Well, papers need signing etc, but we have bought our new home. The list of things which need to be done within the next couple of months is daunting. Heat pump installation (to make it livable), all new flooring. New kitchen, including removing a wall. Upgraded bathrooms. There are two full bathrooms, which I think is silly, and we may only redo one for now, but do it properly, then tackle the second after we've recovered from all this upheaval and expense. So, needless to say, I can't sleep. Woke up this morning and thought about the dogwood tree we planted last year and how pretty it was this spring, and cried, thinking I will not look out of my kitchen window next spring and watch it blooming. The silliest thing, really, but I think I'm grieving not celebrating.
Stress City 2: Well, papers need signing etc, but... - PMRGCAuk
Thier will be other views and other memoirs to be made in the new Home
think of all the excitement of doing it up .
Choosing Bathroom suites and fittings .
But don't do what I did took a book home to choose Taps only choose bathroom mixer £1000 had lights that changed colours didn't even know thay done taps that expensive.
Only one thing that I regret about Bathroom /Wet Room is I never had lighting around bottom of shower ,
So make sure you get it right .
You don't need to do it all at once do you .
After 13 years I still have Kitchen to do but with PMR its going to have to wait .
Woke up before 5 am today and couldn't get back to sleep. Chose flooring, eco-friendly Marmoleum slate design, will consult with family on colour. And looked at getting blinds instead of the hassle of making new curtains for multiple rooms with huge windows. My kids all have good eye for colour and design, guess who they get that from, so they'll help me make right choices. Hubby will love what we do when it''s finished, but will be thinking pocketbook the whole damn time.... What I say is, we've been saving this money for our old age, when does he think we'll be old enough to use it? When we're non compos mentis in a nursing home?
And I woke up with no morning stiffness, just the usual creaky shoulders which I think are weak from PMR/pred, hopefully will gradually recover. Which reminds me, there's a little dose of pred I forgot to take....
One of the things we had once upon a time, but since replaced (been here long enough for several iterations of walls and curtains) was Laura Ashley wallpaper. I did find last time that there is so much choice and never just the right thing. And then I saw it, something I would never have thought of but the colour was absolutely perfect. if you can imagine wallpaper with I guess the best way to describe the colour is pastel teal, but not solid, sort of painterly shading but with a subtle pattern of prehistoric-style cattle, and indecipherable words, hard to describe. My daughter was a bit shocked, but said to me after it was up, only in hallway and front porch, that is worked really well. Of course it is now dated and I know son will remove it, and if I were going to be living here I'd be starting to work on a renewal myself.
It is stressful and mixed emotions are just wild! But LIFE!! (try my relaxation at night the last track. sometimes I am so bored by my own voice I fall straight to sleep and the lunatic in my head is knocked out!! ) sounds daunting but if ANYONE will do it and come through with flying colors YOU will!!! Your dogwood will give someone else great pleasure!! and JUST take the advice you'd be giving all of us in the same situation!
Take lots of pictures of your view from the kitchen window - and remember, it isn't going away altogether, you can go back and see it.
We have two small bathrooms, one ensuite with a walk-in shower (mine, although OH uses the shower) and one with a bath and shower over it. opening off the hall. OH uses the bathroom so he doesn't disturb me when he comes to bed hours after me. I know people who think separate bathrooms is an essential for marital harmony!
Remind your husband that shrouds don't have pockets. You can't take it with you!
Shrouds don't have pockets. Love it! At least with an open balcony we can grow a few salad ingredients. And although I like the results of gardening I usually feel it is a bit like outdoor housework. I think one thing hubby had in mind was being able to leave "something" for the children, but they are all well and truly self sufficient now and all of them would agree we should look after ourselves and not have a care for their future. The world is theirs now, I happily hand the torch on. And I guess we'll leave them "real estate" not money!
We are in that inside corner. The balcony looks right down on a rooftop garden below, which as residents we'll have access to, although we don't do the gardening, at least I don't think so. Only third floor, so will be able to maintain fitness by using stairs coming and going (two flights). I'm sure I get at least 1000 steps a day in the house just going up and downstairs. We looked at 3- bedroom unit higher up, on the front slope, but hated the way they'd done it up inside, it was over half a million dollars and not that nice. And another two bedroom, but it was much too small and dark although beautifully done up and we both liked it. This particular one is nearly as large as the three bedroom and although it needs work we'll be able to get it as we like it. It's the journey between here and there which is scary. And the waiting while we get all the legal and financial ducks in a row before we can get in there and start ripping out old carpet for example!
And, so far, no death taxes!
When my mother moved into a condominium there was a patch in front of the building facing the road with the usual evergreen stuff. She asked permission to look after it as her flat had no balcony - so silly as her view was south over the River Tay - and that satisfied her desire to have her hands in soil without being tied to it. She planted flowers as well - it made it much more pleasing to come home to.
