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Upon parking up a woman said to the man in the next vehicle, ”You don't look disabled.” He took his hat off to reveal his lack of hair and said...”The intensive chemo makes every part of my body hurt; I struggle to catch my breath; I am not entitled to benefits due to my savings that I have reserved for my family when I die as my cancer is terminal; so I am using my blue badge for all its worth as this country is on it’s a**e and it's the only thing they have decided a dying man is entitled to! (Poor woman didn't know where to look.)

Having a blue badge myself I parked adjacent to her car,whereupon she said to me, "well, YOU look perfectly normal to me!", as I turned to look at her and said, very seriously, "Maybe that's part of the problem, you can't see what's lurking under my shell." The look on her face was priceless!

“Just because YOU can't SEE it doesn't mean it doesn't exist! Until you have walked in our shoes and have felt the pain we feel, keep your cruel comments and opinions to yourself.” Ignorant people can be so cruel!!

Hard to explain to someone who has no clue. It's a daily struggle being in pain or feeling sick on the inside while you look fine on the outside. If you or someone you know has an invisible illness (from Angina to Zika) you will know what I mean. Never judge.

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Woodiesmum

I know exactly how you feel x I was in a disabled bay but drove a van merc ( it was an old one lol ) but so light to drive anyway this man started screaming abuse at me . I was getting out the van with my stick and was took back with shock and it made me feel so vulnerable. I wish I had took his number and reported him to the police . I hope he or his family never walk in my shoes as I can't be a hater . So I send love and hope they get it one day x

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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer

I received same on facebook yesterday with a list of illnesses - surprising PMR nor GCA were mentioned! - so I made a comment saying they should be with a link to the charity's web page. Doubt if many will re-act but I tried!

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violetsnowdrop in reply to DorsetLady

Hi DL

That was my friend whom I was accompanying.

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DorsetLadyPMRGCAuk volunteer in reply to violetsnowdrop

My daughter shared it on facebook on Friday, so don't know who shared it with her, but she lives in New Zealand albeit with many U.K. friends! She did clarify that she wasn't involved.

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Doralouise77

I had someone say to me once "well, it must be very easy to get a parking sticker....nothing wrong with you..."...there will always be such people who judge without knowing the facts...

Cheers

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violetsnowdrop in reply to Doralouise77

I often have people say;-"That's not a vehicle for a disabled person" (I have a PT Cruiser). It makes you want to be angry but; I know the car is best for my wife and I because we have better posture; don't have to bend getting into it; it has efficient heating/cooling when required. Biting one's tongue becomes second nature.

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to violetsnowdrop

There have been several articles saying that SUV's and other "tall" vehicles are far better for disabled people because they don't have to climb out of them. Don't get it personally, at barely 5 feet tall I have to climb in - but I do realise I'm in a minority there!

I DO object when I see someone park in a disabled space and sprint into a shop - but my granddaughter has asthma, on a bad day she can't cross the road without wheezing, never mind get any further. But most of the time, if not actually moving, she looks very healthy. People need telling some home truths sometimes!

Er - do tell me, did she say why a PT Cruiser isn't a car for a disabled person? Seemed like a perfectly ordinary car to me when we were given one as a hire car in the USA.

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violetsnowdrop in reply to PMRpro

Firstly, I don't have to fold myself down as I do in a car-I can just slide DOWN onto the seat (Sorry?!); secondly, it's bright metallic blue and has a lot of chrome and tow bar fitted - the customisation was done by a previous owner (honest); AND finally- it was just one more thing to moan about!

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PMRproAmbassador in reply to violetsnowdrop

Ah - the "disabled people aren't normal people" mindset...

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