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So my anxiety is in full swing again with the doubts about my marriage.... I don’t know what to do one minute I’m messaging my husband to tell him that I love him then when I’m anxious telling him I don’t know how I feel etc.... is this ocd or do I need to leave him? I just don’t want to make the wrong decision!! In my heart I know I love him and I think the reason I keep feeling the need to break up is to get away from the anxiety? But what if it isn’t and I’m just in denial? Somebody please help this is breaking my heart

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Sallyskins6 years ago

From everything you have said before it sounds as though you know you have chosen the right man, that you love him and that he is supportive and loves you. It is only the OCD that makes you doubt this. It can make people doubt all kinds of things that there is no good reason to doubt. It puts unreasonable niggles into your head and tells you that you don't know your own mind. It's truly horrible.

Resist the temptation to say you don't know how you feel to your husband. Saying it aloud, apart from hurting him, can only reinforce your doubts. I think it is as you say, that getting away from the anxiety is the only reason you want to get away from him. But the OCD would still be with you, and you would have lost what is clearly so important in your life.

A good relationship, which it sounds like you have, a something worth holding onto. That is solid and real, unlike the doubts OCD plants in your head.

I can't remember if you are on medication, but consider giving it a go if you aren't. It can dampen down the worst of the OCD feelings, though it doesn't suit everyone.

G-UK6 years ago

Sorry to hear your not feeling great. I agree sounds like your with the right guy. I have adhd and ocd. I’ve been reading a good book called the happiness trap maybe check it out, helped me expose my thoughts for what they are in many areas, they are just thoughts/stories, some are true some are not, just like a newspaper or watching a film, but they can trigger real feelings which can be scary but also pleasant. Also sounds like your a great person that cares a lot, not a bad thing

RAB8886 years ago

The feelings that people experience are all due to the type of thinking in the moment.

To change the way you feel, you need to change your thoughts

There is a misunderstanding that circumstances cause us to feel a certain way, but all our experience is truthfully 'inside out'

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