should not feel like we have to be productive at the moment, so you are ahead of your time by accepting it.
My wife struggles with this also.
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