Maryblackcat

I am so sad to tell you all that my wonderful best friend Maryblackcat passed away on 10th December. Some of you may recall she had a radical operation in August but relapsed in October. Mary deteriorated very quickly and passed away in the her own bed in the home we shared for 15 years. This was her final wish.

Mary was the most wonderful friend you could ever wish for, a beautiful soul indeed. Our loss is only eased by the full life she lived and the complete integrity, positivity and spirit she showed in everything she did, not least when diagnosed with this terrible disease. She gained great strength from this community during her illness and I thank you all dearly for the support you gave her.

Love Viv xxxx

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Oh Viv I am so sorry...she was one of the ladies I remember clearly from when I first joined ( because of the moniker I think!).

She has her wings now..RIP Maryblackcat. Lyndy xx

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So very very sad to hear this. She seemed such a beautiful soul. May her angels wings fly her high❤️

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I am so very sorry, and so very shocked by this news. I know she had a bad run after surgery but really thought her absence from the board meant she had improved for chemo.

Sending you my condolensences

LA xx

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This is such sad news and Mary will be sadly missed. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and her family. Xx

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My condolences, Viv - Mary connected well with us on this site and her strength was a source of inspiration. Thank you for letting us know.

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Oh. My Darling viv, truly I wish I could find the right words but I am so very very sorry. Please except in their place a cyber hug and tight squeeze. Thanks. For your eloquent post and thinking of us at a time when you must be devastated , please make sure your are looking after yourself, Mary was blessed to have you as we were blessed to have her in our community. God, I,m heartbroken this evening again a beautiful soul snatched by this wicked illness. I hope you can take some comfort as I shall that she had her wish to die in her own bed. My apologies once again for my inability to find the right words, rest in peace Mary. Gentle cyber hugs viv and tight squeeze. Marie..x. X. X

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Rip Mary, thank you for your valued support and I hope viv receives support from those around her

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Dear Viv, its funny (& wonderful) how some people's personality shines through their posts and the way you have described your dear friend Mary was just as she came over on this forum... with great positivity, integrity and spirit. I am so very sorry to hear this news and will be thinking of you and all who loved Mary most. She will be much missed here too.... thank you for letting us know, much love Sx

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So sorry Viv, Mary will be missed by us all. Thanks for telling us

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Adding my condolences to this very sad news.. take heart she no longer feels pain or sadness, it's the loved ones she leaves behind that suffer the most

I find it extraordinary that the contrast of extreme emotions of both happy, positive and difficult to read posts run almost side by side on this forum with acceptance and supportive love

🌈 Janet x

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Viv

I am so sorry to read this but thank you for letting us know. I'm glad she was able to be at home where she wanted to be.

May she rest in peace.

Take care and look after yourself.

Helen

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Viv,

Thanks for letting us know about the lovely Mary.

May she rest in pain free peace.

Dx

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Such sad news.

Judy xx

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Very sad news ❤️

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I am so, so sorry to hear this Viv. Mary really was a beautiful soul, and that came across in all her posts on here. I’m glad you can take comfort in knowing she lived life to the full and was always true to herself. Thank you for taking the time to let us know. Vicki xxx

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Such sad news. I'm so glad to hear she got her final wish xxx

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Such sad news , so very sorry ; all our thoughts are with you . It is dreadful when we lose one of our group . " No man is an Island " and we all share the loss with you .

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Such sad news😢😢😢

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Hi Viv, Thank you for letting us know as sad as it is, yes one more beautiful soul take from her friends on here and her loved ones. She sounds like she was a good friend to you and I'm sure you were to her it's hard to lose that friendship.

I hope Mary rest in peace and do take care of yourself..Lorraine xx

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Really sorry to read about Mary , such a lovely lady. Jo 🌻🌺🌼🌸🌹

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Another of our sisters has got her teal wings. Sorry to hear of this sad news.

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So sorry. Whenever I felt down Mary always posted a comforting answer. RIP beautiful lady 🌼🌼💐💐

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So sorry and shocked to hear this. I know how hopeful Mary was when she finally got a chance to have surgery. 😯

Sending love to you and all who were close to her, I am sure you have some wonderful memories to ease your pain. Xxx

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Our condolenses to you.Take care of yourself.We feel your pain at the loss of one of the lovely ladies on our forum.xx

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I am so sad to hear about Mary. I remember how hopeful she was a few months ago and excited about getting surgery. Before that we talked about the fact that neither of us had surgery . I was so happy for her at the time but then of course came that recurrence way too soon. My deepest sympathy to you Viv and all her family and friends . Mary she Rest In Peace

XXX

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So sorry to hear this sad news which is such a shock. So glad to hear her wishes were carried out. Her strength and positivity shall be missed. Now you must look after yourself. RIP Mary xx

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How very sad. Mary fought to the end but i am sure she is at peace now

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Truly sorry to hear your news. Having recently lost my sister to this disease I know how quickly the condition can deteriorate. Take some comfort in knowing she is free from pain and her suffering has ended. x

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I am so sad for Mary's love ones and that this dreadful disease as claimed another good women's life. I send my sincerest condolences and kindest thoughts to you. LOVE Chris

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Very sorry to hear your sad news, particularly at this time of year. Very best wishes to you.

