Hello all you lovlies. I hope that you are all feeling well and happy.
I have taken loads of photos whilst being in merry England but I think that this one sums up our family. I took the same one 2 years ago when little Max was born. We do daft things like that. Max is now 1yr 9mths and a right little sausage, just like his daddy was. It's sad that we don't see him often but as he gets older he'll be able to remember us more. Also met our new great-great nephew whilst here. The family tree continues to grow steadily. Should have flown home today but France is on strike - again - so stuck until Sunday. More time with the family though so nothing lost. Have put on shed loads of weight. Everything is tight. Children think it's good but I've got used to being back to my teenage weight and chucked all my fat clothes out a while back.
Put the wheels in motion for my burial plot, just up the road from our number 2 son. Changed my mind on location and am happy with my choice now. Pretty little church with well tended graveyard. Sort of gave me some peace inside. I'll fight tooth and nail to fend off the inevitable so it's not giving up. The vicar said that I am brave. Not at all. Just realistic and although I'm not religious or have a faith I can't be buried in the back garden so will respect the church. It's the after party that will reflect how I lived my life and I hope everyone will celebrate and not feel too sad. I've told the vicar this and maybe because it's a woman she understood and didn't get offended. After all, none of us know what's on the other side. If I get the chance then I'll let you know.
Take care folks. Love Kryssy xxxxx
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Hi Kryssy, It is a lovely family photo glad you had a nice time.
I find it hard to read about planning our funerals but I know that I will have to I would prefer to organize it then leave it to my girls, I have talk about this I want to be cremated it's up to them were they scatter my ashes, I did say not in the ocean I'm scared of sharks and do not throw me off a cliff as I'm scared of heights.
Lets hope it's a very very long time before both of us need to face this.
I hope so too Lorraine but as we were over in UK we thought it best to start the process. It's like making a will. Get around to it but should be done whatever the circumstances. I'll get around to the will eventually. Funny how we think about afterwards as if we were still around. My biggest fear is fire so cremation is not an option for me. In the little churchyard I've chosen there is a family of crows nearby and the noise is terrible. I said that I didn't know if I could put up with that all day before realising I wouldn't flipping hear it - or would I? Who knows? It was important I wasn't buried in France as none of the family would visit me. My youngest said, with tongue in cheek, that he's not coming on my birthday as it will be December and flipping cold. Kids ay!! xxxx
What a lovely photo, the dog was the only one posing and staying still
Brilliant photo, Kryssy. So glad you’ve had a good visit and have your plot lined up. I think I’d go for cremation, and leave it to my family whether they wanted to keep me on the mantelpiece or scatter me around somewhere...
Thank you Vicki. I prefer worm food. Frightened of fire and knowing my luck I'd fall off the mantle piece and end up having to be hoovered up from the carpet.... xx
Lovely photo Kryssy! The French are a bugger for striking - can't help thinking the British should be a bit more pro-active on that front from time to time mind you. But at least you got more time with your family! Lots of love from Leipzig xxx
What a great photo! Hey, I'm with you on the preparing for the inevitable Kryssy - anything for peace of mind. May it be a long time off tho! Enjoy your bonus time with the family. Safe journey home. Sandra x
Great photo--so nice you can all joke in unison! Love that you say you are all bonkers! And true--a very good dog to pose so well. I understand the idea of taking care of things so your kids don't have to but it is hard to read about picking a plot. Enjoy the visit and maybe the strike was in effect so you could spend a little extra time with your family
To be totally honest, before we left for UK I was crying almost every day at the thought of sorting out my forever place but once I chose the church and walked around and took lots of photos and listened to the crows (could have done without the crows) and stepped inside the little church, I felt at peace. We pass the church almost every day whilst we are here and I smile knowing that one day I'll be so close to the family (most of them) and that they will take care of me while I sleep. One day, hopefully a long time afterwards, my hubby will join me and we'll be together again forever. Who'd have thought it? Certainly not me. I thought I would be so sad but the sadness has gone completely. Maybe it's my Irish background - I don't know.
I couldn't have left things for hubby and the boys to sort out. I have the opportunity and time to sort things. Some people don't have that luxury. They leave for work or for school and just don't come home. That is far worse than what I have.
Thank you for your kind words about my family. I'm so proud of them and always look at my sons and think, "I made those wonderful human beings - with just a little help from hubby". Helping them grow from little scraps of humanity into exceptional, caring, loving men was the best time of my life. xxxx
Ah Kryssy--you say it all so well. I agree--trying also not to leave anything for them to do although I am hoping to be around for some time. But we updated wills, I did a living will, we talked about other uncomfortable things because I believe its always better when things are good to do that. Easier for all to think its far into the future.
I feel the same about my two boys. Just the nicest kids (men) and we feel so lucky they turned out as they did (OK we or I will take some credit there).
I am glad you are not sad and glad you can enjoy all that you are. You look quite thin so I wouldn't worry about things feeling a bit tight---maybe you needed a bit of extra weight! You do look great and I enjoy looking at that picture! oxox
I’m so pleased you’ve sorted your plot. Lots of people pre-book years in advance. Is there room for Hubby too? We had to add plot number to our wills along with everything else. Who’d have thought dying involved so much paperwork lol
Today is the first day I’ve started to feel half normal (careful with the jokes lol)
Hi sweetie. Didn't you have t a loverlly time the week you went to Yarmouth. Just like the song... I hope it did you the power of good. Love the photos on FB.
We've been chilling this extra time in Angleterre as I've been quite tired to be honest and the nose bleeds are becoming a nuisance now. Funny how three weeks after the first caelyx how different side effects come along. Still got my hair though and I think it's started to grow faster. Really curly too. Never had that before. I've been enjoying myself training up our son's Collie, Riley. He's the normal one in the photo. He can already do amazing stuff but my son couldn't get him to play dead. I did it in 3 takes - and multiple treats. Today I've worked out a little routine for him that he's following me like a mugger and I turn and shoot him dead. Mum and dad will be very impressed I hope. I've tried the "shy" trick and the "cross paws" trick and he just keeps playing dead Too much in one day hubby says. Probably right.
Our box of stuff has just been collected to go back to France so if they cancel the flight again this Sunday then heads will roll as I will miss my blood tests, onc visit and chemo and mama won't be pleased.
Such a shame we didn't get to meet up but we'll be back in August so a chance then I hope. Until then, you take good care of yourself Missy. I intend to do the same and will try not to dwell on the inevitable for me. Having surveyed my plot I feel much better. I would like "Now I know!" on my gravestone and when hubby joins me he wants, "So do I". Do you think the rev will allow it? Rhetorical question....
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