Just to clear things up

[Sunflower1977]

I'm not stupid and have just been messaged by one of the nrsa people how look after the site saying some people have reported me for nameingpatients that have pasted away at work well for the patient own dignity and the fact I know I am unable to speak about my resident I did use alias and not there real names thanks for all the kind posts but wanted to straighten things out

[Shalf]

Reported you? 😱 Quick of the mark some folk! They could have kindly messaged you and asked.

[Sunflower1977 in reply to Shalf]

Yer well that keyboard warriors for u shalf nothing better to do 😵

[Shalf in reply to Sunflower1977]

I think you are a marvelous person doing what you do. Total respect for you.

Don't worry about childish ' reports'

Xx

[Gigi71]

Oh dear Sunflower, who would have thought that, xxx

[VeronicaF]

that's awful sunflower1977 someone did that behind your back, why couldn't they talk to you yourself, sometimes there is a nagative tone to this site

don't let it upset you or bother you

xx

[Sunflower1977]

It's just everywhere now social media inflicts so much hate in my days you communicated between phone letter or face to face not stabbing in backs on social media site as much as this site helps and stuff there is always those that have to put there ore in (KEYPAD WORRIORS )

[Shalf in reply to Sunflower1977]

Especially on a health forum! It's helping no one to create bad feeling. I at least try to communicate privately. If that fails then ask for support from admin. Hopefully admin will equally have a word with the complainers. This isn't a playground!

Xx

[New50]

Well I haven’t used this site for long and my thoughts currently are it’s really good, it’s helped me because of some helpful information suggestions. And if you did mention names I don’t know who they are and obviously if you’d really publicised it we would all know. Like that’s the top of our daily agenda gossip n nonsense ( sarcastic)

[New50 in reply to New50]

And if gossiping is the sites new name then why have so many people joined to look for answers help and support I should think most have joined because they feel really weird because of this illness which most don’t understand. Hence myself. I know more about gardening sewing n cooking not being ill

[Sunflower1977 in reply to New50]

Thanks for all support some people can't live without gossip x

[dtech]

Bit ridiculous. You are online under a pseudonym. You only used the first name of the person that passed, which may not be their real name anyway. Vague idea of the area you work in. So how on earth you could be accused of going beyond the bounds of decency or personal information is a total mystery. But, as you say, some people have nothing better to do🙄.

[Sunflower1977 in reply to dtech]

True but I have to say I respect the residents I work along side dead or alive to much to use real names now I fell bad for all the lovely comments I had when I posted about them x

[Kalimera57 in reply to Sunflower1977]

We live a super politically correct society which sometimes borders on the absurd. Your post was lovely and heart felt. My daughter did similar work to you and I know how involved she was and how much her work meant to her.

[AnneField]

Pay no attention to them love, some people like nothing better than to get on their high horse. Look at it another way, you have given someone the opportunity to feel smug and superior for a couple of minutes and I'm sure they loved it! What you have done is given that keyboard warrior a moment of happiness in a life which clearly has none. You did a good deed : )

[Sunflower1977 in reply to AnneField]

Love that thank you x

[Mmrr in reply to Sunflower1977]

When people are talking about you , they obviously find you interesting, or perhaps are jealous ? And when talking about you, they are not talking about someone else , so you must be doubly interesting....as my granny used to say !

[Shalf in reply to Mmrr]

I believe this to be very true! Couldn't bear to be that way or non empathetic

[Soreknees2016]

What a very strange thing to do! There was nothing in your post that could have identified the lady who passed, and I’m sure most of us just thought, as I did, that yours is one of the toughest jobs around, especially on top of having your own health issues. Don’t let it get you down.

[Sunflower1977 in reply to Soreknees2016]

Thank you so much x

[mccaffs2014]

I don't what everyone is talking about but it has put me off posting on this site

[AnneField in reply to mccaffs2014]

Aww, I'm sorry you feel like that. I promise you that the vast majority of people here are nice x

[Shalf in reply to mccaffs2014]

Your not alone with that thought/feeling. Most members genuinely make every effort to support, care, advise and understand others. A few ( like school children) run off to report to the teacher rather than trying to resolve issues in a mature way. Don't allow the closed-minded to put you off posting.