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Dear Viv

I am desperately sorry to hear this news as I asked if anyone knew how she was doing a week or two ago. She looked so young and the disease seemed to hit her so hard. God bless her and keep her. I am so very sorry for your loss and particularly at this time of year. We shall all remember her with love. Sophia x

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Viv, I am so sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking to lose your best friend, but I am glad she was home where she wanted to be. She shared her strength in her posts and her light shined. Rest and be kind to yourself.

Valerie

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Thank you so very much for your kind and caring messages. It’s comforting to know that Mary was a loved member of the community. I just thought I would share the photo of Mary that we have chosen for the order of service at her funeral tomorrow. It was taken on her 49th birthday, the last healthy birthday she had before she was diagnosed with cancer on the day before her 50th birthday. It’s how I will always remember her – happy, healthy and loving life. Please keep her family and friends in your prayers as we say goodbye xx

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What a beautiful photograph of a lovely lady. I will offer up prayers for her family and friends and of course for yo too Viv xx

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Thanks for the beautiful photo of Mary. I love the black cat dress she is wearing. What a lovely picture for her Order of Service card. Will be thinking of her today. Xxxx Rest in Peace and Joy Mary.

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It’s a beautiful photo of a very beautiful woman taken far too soon. We must keep on fighting this disease while we remember all those women who have lost their lives to it. I will remember her tomorrow too by saying a prayer for her and her family and friends .

XXX

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Sorry to hear your sad news xx

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I am so very sorry to read this. Had no idea as I’ve not been on the site as much and felt a moment of shock reading about Mary. I think someone had asked about her recently. My condolences to you & her loved ones ❤️❤️❤️

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I am so very sorry. I have followed her posts and had not realised that things were not going well. I joined a year ago and she has been one of the wonderful people who have helped me along this journey. Sending much love.

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So very sorry to hear that. Love and thoughts to her family and friends

Love

Wendy xx

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Thank you for letting us know. Rest in peace Mary xx

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Such sad news. Please take care of yourself now Viv and cherish your memories of Mary. X

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Such sad news. I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Take care xxx

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R.I.P. Mary.

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So sorry.

Take care x

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I'm so sorry. I will miss Mary's posts. May she rest in peace and please pass on my condolences to her family and friends

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So sorry and shocked by this sad news . Will miss her caring posts and her positivity . Thinking of you and Mary’s family at this difficult time . You will all be in my thoughts and prayers . Love Kim x

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I’m so shocked to read this. I thought that things were getting better for her.

She will be really missed. Deepest sympathy to her loved ones 💔 xo

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So sorry to hear this news - my condolences to all her family and friends. I am sure she will be greatly missed xx

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I am so sorry to hear this. It is so sad. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Kim xx

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Dear Viv...

Words fail me here. I am so shocked to read this news and can’t get my head around it. I was in really close contact with Mary and we were very close through the forum. I feel shocked and devastated. Especially for you and her family.

She was a ttotally wonderful and loving soul and I will miss her terribly. She made a huge impact on me, especially with her radiant attitude, humour and love for others.

This is really cruel. I’m so so sorry. I hope you are surrounded by loving and supportive people just now.

So much healing love to you and I hope she shines on us all with her twinking smile and knows how much we cared for her.

Nicky xx

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Hi Nicky,

Mary spoke of you on many occasions and was eternally grateful for your help in seeking a second opinion. She was so unlucky to have the cancer return so quickly, yet remained positive to the end. Thanks for your very touching and personal message. Mary was a very peaceful soul at the end. I sincerely hope that things are moving in the right direction for you.

Love Viv xxxx

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Hi Viv

Thank you for your email back. It was nice to hear from someone that was so close to her. I still feel shocked and just hope that you have managed Christmas OK and that you can find some time to celebrate her life and strength and determination.

All my love to you. xx

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Thanks Nicky. Christmas and New Year were hard. We laid Mary to rest back home in Ireland on Friday and I’m now adjusting to life on my own in our home. Determined to stay positive because it’s overwhelmingly what Mary wanted. But it’s hard. Still early days, though. One step at a time.

I really hope your treatment is going well and that your health is much improved.

Take care, love Viv xx

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My health is stable just now which is as good as it gets in this case I think, thank you.

I am so sorry....and truly hope things get a little easier for in time. Losing a loved one is so very hard and your loss will be huge.

I am thinking of you and sending huge love xxx

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Very glad to hear that things are stable for you. Long may it continue to be xx

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I’m so very sorry to hear this sad news, she was a beautiful lady and she’s no longer in pain. I send you my love and we are all here to support you if you need us ❤️Xx Jane

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So desperately sorry to hear this sad news about Mary, She will be much missed on here. This cruel illness wrecks so many lives not just the women but the families and carers who are left heartbroken, I hope you have support around you during this terribly sad time.

Love & cyber hugs

Madeline xx

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Thank you so much for taking the time to leave your fond memories and kind messages. They provide comfort to us all at such a difficult time. I wish you all good health and good times and know Mary would wish you the same xxxx

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Am so sorry....she was very brave to have the op. and give it her best shot....sounds like you have been a really super friend and I am so glad you were there for her at the end. She will be missed so much from this forum....do post yourself if you would like to....love Chris xx

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Viv, I'm having a catch up with News from friends on the site. I'm so very sorry to read the sad news about Mary. Please accept my sincere condolences. My heart goes out to you at this sad time. I wish I had the words to comfort you but my mind has gone blank.

Sending love and a big virtual hug (((((big hug))))), Solange 😊

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