Have found that sometimes just the work in thinking & putting it in words is enough for me! It's done the job brilliantly thanks to the forum. A tribute to all the abandoned posts out there! Can't be the only surely! ATB
Sometimes it's Not About That Post! : Have found... - PMRGCAuk
Sometimes it's Not About That Post!
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Yep, Pepperdoggie 
I agree - getting our thoughts, feelings, questions and experiences 'out there' in a safe and trusted community (virtual or physical) is known to be a very valuable part the therapeutic / healing process in many contexts 
MB
p.s. lovely picture of nature its best..
in reply to markbenjamin57
Even if that final post does't make the send button. We have burned our way through the emotion of the moment & that really helps. Fine expression from yourself Mark.
Beautiful photo! : )
in reply to
Can't take the credit Melissa. The Mrs takes the photos.I'm just the gardener! It's Clematis Montana "Broughton Star".
CT-5012 in reply to
Takes the two of you to make a good photo 😁
in reply to CT-5012
Very true. As long as we both don't try & do the same thing ehh!!
Rimmy in reply to
Love this plant - unfortunately not the kind that would take to the climactic conditions here where it can be very dry and hot at times - sometimes i look at what can be grown in European gardens and just sigh - even if OZ does have some wonderful native plants and wildflowers !
Rimmy
in reply to Rimmy
You have beautiful native plants that we can't grow well here Rimmy. Quite right about climatic conditions. These Clematis like their roots cool & damp. This one is North facing too. Have to be careful all the flowers don't end up over the fence next door chasing the sun! Very easy to propagate & maintain.
Hollyseden in reply to
I have the bog standard but lovely Clematis Montana. It does escape over our fence and our neighbour loves the splash of colour it gives to his rather sad garden
in reply to
Amazing!!!!
Very good point Pepperdoggie, it also spares the nearest and dearest some of the barrage of it all. Mind you I am still curious to read them all, that part is therapeutic for me too. When you feel just blerg, someone articulate often puts it into words. I like the “ I’m feeling good today ones” the angry ones and the sad ones. I especially like the off piste riffs that happen spontaneously. I really want to know what you delete now flower pot man?😆
in reply to SheffieldJane
Ahh! Slobber Dob Slobber Dob. WEEEEEEEED!
SheffieldJane in reply to
😂 quite!
Hollyseden in reply to
😂🤣😂🌱🌷
in reply to SheffieldJane
Ahhhhh, but therein lies the rub... In this brave, new, crazy world where most everything is an on-line social medium source... it presents us with a conundrum.
Is it my responsibility (as the writer) to control, monitor, and self restrict my on-line, written musings? Or is it the responsibility of the "potential" reader(s) to choose/control what they read, respond, react to?
Now... forget all this rubbish, go have a ball and get you some Satisfaction!!!!! ; )
SheffieldJane in reply to
Wild horses wouldn’t drag me away.
in reply to SheffieldJane
Well, you are but a Honky Tonk Woman!
SheffieldJane in reply to
She’s a Rainbow ( you). 🌈
Sorry to interject in this Stony conversation SJ and Melissa - but - Until she's 'Out of Control' (one of my favs !!).
Torn and frayed! ( totally).
Sooooo Pepperdoggie... like Insight329, who thought my Post was about her return to the site, after being on holiday... the "insecure" me (and YES, stop laughing! I have an insecure child side!!!!) is now wondering if your post was a subliminal message/reminder to "ME," that I am not obliged to post my every innermost thought and feeling here on this site? It's okay... I have broad shoulders, you can tell me, I can take it! : O
Now clematis was something I desperately wanted to succeed in a couple of my gardens - no, they refused to comply. It didn't matter what I did they just withered and died...
in reply to PMRpro
Many different species PMR pro. Some, hot-housed short lasting hybrids! Most don't like their roots hot. Often planted next to building walls with all sorts of crap in the soil. Never fed & watered! Seem to remember Geoff Hamilton saying they needed a gallon of water a week!
teesher in reply to
Melissa I for one, really enjoy reading all your posts, especially the rants. I think PMR makes us feel isolated and ultra sensitive. This forum is the only place where others totally get this condition. I also think there are several who read it and don't post, which is also fine. We all get valuable information and support, and that's all that matters. x
in reply to teesher
Thank you... I really appreciate that.
However, I do sometimes (sincerely ) wonder if I need to just just "shut the hell up," and go get a life... then I remember, "Ahhh, this... PMR/GCA, ranting, contemplating, bitching, moaning, putting my two cents in... this is is my life now."
However to Pepperdoggie's point, I don't have to share my EVERY thought!
SheffieldJane in reply to
Snap! and as my children say to me “ It’s not all about you mum”. Ouch!
in reply to SheffieldJane
Alas.... it is indeed, NOT all about me. 👏🏼 Thank goodness! Nobody needs that pressure. 😱
Have you seen the rash of celebrity suicides lately.... WTF? Apparently,
(as we knew) money, fame, good health, celebrity-ism... can't buy you happiness. Sad.
SheffieldJane in reply to
My thoughts exactly and here we are beavering away with no money or fame, fat backs and moon faces. Depression and despair do not discriminate. The world is in a state of flux.
in reply to
No way a subliminal message to you Melissa. I ain't that suptle. ( Think. Ossie Osbourne without the musical talent!!) Now if you want to talk about pred. parenoia I'm you're man!
SheffieldJane in reply to
Men always play the simple soul card though, mine do anyway.
Seriously, Pred does make you paranoid, so it’s not just me then - or is it just me?
in reply to SheffieldJane
Jane from experience pred. changed my emotional responses. Loosend control of fears & magnified them. For me but not everyone it seems! Over analysed most of my life. I have seen it in other family members too. "The simple soul card game!!" Too sharp for me that one. Must be a Northern thing!!
SheffieldJane in reply to
It’s only when I am being deep or over analysing that I get met with an amused one dimensional response from my husband in particular. I thought you were doing that with your “too subtle” remark. It seems you weren’t and you are not alone in finding me rather hard to fathom today, I haven’t been on anybody’s wavelength. I think I’ve got ‘trouble’ stamped on my forehead. Soz. I’m not really Northern, well Scottish with bits of Derbyshire. So I suppose it is.......you see. I’m going to bed before I lose anymore friends.
in reply to SheffieldJane
You're ok. Jane. Amazing journey's our own minds can take us on! Pre. & post Pred.
SheffieldJane in reply to
You’ve got that right!
Beautiful! Yes I think we all go through the "must" post, could have said that but then adequately covered already, or if I'm honest I can't be bothered! - too much on, too tired or not feeling up to it. There is a lot of effort that goes into this site by some and we all benefit from it. Others are happy just to read and that's fine too, others contribute very succinct helpful info. Everyone is important and what we have and are very fortunate to have at the end of the day is a very helpful and supportive site.
in reply to Jackoh
Spot on Jackoh.
I have many an abandoned post. Sometimes felt too bad but do agree it did help. Lovely picture and with the foxglove too🌺
in reply to bunnymom
Thanks. All finding a way through we are.
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In general though: do you actually POST or never get to clicking Post/ I have a friend on another forum for whom I often get a notification but by the time I get there it has disappeared! Sometimes she just leaves it at that with a sense of release but sometimes the post does appear later - edited probably, but basically the same.
Sometimes the site does that for me - thankfully. The more emotion in my finger tip the more likely my post disappears.
Mysterious world that one!! Point I was making was how benefical it is to express emotions in writing & sometimes you can let them go! I'm certainly not robotic on this exchange!
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