For Valentine's Day . Give yourself a little Self Love . Follow the Ten Commandments of Self Love and make Chronic Life a bit easier 💌

[Blearyeyed]

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Roses are Red , Violets are Blue , Here are some Rules to make life better for You!

With lots of Enduring Love , hugs, and germ free kisses for all my Faraway Friends Auntie Bee xxx

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THE TEN COMMANDMENTS of SELF LOVE ( 99% guaranteed to ease the Pain)

1. Thou shalt become your Best Friend and not your Worst Enemy.

2. Thou Shalt stop being all things to all people.

3. Thou shalt learn to say , " No!" . If possible politely but sometimes in a big , shouty , ' Nooooo!' voice.

4. Thou shalt leave things undone that otherwise would have been done . Spiders are perfect companions if you take the time to get to know them!

5. Thou shalt not compare yourself to others and learn to celebrate being occasionally boring , untidy , inelegant , downright slovenly , wobbly , forgetful and all your other wonderfully Perfect Imperfections .

6. Thou shalt stop judging yourself , unless it is to give yourself First Prize for Surviving another Chronic Day.

7. Thou shalt learn to plan a little ' Me Time ' into every day , and stand up for your right to enjoy your own company ( with a club if necessary!) .

8. Thou shalt learn that Doing Nothing is an Art and not a Sin.

9. Thou shalt learn to throw all those creeping negative emotions in the Mood recycling Bin and repurpose them into positive feelings ( or a crochet pot holder ) instead.

10. Thou shalt learn to Belly Laugh instead of beating yourself up at least once a day for forgetting to follow all the good advice you are given , including these Ten Commandments!

Here ends the Commandments of Self Love according to Aunty Bee!

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Give yourself a little Love today and everyday Forum Folks

And give a pat on the back to your Carers too.

Absolutely huge but pathetically weak hugs to All

Auntie " couldn't get into her Cupid costume " Blearyeyed xxxxx 😘

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[Longtimer]

Thank you for that, feeling very low today...this has given me a lift!...….

[Blearyeyed in reply to Longtimer]

I hope you feel better soon , and glad that this gave you a little smile.

Take care xxx

[scats]

Love my spiders. They've just started subsistance farming in the windowsill dust, saves me having to feed them!

[Blearyeyed in reply to scats]

Living in the country I learnt very quickly that it was a lot easier making a pact with my spiders rather than trying to do a giddy dance with a newspaper around the house trying to catch the flies that would come in from the fields.

Not sure our Aussie cousins would agree though !!!

[Yellowbluebell in reply to Blearyeyed]

I love spiders and the bigger the better but my girls and eldests OH are scared and squeal loudly when they see the tiniest one!! Thinking of getting a snake as OH hates them and he might leave home!!xx

[PMRpro Ambassador in reply to Yellowbluebell]

Younger daughter is too - and she was brought up in the country! Phoned me here once, standing on her bed, starkers and dripping, having found a spider under the shampoo bottle ... Really not sure what she thought I could do!

[Yellowbluebell in reply to PMRpro]

Probably what my mother thought i could do from sussex when her cat jumped in through her bedroom window in her bungalow with a huge rat!! She stood screaming on her bed for ages before realising even after she rang me i was unlikely to go to yorkshire to remove the damn thing!!

[Blearyeyed in reply to PMRpro]

Give it a good talking to down the phone ??!!!

[PMRpro Ambassador in reply to Blearyeyed]

That assumes she was in the same room or the door was open!!!!!

[Longtimer in reply to PMRpro]

Never get spiders in our house....we have floorboards, so they must live underneath. Previous house had concrete floors, had them all the time...…..

DIL, has dreadful phobia of them...OH just picks them up in his hand....so he has some uses!!

[Constance13 in reply to Yellowbluebell]

"eldestsOH"???

[Yellowbluebell in reply to Constance13]

Eldest daughters husband!! Hes a big wuss

[Constance13 in reply to Yellowbluebell]

I just wondered how many OHs you had had!

