Ps I told a ‘friend’ about my struggle and she said that she thinks that it’s because I need to lose weight! 😬
Even more gutted: Ps I told a ‘friend’ about my... - NRAS
Very tempted to say something rude about your friend but I won’t. Unless she has RA I don’t think you need listen to her/him.
Sorry haven’t got a two fingered emoji to send your friend. I’ve gained weight since diagnosis and I can’t shift it . I don’t over eat or eat processed food . I use to be extremely fit and maybe that’s why I just don’t do as much exercise . I never use to sit down always on the go . Now my sofa has an imprint of my ever growing bum.x
What the scooby!!!! Dont know you're friend but we all love you for who you are xxx
If I was you I'd give the so called "friend" a slap....👍 😂 ah some people will never get what RA is all about, my daughter-in-law included, she thinks I'm getting lazy and she was told in no uncertain terms what I thought of her theory .....I haven't heard from her for 2 weeks now 🤔😂
slapping people is not the right thing to do. Speak to others kindly as you would like to be spoken to, it is sad that you upset your daughter in law instead of explaining to her kindly. we cant be angry with other people who don't understand our pain.
First reaction was 'you cow'. Second reaction was to drop her/him like a hot brick because there was no need for rudeness
Thanks. I felt very hurt because she acted like I am allowing myself to be a victim and that I am not helping myself. People are so ignorant about this disease and the effects of the meds we have to take to mitigate the damage. 😬
She's no friend! 😡
I'd be tempted to tell her to step away from the mirror, cheeky so and so, you can do without friends like that!
Unfortunately weight gain is an issue, I added quite a bit because of the condition and meds but decided to do something about it.Exercise has very little impact on weight loss however obviously it is vital to keep as healthy as possible.
I opted for Keto then that naturally led to Intermittent fasting. Its brilliant lost a couple of stone and now off Methotrexate. I was in remission however.
Majority of illness is inflammation, so sugar was my enemy and with that carbs. I will never look back. I feel like a new person.
Yoga is my best arthritis friend and that has been so much easier since the weight loss.
I’ve dramatically reduced sugar in so far as sweets and biscuits (which my husband fills cupboards with! He’s super slim and athletic but I’m much more disciplined as I want to get back in my clothes easily.
It's tricky at first but my hubby and I are doing it together he's had great improvement in his Psoriasis 🙂Still eat 'naughty' things but sugar free choc brownies, lemon cheesecake etc.
It's great eating stuff I thought was bad for me... Basically fat 😁
I don’t think people understand RA. I know I wouldn’t have done before having it myself. Go easy on them and yourself. They’re still your friend and will want the best for you.
Stick a few pins in a voodoo doll, then smile sweetly at them 😘😊😀
I bet she isn't your friend anymore. xxxx
I think I would’ve blown up volcanically ! It’s hard enough to admit you’re struggling without someone telling you you’re not doing enough . 💐
I'm absolutely lost for words!!!😤x
How rude and hurtful. When I was working, the first day back after school holidays, I remember the janitor came up to me and said, omg you have put weight on. I was very anxious coming back to work as it was, this didn’t help. I had been on high dose steroids over the holidays, I had full blown moon face but my body was the same. I ended up all day talking about my moon face to avoid any more comments. Some people open their mouths and let’s their belly rumble. Take care xx
It wasn't the greatest thing she could have said to you but just wondering if maybe she thought she was being helpful. Maybe she is foo upset or embarrassed to contact you. Does she deserve a second chance? We all make mistakes. Only you know how good a friend she is. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face. I hope you can sort this out.
Aw that is not kind 😢 I hope you are ok. Sometimes peoples words are so hurtful.
Don't listen she clearly does not understand. You just be you. Xx
I once had a friend, who had just lost weight, say to me that she was like me before because she had no idea of how fat she looked. So I guess I look even fatter than I think! Why do people say such things?????
People do not realise how cruel they are being, I hope anyway. However, try and avoid that person if you can, they clearly have no understanding of your difficulties!
Not good 😔But it’s down to ignorance, people need educating about what an awful disease this is and how the medications ravage our bodies.
Please don’t take it to heart, difficult I know.
Oh dear. 🙁 I've a tendency for being straight talking yet I'm amazed at the things some people say, and not one to say such thoughtless unhelpful, unkind things.
Problem is impossible for your so called friend to have any idea what you're dealing with.
Try to let it be water off ducks back and hopefully you have other kinder friends?
Is that your ex friend ? Xxxxx
She might of trying to be helpful and some people who are very overweight can struggle more with weight on their joints.Can I suggest you show her in print what rheumatoid arthritis is.Obviously she doesn’t understand and when she does she probably will feel bad and help you in other ways
Cheeky B… Take care x
Sorry to hear that you experienced this! I think some people think they know what you're talking about when you mention RA but they really have no idea! They then make comments which are hurtful or frustrating.I now try to educate people about the condition and meds I take as much as possible.
And who hasn't had a doctor say in response to any medical condition that weight is a factor. It's the universal panacea that impacts on everything from Covid to OA, Diabetis to heart risks and stroke . I think her/his comment was thoughtless and probably silly but is it worth loosing a friend over ? I don't know only you can answer that. But I do disagree that people need educating about RA. Rarely to doctors have any of the conditions they treat and . I never bother to tell anyone I have RA as the medications have given me remission for many years. So my life is normal as far as RA goes, So I'd just say forget her/his comment and enjoy your friendship as we all can say something which was not meant to be rude or offensive and regret as soon as the words said are heard. If you don't want to do that then probably they are not a good enough friend and just move on.
Don't u wish that these people could experience it for a short term just to understand? Not trying to be mean, but some people need to experience something to get it. I suppose it was well intentioned, but really upsetting.
🤨 Where do some people get off making comments about a person weight while they are struggling with pain and reactions to meds. Like everyone on this site. We all love you! Just the way you are whatever package you come in. The person should be wishing you less pain and discomfort. Let her walk a mile in your shoes! Pay her no mind. I just ignore people like that. Not that it wouldn't run through my mind for a while. It is hurtful. 💗
OMG 🤦♀️I wonder if your friend is my mother 😂
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