My latest update on my health and employment situation.Gutted and tired due to my husbands action.Wishing I was on holiday.

[Nicky-Richards]

Morning all,sorry it's been a long time in writing but I've been so busy.I am now working full-time,I am getting offers of work from the agencies still and if I wanted too I could work 7 days a week if I wanted to.Unfortunately I'm feeling tired and headachy.I'm due to have a blood test oin September and a vitamin b 12 injection. It will be interesting to find out my levels. I haven't even had to read your posts.My mother in law is in hospital and my husband cancelled my holiday but he us in Zante at the moment with my youngest son.It's nice to sleep all night in bed and not get disturbed.I slept lightly and I'd wake up at 5am every day.

[Ruthi]

Remind me - why do you stay with him? Sorry to put it so baldly - but its difficult to understand as an outsider.

And it sounds like you need more frequent B12 injections.

[Nicky-Richards in reply to Ruthi]

To be honest with you I don't know,He is regretting it now but in his mind,no matter where I work,I wouldn't be entitled to holiday,he felt he was being practical at the time.He's worried about money,so am I .

[Nicky-Richards in reply to Nicky-Richards]

I had the 6 a couple of months ago,I was putting it down to work as I'm doing a lot and dealing with mother in law,I'm due first week in September ,I do have an absorption problem.

[Ruthi in reply to Nicky-Richards]

But not worried enough to cancel his own holiday? And I presume he didn't consult you? - from the way you describe it.

Each marriage works by its own rules, and we none of us have the right to judge. But the way you describe it he calls all the shots - and you let him. If that is what you want, then that is fine. Is it fine with you?

When we post on a board like this, which is pretty well anonymous, we have the freedom to say things that we might find hard to say out loud to anyone - even a marriage guidance counsellor. I'm just reflecting back what you have been saying, in one way or another, for a while. I find it hard to read, having come out of an emotionally abusive relationship, but I may be putting my own interpretation on what you have been writing. If so I apologise for hanging my stuff on you!

Here's an article to help you decide if your marriage is OK

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[Foggyme Administrator]

Hi Nicky-Richards. Firstly, please can I say how pleased I am that you managed to get another job. But disappointed that you're still struggling with your health.

It does sound like you perhaps need more frequent B12 injections...unless something else is going on health wise?

Hope the blood test in September is not for B12 levels, since these will be high because you have been receiving B12 injections. GP's are notorious for stopping injections in the mistaken belief that high levels mean you don't need it anymore. You still have symptoms, all the guidelines state treat the symptoms (not the blood results) so I sincerely hope that your GP knows this (many don't).

Speaking as someone who is married to a thoroughly decent man, I am appalled that your husband has gone on holiday with your son, having cancelled your holiday (probably the person most in need of a holiday, in fact).

I know that money gets tight, at times, and when this has been the case for us, we've either done something cheaper so all could join in, or just had a stay-at-home break.

I know many people do things in their own way, especially where relationships are concerned. And if this suits you (which reading your past post, I don't think it does), then that's okay.

Really, what I want to say to you most, is that I think you deserved (and deserve) better 😀. And I wish better for you.

Other than that it's obviously really hard to comment on someone else's affairs....but I wish you better in everything.

Take care and keep posting xx

[Nicky-Richards in reply to Foggyme]

Thank you,last time I spoke to the GP,she said these things take time

[Jose651]

Hi Nicky-Richards,

The thing that struck me in your post is, "It's nice to sleep all night in bed and not get disturbed."

Hubby going on holidays could be a blessing in disguise. Sometimes things happen for a reason.

Being on your own, or without hubby around could be just the catalyst for you to take action to get some sort of control in your life .

This time apart may show you that you are happier on your own, or if you feel that you want to stay together, that you need to make some robust changes.

Sleep well N-R ( undisturbed ) lol

J x

By the way, there is a good post on TUK

( within HU ) today that may be of interest to you Nicky." Controlling Relationships." Some powerful replies.

J

[Nicky-Richards in reply to Jose651]

Thank you,let's hope he's okay when he returns

[Foggyme Administrator in reply to Nicky-Richards]

Nicky-Richards...I would be more concerned that you are okay when he returns 😀.

Take very good care xx

[Nicky-Richards in reply to Foggyme]

Thank you,I will

[Nicky-Richards in reply to Nicky-Richards]

He's okay at the moment, I've tried to make an appointment for my next booster, I've got to wait til next Friday,I'm feeling more tired and achey now.I was speaking to my colleague today,she suffers from vitamin b12 deficiency too.

[Nicky-Richards]

I managed to get an appointment for today and had my b12 injection as it was due this week,I'm having a blood test next week

[Jose651 in reply to Nicky-Richards]

That's good Nicky,

Hope you will feel the good of it. If you want other members to see how you are getting on, and many will be interested, you would need to write a new post.

The only reason that I can see this new one today, is because I clicked FOLLOW under your initial post 13 days ago. I then see all replies to that post 👍

J x

[Nicky-Richards in reply to Jose651]

Thanks Jose,I will