Some very sound advice.....

[Bananas5]

'My advice to other disabled people would be, concentrate on things your disability doesn't prevent you doing well, and don't regret the things it interferes with. Don't be disabled in spirit as well as physically.'" Stephen Hawkings.

This has helped me through the last 30 years. Don't compare what you have now with what you had in the past. The past is exactly that...past, gone, over. Yes use that knowledge of life you have gained but adapt to your new life. It can be, and is, rewarding in so many different ways.

And never say 'can't.'

Pat x

[katieoxo60]

That is right Paton, even if disabled some of us still have a lot to give. Adapting to disability is about what the person can do not what they can't. The worst thing in life is being made to feel useless and a burden. My motto is I will even with change , change is good too. But on occasions one has to accept defeat, but remember it is gracious to do so. xx

[Bananas5]

Well said Katie.

All people what ever the ability have to deal with their limitations - ours are just different. Even different amongst ourselves.

Pat x

[Boozybird in reply to Bananas5]

Although, I guess Stephen Hawkins has a lot of help....not everyone is so well supported....😳

[Boozybird]

Well said Pat. 😃❤️👍

[Bananas5]

Yes but the theory should be the same. She said!

The worse thing to say with someone suffering depression is 'pull yourself togther'...or you shouldn't be in pin with the mamount of drugs you are taking.

It comes from YOU rather than money paying for a car and driver taking you out somewhere nice.

the fact that you do it is rewarding.

Now where is my Euro millions ticket??

x

[Hidden]

Well said Paton.tho its not always easy when people tell you "cheer up it may never happen" and don't give any consideration as to the reason why

[johnsmith]

The advice of Stephen hawking is both right and wrong.

I have to do things as I have to manage getting the shopping, washing my clothes. I have to concentrate on the things I do not do so well in order to do the things that need to be done.

There is the stage before handling and concluding the bereavement process of loss and the stage after the bereavement process has finished.

During the bereavement process you need to come to terms with the loss so there is a need to acknowledge the loss so here the advice is wrong. After acknowledging the loss and having learnt to re-structure the loss you let the past go and here the advice is correct.

There is a journey where we have to make our own maps. AS the terrain changes so does the map.

I have learnt: "If one door closes so another door opens. You just have to find the open door."

[Hidden]

Pat

Agree with you there.

It is not what you could do, it is what you can do now.

Look at life in a positive way, we are all on a one way journey, we cannot go back and start again, if that could be done life would be all learning, we would never make errors

because we would put all right before we did anything wrong. I THINK ??.

BOB

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Pain is a very personal experience.

BOB

[nedd]

Easier said than done.

I constantly remind myself to accept and go with the flow.

I must be a perverse sod I often find myself swimming against the tide. It must be why I am exhausted most if the time.

Should you spot me I will be waving not drowning.

Thanks for the reminder.