Holiday

[fizbom]

Why do I feel guilty when I go away?? People tend to look at me as though being disabled you shouldn't have holidays. My family say it's me being paranoid. Truth be told I feel much better when it's warmer. Does anyone else feel like me or am I paranoid?

[allanah]

Oh I feel your guilt!! When I was off work and going away I felt awful. And now I can't work and feel bad too. But the weather makes me well that helps me and my family. So go...enjoy and at the end if the day who cares what anyone says!

Plenty if people with disabilities go on holiday, just look at the airport assistance always busy !

You need and deserve a good life. Health made if harder but go you !!!

[Ruth12345]

I agree. I feel I need to justify going away. I have not managed it yet but planning trip to France in July and I wont say anything in some company. I get pip and feel i have to justify spending money . I spend pip on cleaner and help in house as cant do that ie clean and make my bed, plus the disabled thing. I thought it was just me.

You go and enjoy. ☺

[Gnarli in reply to Ruth12345]

Hi Ruth. I was told that as the majority of French people tend to go on holiday between Bastille day 14th July and 14 August tourist destinations get amazingly expensive and busy. If you can go before or after it tends to be cheaper and less busy.

J

[fizbom]

I'm glad it's not just me!! I'm retired so don't feel guilt on that account but it's the people look at you as if to say well you can't be that bad then!! Thanks for your support xx

[Nettac]

I sometimes get the whole benefits scrounger look. That really does upset me.

[Ruth12345]

Hi Gnarli.

I had no idea about that. We have not gone away during holiday season since children have grown up but this year we have to be away in July as a friends daughter is getting married mid July in Normandy and we are going to wedding. Looks like we are heading for not the best time over there then. I will be asking for hints on travelling nearer time as its the first time ive been on holiday since getting RD.

Thanks for the heads up as we only have half the time booked we were going to drive and book b & b as we went rest of time ( 4 nights) maybe that should be pre booked then?

[AgedCrone in reply to Ruth12345]

Definitely pre book in July...but if anyone should criticise you travelling, ignore them. Although I have had RA for nigh on 20 years I have no visible signs most of the time & people (like neighbours) who don't know me well, regularly make remarks when I go abroad.....I smile sweetly & reply with some inane comment that shuts them up...until the next time!

Basically people who make remarks like this are just envious you appear to have a nicer life than they do. Ignore them & enjoy travel as often & as far as you want !

Aged Crone...in the Canary Islands with wall to wall sunshine!

[Hidden]

I know exactly what you mean. I even had a friend fall out with me over it. She said that because I go away with my husband several times a year that there can't be anything wrong with me. I asked her if I was supposed to live like a hermit because I was disabled and she said she didn't want to have anything to do with me again. We have to plan our holiday very carefully for me to be able to manage it and we usually go in self catering in this country so that if I have a really bad day I can just relax or even stay in bed. For the last two years we have been on a cruise because it is very easy for my husband to push me around in my wheelchair and there is plenty going on onboard (for instance last year I joined the choir). They have trips out when the ship is in port and some of them are what is called Low Activity and mainly consist of just staying on the coach. We could never manage much else, but I have always loved my holidays and don't see why I can't go on them because of my disability. There are lots of disabled people on cruises and there are some firms that arrange holidays for disabled people. Go and enjoy your holiday and just forget the stupid comments.

[allanah in reply to Hidden]

Omg I wasnt aware we all had this problem. Yes the friends mentioned above I try not to see now. I know that I have to book airport assist, have to go to more expensive accessible hotels and compromise...no cliff top hotels for me. How dare they tell us how to live our life' live and rest when you need ! But enjoy x

[fizbom]

I'll do my best we plan well in advance and have only made one mistake with the accommodation hope you enjoy your holidays too x

[allanah]

I got it from friends as I go to festivals! I love them, they make me happy. I get lots of support from the charity Attitude is Everything..... go for it. Life is too short.

[fizbom in reply to allanah]

That statement is so true thanks for your support.