After a three year battle with OC, my Mum sadly passed away two weeks ago. Without the support of this group, who helped me see this from a different perspective, I can say I really would have struggled to come to terms with what has happened. So a big thank you to all that have given me advice and help. Her funeral was an occasion of fond memories and celebration of her life, not at all what I had expected and a beautiful day to remember her by.
One thing I would like to add is, I wish my Mum had written me a letter before she became too ill, that would have brought me such comfort to have something hand written to me personally. As heart wrenching as it is, those that we leave behind need comfort in a loved ones passing. A loving letter can offer that, with words of encouragement for the future of your loved ones. I really wish you all the best for your difficult journeys ahead, and hope and pray that one day this awful disease has a cure. Wishing you all well
Lx
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Hello LI am so sorry to hear about your Mum. I hope that you and your family continue to support each other while you grieve. You are so right about writing something down but even if you don’t have that, your Mum’s voice, her laugh and all your memories will be with you forever xx
My deepest Sympathies to you & all your family on the passing of your mum. I know you struggled sometimes to understand the decisions your mum made with regards to her treatment along the way but this is a very hard disease to deal with & some people deal with it well & others find it very difficult. I have two young adult daughters & I hope to be around to see them married one day but if down the line I run out of treatments I will be leaving them both letters telling them how much I loved them & wanted to be around on there special day. It's possible your mum found it too heartbreaking to do this & couldn't cope with knowing she wouldn't be around to share more joyful memories with you & your family. Best of luck & enjoy making wonderful memories with your own family now & in the future Xx
Sending much love at such a sad time for you. And thank you for your advice. As a Mum of a 23 year old and a 20- turning 21 year old this week- hearing things from your perspective is so valuable. X
I'm so very sorry to hear your sad news. This must be a very difficult time for you and your family.I'm glad you were able to get support and some comfort from this group. It helps to know you're not alone doesn't it?
Thank you for letting us know about mum and thank you for the advice about letters.
My mum died of ovarian cancer too nearly 20 years ago and thinking about it yes, I would have really cherished a letter from her .
So sorry for your loss. Thank you. I've started to write letters to my loved ones. It is hard but I'm hoping as you say it may help them when I'm home take care. Xxx
Sorry for the loss of your precious Mum. Sending you love and great advice about the letters l wrote my first in 2017 and another in 2019 both times when l thought my luck had run out. Think of your good times no doubt youhad plenty together. Sending love SheilaFxxx
I am saddened to hear that you have lost your mother and offer my sincere condolences. I have one child, a daughter. I will take your advice to heart and prepare a special letter for her that I hope will afford her some comfort in the coming years. Thank you for you kind advice and God bless. Sashay
Thank you for your post. It is something I have thought of doing for my children and Grandchildren but keep putting it off as though 'not doing it is somehow going to give me some longevity. In truth I suppose it's something we should all consider even without a diagnosis. To sit alongside a will maybe. Truth is we are all different in our ways of dealing with this horrible disease and it's outcomes that's fine.
In the absence of a letter find comfort in your happy memories of your Mum. Get a candle that you only light when you want to sit and remember her and have lit on special occasions so her light is with you. Light it while looking at photos or videos etc. Take comfort from the thought she is no longer suffering too.She is at peace.
I made a movie with lots of photos old and newer to a lovely hymn called “I watch the sunrise” By Kathryn Crosweller chosen by my Mum’s Sister. I played it after her burial to her friends and our family. I thought it a fitting tribute. I felt I’d done her life proud. This is something I’ll have forever to remind me of her.
I’m so sorry about your mother’s death. It was really sweet of you to let us know and to give us that feedback about leaving such a letter. I will plan on that when the time comes. Xx
So sorry for the loss of your mom. It’s nice to know that she had support from everyone through her journey with ovarian cancer. Sending my love, Donna US.
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