I believe moving is on the list of top10 stressors. Of course you are grieving your lovely home that you've put so much of yourself into. But new adventures await and getting it done top to bottom means you won't have to continually be working on something. But with pmr I find I get overwhelmed very easily and I think that's where you are ❤️
There again, if he lets you and the children make most of the decisions, it saves you and him arguing over colour schemes and bath taps!
Encourage the 'children' to have a word with him about putting his hand in his pocket and not putting you under so much stress re finances!
I have a cousin - a single male - who didn't spend much money all his working life - just accumulated it. Now, at 70 he's going on holidays all over the world and said that phrase "There are no pockets in shrouds"! Good for him - at last!
Once you are in, I hope things settle down for you both and you'll be able to visit your son to see how the garden is doing.
It was funny this morning. I showed him the slate look flooring (Marmoleum, eco-friendly choice) and what was his response? We might like it but what would a future buyer think? God help me. We haven't even started and he's already thinking about resale value - which I hope will be the kids' problem, not ours! With a twenty five year warranty and easy cleaning it's a lot better choice than the pale yellowish wall to wall carpet we have to remove.
Any future buyer will almost certainly do what you are doing. Anyone who goes to a lot of effort thinking of selling their property in x years time and not using it themselves now is in cloud cuckoo land. Does he want to go out on the street and do a market research survey and then choose what a majority approved of?
I will see sunsets, but the main view is across water to the larger part of the city opposite, so lots of light pollution. Have managed to catch sight of Mars the last little while though, and expect that bright objects will be visible. Not like being in the country though. Last year my daughter took us to a dark sky site and we had a great view of the Milky Way and I saw the Andromeda galaxy. But even that wasn't as spectacular as the dark night skies of my childhood.
I will, but as things are now, one of the features we love about our humble house is as you stand at the kitchen sink washing the dishes you look right out into the garden. In the condo I'll be looking at a tiled backsplash. Not that one spends all day at the kitchen sink, but you do spend time there every day and it's interesting how much pleasure you can get from having a nice view while doing a dull chore.
When we redid our kitchen years ago I painted a panel of eight tiles to go above the stove. I actually did two different designs. The one I used looks like an Islamic style mosaic. But I also did a picture of bird of paradise flowers, never used. If it fits in the space above the sink in the new place then It could go there. And in the future if we get tired of it we (or future owners) could always scrape the picture off as it's only been baked on in the oven.
I am 100% with Rugger on this one! Having a pain in the neck grumbling husband is WAY better than one who wants to make the decisions "with" you ... you decide it all! blinds are definitely the way to go rather than curtains I think!! And it all sounds LOVELY and I am so envious as I plow through this WAY too big for us.. but kids visit from abroad..house!!!! Too much STUFF. Oh to be moving into a smaller new place!! Your kids sound terrific. (And husband sounds familiar.)
We decided on small - on the grounds that that and paying for a hotel room or appartment if we had too many visitors or they weren't happy playing sardines was cheaper than big and too much to look after. It has worked fine so far - because the kids aren't able to come a lot and they stay with us. Cooking is basic - and we eat out so they get their Germanic favourites. I don't do Wienerschnitzel - the village restaurants do it so much better!
Well the new excitement has begun although it may not seem like that at the moment. So good that your son is buying your house and you'll be able to visit as much as you want. Don't forget the bite sized steps and trying not to plan it all at once. We move in just over a week. I've moved many times before but this time it is different. I tried always , I think, to be super organised but I am trying to take my own advice of one day at a time and making everything as easy as I can by enlisting family and packing service- not my usual style!!!
Two bathrooms - bliss!
Sounds like great fun! Just buy a new tree! But I appreciate it must be difficult leaving your home... we plan to in a few years and have been here since we got married 41 years ago; I’m sure I will be one of those silly women who goes round saying goodbye to rooms and hugging walls! Memories....
Isn't two bathrooms twice the work to keep clean? A powder room would have been adequate. However in communication with another resident who recently renovated her place, her husband has Parkinson's so they've now got a roll-in shower in one of the bathrooms, and grab bars everywhere. Hadn't thought about things like that, so maybe it would be wise to make one of the bathrooms fully accessible while we're at it. My head is spinning. However it is quite fun looking at new lighting on line, and getting ideas for window coverings, and that kind of thing. Have chosen the flooring, not the colour yet as we need to get samples. Marmoleum, a new (to me) version which looks like stone.
Strangely enough, and happily, despite the hot weather which for a while seemed to be making my osteoarthritis act up, I've been relatively well the last few days, and seem to have successfully landed at 1.5 mg pred. Fingers crossed this is good, as it's taken over a year to get back here since last year's flare.
Know just how you feel. We are moving today and I managed from 7 until 1pm when I found myself walking round in circles. My lovely daughter, who is helping us move told me I had to go off to her house and have sine lunch and a rest. Feel guilty but it’s necessary so I can carry on for the rest of the day. Take care of yourself.