[nomoreheels]

Not been on the site since this morning, neither had I seen the post you're referring to so just checked. I wouldn't let it worry you. The post was about how upset you were at someone's passing & how the work you had to do brought on a flare, both relevant. As you've confirmed the name was a pseudonym there's no harm done, it maybe didn't occur to whoever reported you that it wasn't their real name. So please don't be upset, your job is a valuable one but must also be a difficult at such times looking after respite care patients, when the inevitable happens to someone you've formed a relationship with sometimes it helps to talk about it. x

[Rubyroo1]

Oh no - there was nothing wrong with your post , I didn’t reply then , but am sorry for your loss ! You do a difficult job and a very caring one looking after other people’s relatives for them, which I know from friends who have parents in care, is greatly appreciated! I think it’s nice to hear that them passing effects you too, it shows what a caring person you are especially having RA too !

[sylvi]

I must have missed something here. I presume NRAS have removed your post. There are some people who think nothing of making others suffer and doubt themselves.Don't doubt yourself darling these people have nothing better to do than upset people. I have had one of my posts deleted,but for the life of me i can't remember what it was.I have reported someone who had got access to our lovely site for their own agenda and yes it was deleted and they were banned.xxxx

[Fra22-57]

Some people take offence at anything these days ...even themselves. I didn't read it but can only read others comments here and can see how caring you are.I worked in a nursing home and began writing about all the lovely characters living and deceased using pseudonyms .all wrote of my love for them.if you didn't care so much it wouldn't of effected you of that persons passing. Some don't care and only are in it for the money.sounds like the ones who reported you aren't like you.

[nomoreheels]

Just reading Ajay's reply... neither the original post nor this one were locked to Only community members. It might be a good idea to do so given anyone out there could access them as they stand. support.healthunlocked.com/...

[Victoria-NRAS Partner Moderator NRAS]

Hi Sunflower

Thank you for clarifying this and sorry if the reports caused you any upset. Having a post 'reported' doesn't mean anyone is in any trouble. Reporting is just a way for people to let us know if something concerns them, and I think they were just concerned that if someone knew where you work, these people would then be easily identified, even if just a first name was given. Perhaps just putting in brackets (not their real name) would stop people being concerned.

Please can I ask everyone on here though not to judge people or make comments about people who report posts. Calling them 'keyboard warriers' and making assumptions about why something might have upset or concerned them or why they might prefer to alert us rather than PM someone about their post can put people off of reporting, which is a crucial way for people to make us aware of anything of posts and comments they would like us to take a look at. Hope that makes sense.

Kind regards

Victoria

(NRAS)

[Shalf in reply to Victoria-NRAS]

The reporters still could have given the member a bit respect as a mature adult and clarified the situation. Sunflower was better placed to answer. If we are big enough to share experiences on our health, to support others and to make kind suggestions then I'm sure we are big enough to communicate any misunderstandings that may crop up. It's not nice being told you have been reported wether one is in trouble or not. Much time and energy goes into keeping this forum going from this end too with lots of new members. The majority of us are over half a century at the end of the day!

[MaggieSylvie]

Not me. Think you are on the wrong site anyway.

[Lina282]

Hi Sunflower, I didn't read your post it's all reporting about but I am shocked because I thought that everyone who registers on this site they do it as they need advice or just want to hear about others in similar situations and problems.

Actually I don't even understand why don't admin people say straight away that it's not something should be reported...

Since I am here ... not for long....but I got a really positive experience and support from people here. Don't worry I think it's not about you or your post it's all about someone who is very negative, spiteful and will find someone else tomorrow to report...unfortunately!

Be positive and keep posting. 😊 xx

[VeronicaF in reply to Lina282]

mental health goes hand in hand with RA, its good to be able to express emotions as I did regarding the passing of my mum, it helps your health, getting it out is better than bottling it up

its very upsetting when you form a relationship with anyone or anything no matter how long and they pass

you would have to be not be human to not be effected by it

so its a very important part to be able to express your emotions what ever they may be

most of us get that

so don't let it upset you Lina282 and don't leave because of it, much love big hugs xxxxxxxxxxx

[nablur]

That’s harsh. Keep doing what feels right to you and take care in the process. It’s really hard to care for others in the situation you do. Bless you! 🙏🏻❤️

[Hidden]

We have spies among us. 😤 Stick em up!