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Thank you all for your kind words


I would like to say a big 'thank you' to all, for your kind words. Sadly my mum passed away yesterday early morning, losing her fight against the most 'horrendous aggressive' cancer which she had only for the last 6-8 weeks, a complete utter blow to us all.

Much love



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Very sad time for you and your family especially at this time off year , and the only blessing is that your mums not suffering any more, take care and god bless xxx

So very sad to hear this news Pamelah. My thoughts are with you at such a sad time.

Take care


My condolences to you and your family.xxxxx


Our thoughts are with you & your family xx

Thinking of you. Its awful when you lose a parent, it doesn't matter what age. I'm glad you had those few weeks with her at the end and that she had her family around her.

My dad died of a sudden heart attack in December 23rd and it was awful. So many things I would like to have said and I hope you managed to get these thoughts to your mum and youre Mum knew how much she was loved x

Christmas will be sad probably but I'm sure your mum wouldnt like you to be sad and would want you and your family to be happy together.

Life is wonderful, grieve, laugh, cry , it all helps the pain.

So sorry to hear this, I have you and your family in my thoughts.

I’m so sorry for your loss, my deepest sympathy to you and your family x

I'm so very sorry Pamela. It's hard but I suppose you've to be thankful if she wasn't going to be able to fight it she didn't suffer long. You never truly prepare for what you're going through just now but your memories of her will give you & those closest to you comfort & maybe a few smiles when you think of her own little ways.

Christmas won't be the same this year, memories of childhood ones & previous Christmasses will jump in & out of your head but one thing's for sure she would want you to go ahead & enjoy it. You'll cry & laugh, we did, our emotions were all over the place but you'll get through it as a family.

Take good care & you know we're here if you need us. x

Pamelah5 in reply to nomoreheels

Thank you nomoreheels, my mum always came to us from xmas eve till after Boxing Day.

This year in autopilot got through the day which was treated basically as a normal day in a different way. Plus knowing mum is still with us till her funeral day, which will be sorted hopefully this week. Spent time with my 2 brothers recently at my mum as need to find certain documents plus where to start in sorting through her things.

Thank you

Best wishes

Pamela xx

Oh bless you.You will feel so lost without her. When you see everyone enjoying their selves this xmas it will be very hard for you.Hope all family will help each other through this terrible time.

When my Mum died I felt like an orphan and a small child again.My lovely husband and sisters helped each other such alot and made us more closer than we already were.

Maybe you can be with your family and chat about all the happy n funny times you had with your mum.It will be hard but talking helps.

Pamelah5 in reply to Fra22-57

Fra22-57 thank you. Strangely that is how I feel a orphan, totally lost.

I am sorry to hear you lost your mum, no time prepares anyone from losing people who are precious in our lives. We do find comfort with our families and friends.

Although mum passed away 6 days before xmas i feel possibly next year might hit me more as would sunken in more plus been gone a year.

We were all close to our mum.

Most dreading saying our last final goodbyes once her day as been arranged but know we will get strength from each other.

Best wishes

Pamela xx

So very sorry to hear about the loss of your dear Mum.

As someone else said above. Talking helps. Sending you many good wishes and cyber hugs at this difficult time.


Hi Pamela

So sorry for your loss. May you be comforted by the people on this forum who are so caring.

It is so hard to lose a parent.


Hi Pamela. My heart goes out to you and your family. It is perhaps a blessing that she didn't suffer too long and that there was time for everyone to say their goodbyes. Huge gentle hugs


Pamelah5 in reply to Gnarli

Sad thing was Jan, my mum was sent away from a particular hospital on 2 occasions saying nothing wrong apart from pneumonia after having X-rays etc which got treated having 2 nurses and a doctor daily taking bloods etc.

My mum had low blood pressure and one particular day fell backwards which was a blessing as she was admitted into another hospital who done the same X-rays and scans to discover she was riddled with cancer which should had been picked up. Had my mum not fallen she would of continued just taking paracetamol's instead of correct medication to make her comfy as all she wanted to do was sleep.

We cannot fault St Thomas's for her treatment making her pain free during her last 4 weeks.

My mum is now pain free but still feel she's with us as we have not said our last goodbyes.

Thank you Jan

Best wishes

Pamela xx

Im sorry to hear youd news. This year is first without my dad, my eldest brother is 70, who lives 300 miles away and not feeling too good, usually comes to us for Cmas and has decided not to come up this year so dont have him or my dad. My brother helped bring me up as im 11 years younger. I understand as he must think if himself. Not the same as you but have some understanding. I would just say look after yourself. Take care

Pamelah5 in reply to Ruth12345


Apologies for late replying. I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Not having your brother with you this year is extremely sad.

Maybe next year your brother will be able to spend xmas with you and family or possibly you might be able to visit your brother.

It is a hard time of year for many of us, but we are all here to help each other throughout the year.

Best wishes Ruth

Sending {hugs}

Pamela xxx

So sorry she is now out of pain x

Simply thinking of you at this horrible time in your life. All my family have died of this horrendous disease and I am the only one left now. It shows no mercy. Take care xxxx

Thank you CloudTreeDrive13,

My heart goes out to you!

My dad died my brother few years ago, one of my brothers is not well same thing.

Life can be so cruel

Take care xxxx

Sorry i am a bit late reading this but i am so sad for you and your family and sending you lots of hugs at this sad time xx

Pamelah5 in reply to beeckey

Thank you beeckley. Next week is my mums funeral. Most dreading ! xx

So sorry. I lost my dad to lung cancer in August of 2016 and it still feels like yesterday. Hugs to you and your family!

Pamelah5 in reply to aramire1

Thank you aramire. We cannot believe our mum is no longer with us.

I am also sorry and sad to hear you lost your dad in 2016.

Pamela xx

It is one of the saddest things to lose your mum but you just have to carry on.I lost my mum 10 years ago and i miss her every single day.I lost my dad and my brother within 6 months of each other and my mum never got over it.I still get very upset about it even just writing about it now but it does get easier lots of hugs to you xx

Pamelah5 in reply to beeckey

Hi Beeckey, apologises for delay in replying, sorry to hear about losing both parents and brother totally understand how you feel.

I've now lost both parents also a brother few years ago. Mums funeral was last Wednesday 24th.

Since last Friday the flu hit me like a bolt on penicillin for chest and throat in bed for 6 days couldn't do nothing.

Hope to recover in time due to ski in couple of weeks. I feel slightly better but get tired.

My mums sister died couple weeks after mum through shock doubt I'll be attending aunties funeral next Tuesday.

Sending you {hugs} and love

Pamela xxx

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