[Yellowbluebell in reply to Constance13]

Thankfully only one of my own. The others belong to my daughters. Mine is a pain in the butt so couldnt manage more than one!!

[Constance13 in reply to Yellowbluebell]

You love him really! Think of life without him??

[Yellowbluebell in reply to Constance13]

I wouldnt swap him but his pillow often edges towards his face when hes snoring.xx

[Constance13 in reply to Yellowbluebell]

The poor OHs - they do go through it on here.😂😂

[Yellowbluebell in reply to Constance13]

Mine is really quite good at doing stuff to avoid me doing it but sometimes i do feel like smoothering him. But better the devil you know!!

[Louisepenygraig in reply to scats]

I've always loved spiders and they keep the fly population down too. Just wish they wouldn't s**t on our bedroom window though

[Yellowbluebell in reply to Louisepenygraig]

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[scats in reply to Louisepenygraig]

I thought that was the flies, in your case probably as they die!

Have you noticed that their droppings are always white on dark surfaces and black on light surfaces? They are made to annoy.

[Louisepenygraig in reply to scats]

May be it is the flies, I'd just assumed it was the spiders!

[Blearyeyed in reply to Louisepenygraig]

There seem to be a lot of misbehaved spiders on your side of the Bridge ! Hugs xx

[Blearyeyed in reply to scats]

What size are your spiders and flies that you can see their poops on your window sill??

I see the odd rolled up dry fly but I think they have just been kind and carefully packaged their rubbish for easy disposal.

[scats in reply to Blearyeyed]

HUGE! They have evolved gravity so flies are attracted to them!

[Oumaof2]

Love it Auntie Bea😘 .. No4 is my favourite... I home homeless spiders😊. I have names for them too... Trevor is the friendliest🕷️

Hope you feel better soonest... 💐

[Blearyeyed in reply to Oumaof2]

Wow, Trevor must be a popular name in the Spider World , I have one called Trevor , he lives in the corner of the bathroom with his long time companion Keith 😋😂😂😂😘

[Oumaof2 in reply to Blearyeyed]

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[TheMoaningViolet in reply to Oumaof2]

My husband and daughter name ours as well. Always preposterously posh names, sometimes titled. 🤣

[Blearyeyed in reply to TheMoaningViolet]

What like Sinjohn , Lord Spiky Legs and so on 😋😂😂😂

We clearly share the same juvenile ways to entertain ourselves , jolly good xxx

[Hidden]

My mantras all year round. After a while I have had fewer things offered to say no to. But that suits me!

[Blearyeyed in reply to Hidden]

I often have to say , " Nooo!" to myself these days more often than to others as most of my friends and family have learnt what they should expect from me far better than I have.

' No! ' has also got various phrases including , " Stop it!" , " Move away from the Seesaw " ,

" Have you learned nothing!!!" and my personal favourite , " Are you Mad!!!"

Love and hugs to you and your pooch xxx😘😍

[Hidden in reply to Blearyeyed]

🤣😂🤣 I remember those days. When my neices were younger we went to a zoo and there was a jumping hopscotch type thing which I was determined to do. The screams from all of us halfway through breached laws of noise pollution.

[scats in reply to Blearyeyed]

Mine to myself is a resigned no, meaning " you know you'd regret it if you did!"

[Marlenec]

This is great - printing it out and putting it up!

Big thank you.

[Blearyeyed in reply to Marlenec]

Great idea ,Happy Valentine's day , feel the Self Love xxx

[tangocharlie in reply to Marlenec]

me too!

[Blearyeyed in reply to tangocharlie]

Yes give yourself a bit if Romantic Mindfulness!! Hugs xx

[Grammy80]

Here is a big hug for you!!! Not only great info....very artistic...thanks Auntie Bee💗💗

[Blearyeyed in reply to Grammy80]

And a big hug to you too , thank you xxx 😘

[Jackoh]

Thanks, when you’re not feeling brilliant to think of others and post this- very very applicable in many ways. All a learning curve!! Xx

[Blearyeyed in reply to Jackoh]

Yes, we are definitely always learning and sharing , big hugs xx

[Luciejc]

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